Sharing details of how much office contributed to funeral fund?

[CitizenClem]

A colleague from another office died. There was a collection for his funeral, and the person organizing the collection has just sent an email saying how much everyone contributed. I was towards the bottom and now I feel terribly ashamed.

AIBU to think you don't share how much everyone contributed?

That's exceptionally bad form

That is exceptionally bad form and I would be emailing the person back to point out how rude it is. I can't believe in any culture this would be deemed acceptable to divulge that information. I think £30 is a very generous contribution to give to someone you have never met before. If there was a "fund" to support the family than really this should be set up by the company not individual employees. Dreadful

The culture may well be different to encourage generosity, but I know in the UK, it would be considered incredibly rude to share like this

I don't think it encourages generosity I think it encourages one upmanship and just shames people into giving more than they are comfortable with.

I think your contribution was very generous and the email was very bad form.

That's dreadful. I arrange leaving collections for colleagues but I'd never comment or share how much individuals contributed. As it is, it's fairly in line with people's salaries and disposable incomes.

Ive always considered workplace collections a bit of a racket and I forbade them in my workplace unless the circumstance was really exceptional. If people wanted to purchase a personal gift for another co-worker then they were, of course, free to do so. But I disliked the idea of someone hawking around the staff shaking the begging bowl.

I dont like the idea of putting moral pressure on people to contribute to a gift for someone they may not even know or like just because they happen to work in the organization.

It seems that in some workplaces some people are constantly getting these little gifties because they get engaged/married/give birth etc but others get nothing.

The vote went 98% YANBU. I’m certainly feeling better about it now, but crikey. Definitely a culture clash somewhere