To be sick of DH's faraway job?

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DH works in London, but we live about two to two and a half hours drive North.

He is therefore either knackered or stays overnight.

It's more often than not over the weekends as well.

I work regular office hours locally. We have two DC.

DC and I haven't seen him since Thursday night. He'll be home later tonight, than will leave early tomorrow morning.

Sick of it. AIBU?

The "other woman" doesn't have to be an actual other woman. What another relationship does is stop you being emotionally available and connected to the person you are actually in a relationship with. So the "other woman" can be drink, gambling, an all consuming hobby.. or work. They all have the same function, they allow you to withdraw from family/ marital life and to not not connect with your partner.....
You could try relationship counseling op?

Sounds like my ex. He wasn't working away as often as he said. He was with his girlfriend.

Did he want to move in order to opt out of family life?

It sounds like you've made up your mind tbh, and I don't blame you. Best of luck with changing things; I agree that you might as well tell him you're going to have a proper separation and see how you feel.

What happens when he takes annual leave, does he return home then? Do things improve when he engages in family life again?

He has a woman in London. I’d put my house on it.

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He has a woman in London. I’d put my house on it.

I agree! Definitely another woman!

Just get rid. Change the locks.⬅️sigh usual mn dross advice
If he’s on the mortgage he’s a co-owner.If you lock him out his house he should rightly call police

If he’s on the mortgage he’s a co-owner.If you lock him out his house he should rightly call police

Actually, it's not a criminal offence - he'd have to apply to the court for an occupation order.

But I wasn't being serious with that suggestion...although he might just suck it up since he clearly prefers the travelodge to his family's company.

As a joint owner he cannot be restricted from access or residency without a court order. As a joint owner he could rightly use reasonable force to re-enter a property he had been excluded from eg He can ask a locksmith to change the locks again

Change the locks It’s bandied about in mn all the time as if it is just the thing

Posted too soon, I’d report to the police to get a cad number and establish the wife unreasonable behaviour if it got messy