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To be a bit miffed by this?

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wizzardchristmass · 14/12/2020 09:15

Il start by saying this isn't actually a msssive big deal and I'm aware of that.
Me and my close friend organised to go Christmas shopping today.
Both haven't been into town since the lockdown and we're excited to go for dinner and go in the shops.
Yesterday she was very quiet and she texts saying "hi sorry I couldn't wait any longer so I did my Christmas shopping today with (boyfriend ) I was too excited to wait"
Il still meet for lunch tomorrow tho but not gonna look around the shops again.
We've had today planned for 6 weeks.
Would you be a bit miffed?
She couldn't wait 16 hours longer ?

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Original poster
wizzardchristmass · 14/12/2020 09:15

*were

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Smallfry79 · 14/12/2020 09:18

Yes id be very miffed. Thoughtless and selfish. Even if she couldnt wait she should still go with you again as agreed

Whatthebloodyell · 14/12/2020 09:21

Annoying. But maybe she went yesterday also intending to go with you today, but realised that actually the shops are bloody busy and it really isn’t very sensible to be wondering around them too much.

Waveysnail · 14/12/2020 09:22

I'd be annoyed. Not half as much fun wandering around the shops by yourself

AlCalavicci · 14/12/2020 09:23

I would not be happy with this either , the only reason I can think of for her to do that is she wanted to buy you or someone else something without out you knowing about it but there is no reason why she could not do the rest of the shopping with you.
Is this her and her boyfriends 1st christmas together ? I kind of get it then but it's still not great

Original poster
wizzardchristmass · 14/12/2020 09:28

No it's not her first Christmas with him,been together 10 years.

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MrsBungle · 14/12/2020 09:29

Yes that would annoy me too.

thepeopleversuswork · 14/12/2020 09:41

YANBU I'd be pissed off too. How pathetic.

thedevilinablackdress · 14/12/2020 09:43

Yanbu
She could still accompany you on your shopping trip!

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 14/12/2020 09:46

Wow what a cow... Hope her gift is refundable...

Zilla1 · 14/12/2020 09:46

YANBU and I wouldn't meet for lunch. I suppose it depends on your relationship how you communicate you disappointment,

Womencanlift · 14/12/2020 09:46

@thepeopleversuswork

YANBU I'd be pissed off too. How pathetic.
This!

I would tell her not to bother just meeting for food and I wouldn’t be able to hide how pissed off I was

MaryLeeOnHigh · 14/12/2020 09:48

Say that you're going to do your shopping anyway.

SevenSnobsASniping · 14/12/2020 09:50

Shows where you are on her priority list. Certainly 'keeping a commitment to a friend' isn't high on it.

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 14/12/2020 09:55

Arrange to meet at 1. Text her at 1245 and say you are sat eating lunch at home as you simply couldn't wait to eat...

MummBraTheEverLeaking · 14/12/2020 09:58

YANBU, she could have done half yesterday and half today if she really really couldn't have waited (she bloody could though!) so then still could have done it with you. Inclined with other pp, tell her not to bother with lunch and you're very disappointed the trip you've planned for 6 weeks isn't going ahead so you might as well use the time to get on with your shopping.

Drbrowns · 14/12/2020 10:02

I’d be raging

Spied · 14/12/2020 10:03

Maybe she is anxious about Covid and feels uncomfortable looking around busy shops so has done her shopping online but doesn't feel comfortable telling you this. She's meeting up with you for lunch as it only involves going into one place.

Crocky · 14/12/2020 10:04

Even if I had absolutely nothing to buy I would still want to go and enjoy a day shopping with a friend. It’s not really about the shopping is it? It’s the time just to chat and unwind and spend time enjoying each other’s company. I’d happily help my friend choose their presents.
I’d be very miffed.

Spied · 14/12/2020 10:04

Or she's not got much money and feels a bit embarrassed but will meet for lunch just to see you Confused

FunkBus · 14/12/2020 10:05

I couldn't get upset by this and am amazed that so many are. You're still meeting her, so it's not like she totally ditched you.

Zilla1 · 14/12/2020 10:08

OP, as @spied suggests, is it possibly she's embarrassed about money?

Ponoka7 · 14/12/2020 10:12

Possible scenarios, does she rely on him for money? Have they had hardship hit and are cutting back on gifts, but she's too embarrassed to say? Is he controlling in any way?

The best bit is the lunch, so it wouldn't bother me, but I don't do Adult presents and shop on-line.

Personally, I'd get passed it, start shopping early, go for lunch and do the very last bits afterwards.

ChasingRainbows19 · 14/12/2020 10:13

No it’s not a huge thing but it was a long term plan, she can’t be that anxious about covid if she going shopping at a weekend! She could still mooch around the shops with you. I work with some covid patients so I’m not massively anxious, but I haven’t been Christmas shopping, it’s not the same right now. I’ve done it all online and with small businesses.

I understand why you are annoyed not sure I would cancel lunch tho, cutting your nose of there. Also I’m jealous I’ve not been able to meet friends inside for months due to northern restrictions!

Ponoka7 · 14/12/2020 10:14

@Crocky, but you wouldn't do that if you're anxious about Covid. Shopping this year shouldn't have been a group activity.

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