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Original poster

To be pissed off with DH about this?

96 replies

Miltt · 10/12/2020 16:00

We did the weekly food shop Monday and DH thought we could have a curry today when my three step children come round (I have two here of my own too)

So for some ridiculous reason DH put the big pack of chicken breasts in the freezer, there was no need for that. He knew we would be having it today and the use by date was the 14th.

He omits to tell me he's frozen them.

Today comes and he goes to collect the DSC, he gives me a call on the way back to ask if I could start dicing the chicken and making the curry.

Chicken is nowhere to be found in the fridge, I find it in the freezer encased in a block of ice.

So no curry tonight, no time, they have to have chicken nuggets and chips.

I tried to defrost the chicken quickly on the hob but it went funny and I didn't want to risk it so it went in the bin.

This is the second time he's caused inconvenience by freezing things that didn't need freezing and then failing to tell me about it.

AIBU to be pissed off with him?

OP posts:
Oooohbehave · 10/12/2020 16:43

You need to but a micro-wah-va

StephenBelafonte · 10/12/2020 16:43

I'd have just sent him out for a takeaway.

How come he didn't take his wallet with him?

pippiphooray1 · 10/12/2020 16:44

no words

StephenBelafonte · 10/12/2020 16:44

Couldn't he have used his smartphone to pay for stuff?

Cheeseandwin5 · 10/12/2020 16:45

Have to agree with others, his was silly but accidentally, and meant you had to eat something else ( which you had available) and eat the chicken later. Yours was just as bad but resulted in the food having to be thrown out and you feel you have the right to shout at him??
To be honest it looks like you acted out of vindictiveness and if you used having to throw it out as a reason to shout at him more I really wouldn't be surprised.

Original poster
Miltt · 10/12/2020 16:46

Yeah I definitely shouldn't have binned it.

I've had salmonella from chicken before so I'm overly cautious.

It was sat on the chopping board a good 5 minutes whilst I tried to hack through it, it didn't look great so I didn't want to take the risk.

We've agreed we've both been daft.

OP posts:
Original poster
Miltt · 10/12/2020 16:47

I haven't bloody shouted at him, I was silently pissed off.

I can see that I fucked up myself so I've no hard feelings to him now.

OP posts:
Gardeniaofdelights · 10/12/2020 16:47

It all sounds a bit fraught - life is too short to get pissed off over really small inconveniences like this.

PimpleMoose · 10/12/2020 16:48

It was sat on the chopping board a good 5 minutes whilst I tried to hack through it
And?

You can safely leave raw chicken at room temperature for a couple of hours.

Elfieishere · 10/12/2020 16:51

@PoppyOppy

You binned chicken because you couldn't defrost it? No microwave? Once you had discovered you couldn't do the curry in the time, you then threw perfectly good food away?

Unbelievable. There are people in this country and many others who rely on food banks to get a meal, any meal on the table for their families and you're happily wasting food. Angry

Jesus. They paid for the chicken so they can do what they want with it.

What has food banks and people being skint got to do with it. Should the OP of took the part defrosted chicken to a food bank Confused

I bin food for various reasons all the time. I paid for it so I can what I like with it.

BetterthanIthink · 10/12/2020 16:51

Takes me longer sometimes to prep chicken than 5 mins and you’ve thrown the lot away because it was sat on your chopping board for 5 mins ??

CaptainMyCaptain · 10/12/2020 16:51

YABU to waste the chicken. Once it had been cooked through in the curry it would have been fine. I hate food waste.

PrincessBuggerPants · 10/12/2020 16:52

My husband does this all the time and we have had a few abandoned meals. TBF it does save the meat going off.

Suckmyfatone · 10/12/2020 16:54

Mountain. Molehill.

SunshineCake · 10/12/2020 16:55

YANBU but we're very silly to try and defrost it full stop never mind when you could feed everyone something else.

Plussizejumpsuit · 10/12/2020 16:56

Why did he call and ask you to dice it if he knew it was in the freezer?

BrumBoo · 10/12/2020 16:56

@PoppyOppy

You binned chicken because you couldn't defrost it? No microwave? Once you had discovered you couldn't do the curry in the time, you then threw perfectly good food away?

Unbelievable. There are people in this country and many others who rely on food banks to get a meal, any meal on the table for their families and you're happily wasting food. Angry

The OP has been a pillock, but this post is just MN ridiculousness at it's best. Like Mummy telling you off for not eating your quiche because there's 'children starving in Africa'. They wouldn't want the cheese and ham abomination as much as a food bank wants a half frozen chicken that's been hacked at by a pissed off, middle class woman muttering' 'fuck you Nigel, you fart brained git' whilst doing so....
billy1966 · 10/12/2020 16:56

Next time make your sauce OP.
Leave the chicken on the counter for an hour and then slice through the chicken in thin slices, even though it will still be quite frozen.
Put the chicken into the sauce and cook gently.
It will be just fine.

Establish a new rule that meat doesn't go into the freezer with out double checking with the cook!

Graciebobcat · 10/12/2020 16:56

Next time do the curry sauce with chicken nuggets and rice. Call it Chicken Katsu curry.

lockupyourcinammon · 10/12/2020 16:58

what you did was more annoying!

Tyke2 · 10/12/2020 16:58

Did somebody say "Just Eat"!

Plonque · 10/12/2020 16:59

Complete non issue! Annoying, I'll grant you. But "I'm going to post on mumsnet" level? ... no.

Nottherealslimshady · 10/12/2020 16:59

You both kinda messed up.
He knew it was needed soon, put it in the freezer and didn't tell you.
You could have just put the frozen chicken in the oven on a tray covered in foil and baked it then chopped it and mixed it in with the curry.

viques · 10/12/2020 16:59

@SnuggyBuggy

Mine does the same thing. We only eat about 2 breasts worth at a time and there is currently a massive block of them in the back of the freezer I can't figure out how to separate.
Defrost them. Cook them in a casserole or something. Refepreeze.
katy1213 · 10/12/2020 16:59

I wouldn't have binned it. If you'd left it to carry on defrosting in the fridge, it would have been fine tomorrow.
Also, it's fine cooking from frozen - you just need to make sure it's cooked through.