To have asked DP if he had washed his hands after he came in?

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This is the scenario.

DP had been out to a cake shop to buy some gifts for people. I work from home and came down into the kitchen to find him emptying the dishwasher. As I knew he had just that minute come home (because the dog he had been out with came to find me about 30 seconds before), I said hi and then asked “did you wash your hands before you started on the dishwasher?” He realised that he hadn’t, sighed, washed his hands, and carried on, but clearly pissed off. Admittedly he could have been pissed off with himself that he hadn’t washed his hands but I think he was more annoyed with me for asking.

AIBU here? Especially as he hadn’t actually washed his hands!!

@Ilovechinese

Never mind covid you should always wash your hands before touching plates or eating after you have been out regardless of covid! There are other illnesses you can get other than covid! What about d&v bugs and common Cold and flu?! Gosh did all these people who jump to mention covid not practice proper go hygiene before covid came out?! No yanbu! I always say it to my partner and children too

Do you ask your husband if he's washed his hands after going to the loo? I'd be pissed off if another adult treated me like a child.

Can’t say I wash my hands when I come in, and don’t check up on my husband either. Our immune systems are going to be shot if we wash our hands every five minutes.

Given Covid 19, not unreasonable. In normal times, probably being a bit over the top.

DS age 6 barges everyone who hasn't hand washed with 2 minutes of arriving saves me saying it.

The replies along the lines of “if this is all you have to worry about in these times...”

OP is worried about COVID-19 during a pandemic of COVID-19. Not unreasonable.

I’m a clean freak pre covid so that would have irritated me anyway, throw in covid into the mix and 🤮

I’m glad I aren’t married if this is what it ends up like

Are you his mother?

Yabu and treating him like a child.

YANBU hand wash is one of the most important thing you can do to protect against the virus. More important than wearing a mask. I have always washed my hands as if I live in the middle of a pandemic my whole life anyway.

He did half. Yes I can rewash the rest.

Seriously ?

I'm in the 'get a grip' camp.

YABU. He is a grown up, who can make up his own mind about risks.

Unless you are going to drip feed that you have no immunity due to other illnesses, you are being completely over the top in your risk assessment from someone having dared to go outside your house, then unloading the dishwasher, then you using something they emptied some time later and somehow transferring the virus to you.

YAalsoBU to be telling your dh to do things, like he were 5 yrs old.

Reading this thread, I now know why covid is spreading so fast in this country... WASH YOUR HANDS!!!!

Yes, he’s a grown man and she shouldn’t tell him to wash his hands. That’s because she shouldn’t need to! He’s a grown man and should take responsibility for his own hygiene.

YABU. He is a grown up, who can make up his own mind about risks.

It’s risks to everyone though. Is no one else going to use the plates he’s already pulled out of the dishwasher?

Dp said that to me once
I gave him the look, actually said "no, meh, whatever"
He has not policed my hand washing after coming home since and rightly so, it's not his place
Just like it isn't your place to police your dh hand washing.

My DH often asks me if I've washed my hands, or if I washed the vegetables I'm chopping etc. I always have, but I still find it very irritating and patronising. I often sigh when he asks me.

I voted YANBU but it's a minor thing.

I wouldn't actually mind if someone pointed out that I'd forgotten. You'd have to be highly unlucky to catch it from that.