Page 7 | To ask what's the rudest thing a stranger has done to you?

HavingTroubleSleeping · 08/12/2020 19:49

@NumNum33

-Been called ugly by random men and occasionally women. Very hard to get over.The binmen were especially mean when I had to walk past them on my Post Office trips pre-Lockdown.

-At the beginning of lockdown 1 I was walking round our village and a local woman and her 22-ish y.o. daughter were coming the other way. I said hello and smiled at them both. The mother said a cheery hello back but the daughter stayed silent and gave me such a nasty, evil look you could have scraped me up off the floor. Never met her before. I seem to bump into them every sunday and the daughter does the same thing each time so I look at the floor now. It's more unpleasant because the mother clearly doesn't know she's doing it.

Wow!

There are some awful people in the world, they've probably got their own insecurities, happy people don't behave like that!

🤗

FoxyTheFox · 08/12/2020 19:50

That would have been an excellent ending! Alas i married a completely different man who as far as i know has never removed his own shoe and hurled it into traffic in a fit of righteous fury. More's the pity.

Could you pretend?

Years later I was running late for a job interview and couldn't find the building it was supposed to be at. I ducked into a nearby coffee shop for directions. The barista, who was actually the owner, looked shocked "oh my god, its you! I don't know if you remember me but..."

Hippopotas · 08/12/2020 19:50

I was in a Tesco when I was a teenager I had very bad psoriasis on my face a child said to their parent “what is wrong with that ladies face?” And the mother said “I don’t know but keep away from her so yo7 d9nt catch it”

I ran away and cried

tobee · 08/12/2020 19:50

I know there's been all types on here dishing it out, but it's horrible that there are so many older people feeling free to humiliate and intimidate younger people.

recycledtoiletroll · 08/12/2020 19:51

@MrsGrindah would have preferred them

I can relate to the supermarket ones too! Like a PP mentioned the higher ups don't take kindly to you telling the customers to rightly piss off even when they say they're going to wait outside the staff entrance and beat the shit out of you

Ffsseriously · 08/12/2020 19:51

But seriously as someone who has worked in retail and not been a student or doing it because its flexible etc but because its what I do, i genuinely find it offensive that people defend the crass remarks by saying but I am better than this, because no matter what you say thats what they are doing.
And the well they are doing it because of its flexibility do you say thay about other jobs or just retail hospitality and i suspect cleaning.
Its like on the treat retail workers better threads people always post I worked in retail (while getting my degree) and its hard work, but they make sure we all know that it was while they were getting a degree and this is an anonymous forum its so condescending.

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 08/12/2020 19:52

@FridayNightAtTheBronze bloody hell that's assault! . I'd have drowned the bitch.

I'm sorry to all of you who have had such terrible experiences.

AWholeLottaRosie · 08/12/2020 19:53

@Ffsseriously

All the people saying how customers were rude saying you will end up like this if you dont study. They then gleefully point out they were studying. You really are agreeing with the rude people. You are quick to point out you are more than just bar staff or shop workers, so you are just as rude. Its no come back or challenge to the ingrained snobbish in the remark.

Well said.

Quacks2020 · 08/12/2020 19:56

I grew up in an area with a 'Rough reputation', which I don't agree with, you get good and bad people wherever you go.

Anyway first meeting with midwife, took my post code and she looked very suprised and said "oh wow, well you dont look like a scummy mummy!, I've dealt with lots of people from there and most can barely read a book".

After moving house this is the reaction I get most of the time when I say where I am from. It's really disappointing. It leaves me feeling unable to fit in.

Come to think of it when I first met MIL the first and only questions she ever asked me was "do you have any children from previous relationships?" And "what does your parents do?".

I love my home town!!!

TheGriffle · 08/12/2020 19:56

When I was about 10 or 11 and was walking home and a complete twat of a scrote boy walked up to me and spat in my face. Was the most disgusting thing.

When I was in secondary but still young, sat on the bus on the way to school an older man with mental health issues got on and sat next to me. He started stroking my arm, took my hand etc and asked me if I was his girlfriend. I was trapped by the window and too scared/embarrassed to say anything or tell him to stop/get off me. A woman on the bus did lean over and ask if I was ok but I just nodded on the verge of crying too scared to say anything.

