I live in a semi-detached new build and moved in about the same time as my neighbours on either side (over a year now). I have had lots of neighbours, and never had an issue taking in a neighbours parcels when they are unavailable. I don't have this issue with any of the other neighbours and have received parcels for different neighbours since we moved here.
The neighbour we share a party wall with are a young couple who have a 1 year old (This is relevant as I initially thought part of the problem was to avoid disturbing their little one).
Now for the issue. Whenever we take in a parcel for them, they never come over to pick this up immediately. The earliest they have done is 3 days later, and I usually get fed up and take it to them. The longest so far is a week, and they didn't pick it up. We have a really small entry way, you open the door and the stairs are right in front of you so there is no space to keep packages and it just takes up space on the stairs. Before the pandemic lockdown, I didn't think too much of it, as I just thought everyone was busy with work. Since the lockdown, I have just come to the conclusion that they don't like to come for their parcels, especially the DH. I took the parcel over one time, when they had not come for 4 days, and she seemed upset to see me when she opened the door. I politely asked if the postie had not left a 'something for you' card, to which she replied: yes, but her DH was meant to come over to collect the parcel. He heard her, and shouted back that he had just not had the time! I mostly feel sorry for the delivery folks, but I am at the point where I don't care about helping them out anymore.
A couple of weeks ago, I told the postie that someone was in when they brought the parcel over. They agreed but said they had knocked for a while but they not opening their door, and would I mind? I used to think perhaps the little one was sleeping but another event has made me realise he really just can't be bothered (He is home more than she is, perhaps works from home like we do). I arrived and was parking just as he was going in with their child. They both waved, and i waved back but then noticed he had forgotten his keys on the door. This did not take up to a minute, as I went to knock to alert him. It took him another 3 minutes of me now knocking loudly before he opened the door!
I know they get the delivery cards as I have begun waiting to see the postie leaves a card for them. I had told my DH not to take in any more parcels for them as they never pick up, but am now wondering if IABU. This has come up again because my DH received another parcel for them yesterday morning, and it remains uncollected till now. We have the same exact layout, and I can hear the knock from the farthest room on the top floor even though we have no doorbell.
So AIBU?
YABU - they could be hard of hearing, might not want to disturb the DC
YANBU - I would never take another parcel for them.