To have asked DP if he had washed his hands after he came in?

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This is the scenario.

DP had been out to a cake shop to buy some gifts for people. I work from home and came down into the kitchen to find him emptying the dishwasher. As I knew he had just that minute come home (because the dog he had been out with came to find me about 30 seconds before), I said hi and then asked “did you wash your hands before you started on the dishwasher?” He realised that he hadn’t, sighed, washed his hands, and carried on, but clearly pissed off. Admittedly he could have been pissed off with himself that he hadn’t washed his hands but I think he was more annoyed with me for asking.

AIBU here? Especially as he hadn’t actually washed his hands!!

More pressing issues to be worked up over - maybe he feels like you're nagging him. Maybe he forgot - he's a grown man. Let it go

You're posting this all because he "sighed" - to be honest you sound a bit high maintenance so no wonder he's sighing - he nipped to the cake shop not stuck his hands down the toilet 🤷‍♀️

Surprised by previous responses. In these times of covid YANBU and he shouldn't have to be reminded. Touching dishes with dirty hands, ugh.

Has everyone forgotten about Covid...

No, not forgotten about covid, how can anyone. Reminded about it all the time.

It's not something I'd get worked up over. Someone nagging me though....

If it was something that just affected him, then fine. But it means all the dishes for all of us have been handled with dirty hands. And yes, I’m worried about COVID. Bleugh.

How much had he emptied? can't you just wash what he has taken out.

It's rather patronising to police another adult's handwashing.

He did half. Yes I can rewash the rest.

YANBU, why would you get outside dirt on lovely clean dishes, even pre-corona.

I also find it when people let their pets lick dirty plates.

I would rewash the rest. In these times, hand hygiene is not really optional. People who catch Covid sometimes don't know how they caught it, but forget the times they have touched surfaces, opened shop doors, tapped in their card number etc.

can't you just wash what he has taken out.

Not really the point of the thread and good wife work advice.

She ask oh if he washed his hand.

He sighed and washed his hands.

End of, why post on here about.

DH and I always try to remember to wash our hands first thing when we get home sometimes he’ll get distracted and forget so I’ll remind him, sometimes I’ll forget he reminds me, neither of us is BU.

@LadyHedgehog

Has everyone forgotten about Covid...

How the bloody hell could we forget ?!

@vodkaredbullgirl

How much had he emptied? can't you just wash what he has taken out.

Why would she

Too much like hard work to re-wash.

He made a mistake, he corrected it when asked even if he did sigh.

We are reminded about covid on here day in day out.

It wouldn't cross my mind to ask my husband if he had washed his hands.

I don't think the fact that you asked him, or that he sighed, is anything to think twice about though.

Never mind covid you should always wash your hands before touching plates or eating after you have been out regardless of covid! There are other illnesses you can get other than covid! What about d&v bugs and common Cold and flu?! Gosh did all these people who jump to mention covid not practice proper go hygiene before covid came out?!
No yanbu! I always say it to my partner and children too

My personal opinion is if this is the one thing in your life to have pissed you off/upset you enough to post a thread then in these times you are a very lucky person! Move on.

Hand washing is very important at the moment. I voted YANBU I am not that hot on hand washing but DH reminds me to wash my hands when I have been out. We have both had Covid so a bit like shutting the barn door after the horse has bolted but he is right. As are you OP.

Unless you're high risk, it seems like a lot of fuss. I wash my hands after the loo, or doing something dirty like the bins, but not every time I go out and come in. I don't expect anyone in the house to either, and I certainly wouldn't be nagging them to do so.