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MLM mother at school gates

32 replies

abitofpeace · 15/12/2020 02:45

I’ve politely declined the overpriced MLM stuff one of the school mums sells. All the other mums buy it, i used to just say hello and have a chat before picking up dcs but now the whole lot of these people seem to be avoiding me. MLM mother doesn’t even look at me, let alone say hello.

AIBU to think this is weird behaviour? I’m a regular poster on here but nc as I don’t want to be recognised.

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sanesndwellafjustedfornow · 15/12/2020 02:58

Don't worry, give it a month and all the other school gate mums will be avoiding her like a dose of the clap and you can return to business as usual

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abitofpeace · 15/12/2020 03:03

This has been going on for a while unfortunately! It’s like these women are all under a spell, I see them with the brochures. It’s almost like this is a sign of their wealth that they can all afford to buy such overpriced crap.

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Thisusernameistakenagain · 15/12/2020 03:21

Yanbu but yabu to think it is odd behaviour from an 'mlmer' it's quite normal for them

FortunesFave · 15/12/2020 03:51

Is she one of those loud types?

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abitofpeace · 15/12/2020 04:05

She’s more the pushy type, she comes across as being very confident and kind. She takes it very personally though if you don’t buy anything

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VetiverAndLavender · 15/12/2020 05:14

Strange that the other women avoid you. If they treat you coldly for nothing more than that, they're no great loss. I'd try to ignore them. Not much you can do if they won't behave normally when you try to initiate conversations.

Onadifferentuniverse · 15/12/2020 06:29

Agree with the poster above.

Hang your head high op. You’re not fake and not a sheep.

The others can’t be great friends to be like this
Nobody needs a friend like that.

Facelikearustytractor · 15/12/2020 06:40

@abitofpeace

This has been going on for a while unfortunately! It’s like these women are all under a spell, I see them with the brochures. It’s almost like this is a sign of their wealth that they can all afford to buy such overpriced crap.
Really? I see it as a sign of gullibility! You can have more money than sense.

It bully selling tactics surely if you are arsey with someone who doesn't buy from them. That's not going to them popular. Just tell them you stick to [brand name] of the product as you find other stuff doesn't agree with you/gives you a bad reaction. Although you shouldn't have to give them reasons to say no.

Zoflorabore · 15/12/2020 06:47

I would turn this situation around in my head and actually see it as a positive thing.

If the MLM peddler is ignoring you- great! Same goes for her cronies. It means you don’t have to keep saying no to them. You’re a confident woman and they don’t like it. These people tend to prey on the weak.

JillofTrades · 15/12/2020 06:56

Yanbu. It's telling that the other women are behaving like sheep and over something so petty about a stupid scam. Do you even want to have friends like these. And as pp said give it time, they tend to turn on each other.b

HomeSliceKnowsBest · 15/12/2020 07:15

Perfect. Enjoy the peace and quiet OP.

LRHRN · 15/12/2020 07:49

I had a similar issue. I was the new mum at school and the cliche of mums wanted me to buy their shite and go on mums nights out with them and I refused, they couldn't understand why I wouldn't. I politely said I couldn't think of anything worse than going on a mums night out and that I like to spend my spare time with my husband and children. It's so much easier cause I don't have to join in with the school gate politics - enjoy it x

Fuckertyfuckmcfuck · 15/12/2020 07:54

Pah, it just shows the other mothers insecurities. I couldn't be bothered with them. They are being used

slipperywhensparticus · 15/12/2020 07:57

They are afraid of upsetting her

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abitofpeace · 15/12/2020 08:26

Thanks, I’m going to enjoy the peace and hold my head up high! These fake women buying this MLM crap must have cupboards full of crap they don’t need!

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PrincessBuggerPants · 15/12/2020 08:37

I politely said I couldn't think of anything worse than going on a mums night out and that I like to spend my spare time with my husband and children.

Yeah, OP I wouldn't follow this approach. They would have every right to not be very nice to you.

LRHRN · 15/12/2020 13:04

@PrincessBuggerPants why wouldn't they be very nice for being honest?
I didn't say it in a rude way at all and they actually all did say hello as did I but I wouldn't get involved with all the he said she said stuff.

myhobbyisouting · 15/12/2020 13:10

Which one is it? Not scentsy? I'd just enjoy the peace and smile and do the usual nod Grin

Grooticle · 15/12/2020 13:28

@LRHRN - I really don’t think there’s a nice way to say you “can’t think of anything worse” than socialising with a group of people who are being friendly to you. I’d find that very rude however polite you were.

cardswapping · 15/12/2020 13:38

Say supporting another cult is against your religion. Grin

I would let it go. If you are friendly with anyone, maybe worth checking there is not some enormous backstory... something along the lines of: school parents have all agreed to buy from her as they know she needs a new bionic gut that cost £££ that she cannot afford but she will not accept financial help so they do it this way?!?! - yes, I should write books.

But it is more likely there is no backstory, so enjoy the peace.

myhobbyisouting · 15/12/2020 13:49

It's not possible to say you can't think of anything worse than socialising with someone who has just invited you to, without looking rude.

And then to go on and say, I like to spend my free time with my husband and kids, just smacks of a perceived superiority on your part.

VivaDixie · 15/12/2020 13:49

@LRHRN

I had a similar issue. I was the new mum at school and the cliche of mums wanted me to buy their shite and go on mums nights out with them and I refused, they couldn't understand why I wouldn't. I politely said I couldn't think of anything worse than going on a mums night out and that I like to spend my spare time with my husband and children. It's so much easier cause I don't have to join in with the school gate politics - enjoy it x
I am all for avoiding MLMs and cliques but blimey, with regard to the mums night out they were just being friendly. If you responded to me in that tone I would have considered you extremely rude.
peachescariad · 15/12/2020 13:51

Sorry but what does MLM mean?

cardswapping · 15/12/2020 13:54

Multi-Level Marketing

Often, pyramid schemes or recruit and bleed them schemes.

BiscuitDrama · 15/12/2020 13:57

So like that Aloe one, or Juice plus (is it?), that hair one, the mascara one. And so on.