Meredithgrey1 · 08/12/2020 19:59

A woman I was serving was staring at me, trying to get my attention as I scanned her stuff. I looked up at her and smiled. She said, in still the most condescending tone I've ever heard:

'Don't you wish you'd studied now?'

When I was about 16 I was working on the tills, a man came up with a basket and I asked if he’d like a bag he said “oh, you’re smart enough to work out I can’t carry all this in my hands are you?”

And another time a man with a young daughter (maybe 8 or 9) came to my till and he said to her “that’s where you’ll end up if you don’t study”.

Dicks.

BlueCheckedTeatowel · 08/12/2020 20:00

@Ohalrightthen Alas i married a completely different man who as far as i know has never removed his own shoe and hurled it into traffic in a fit of righteous fury.

sorry about that, maybe one day he will

now got DC asking why im laughing.

SimplySteveRedux · 08/12/2020 20:03

I was out with newborn DD (this was late '99/early'00) and challenging, autistic, 2yo DSS in the local shopping centre. I was working freelance at the time as DP had a ridiculously challenging pregnancy and dictated I needed to be on-hand. Woman in the shopping centre told me I should stop fucking different women every weekend and I wouldn't have children as a teenager on benefits.

BlueCheckedTeatowel · 08/12/2020 20:03

@FoxyTheFox Years later I was running late for a job interview and couldn't find the building it was supposed to be at. I ducked into a nearby coffee shop for directions. The barista, who was actually the owner, looked shocked "oh my god, its you! I don't know if you remember me but..."

YES!!!!! and one snowy Sunday afternoon, years later, they went and bought some sweets from the shop where it happened as a family and told their children the story as they all walked home to watch a film and have hot chocolate.

SpacePug · 08/12/2020 20:03

I work in a supermarket (yes by choice yes that is my only job)
And a customer was behind me as I was doing reductions, I was bent over slightly checking the dates on the bottom shelf, the man walking past behind me said "look kids, full moon"
I pretended I didn't hear him and moved away.

A few days ago (this is really outing) someone from school put on a class photo from high school , I was a fat child with big thick hair and look like a whale on the photo.
Someone from school comments
"Moon head 😂 doesn't she graft at Tesco now?"
I didn't reply or make it known that I saw it cos I'm not confident enough. If I was I'd say "oi! I can see this too you know! And yes I do graft at Tesco thanks very much 😠"

The next time I serve him I'll be sure to be extra unfriendly.

Farontothemaddingcrowd · 08/12/2020 20:06

I crossed at a zebra crossing after looking left and right. A souped up Subaru sped towards me, deliberately, making me run and the driver screamed: ‘Fucking look where you going, you blind bitch.’

Or the time I was walking home, aged 22 in a wool coat and polo neck and a man looked me up and down and said to his mate ‘I’d fuck that’

elfycat · 08/12/2020 20:06

@SleepingStandingUp

In my youth? I had a very large hip to waist ratio. Think 40 inch hips with a 25 inch waist - So my bottom was exaggerated. I used to wear long dresses and skirts - long cardigans but was hassled, commented on and groped regularly from about 15 years of age up to about 40. I was rarely quiet when any of it happened as I get loud when irritated and have an amazing (punchy) 'get off' reflex when surprised by intimate groping.

I'm going invisible with age now and enjoying it.

DuesToTheDirt · 08/12/2020 20:09

On the job front, I was encouraging my student DD at one point to get a summer waitressing job. I mentioned this to a (now ex) friend, who said, "Why get her to be a waitress? It's demeaning, she could be a tutor." Snobby cow. I don't see any job as demeaning, and whether you do it while studying, or for life, it make no difference. I don't look down on waitresses, shop staff, or anyone.

itsmehere1 · 08/12/2020 20:10

Phew I have had a few, but the one that always gets me down is this one.

Weekday morning I boarded my south eastern train to Blackfriars. I was standing as there were no empty seats. Suddenly a man stood up to perhaps get down the next station, I was close so I moved and sat. Suddenly from behind there was this lady (mid-30s) who seemed to be looking angrily at me and was huffing and puffing as if I took her seat. I kept sitting and she kept on staring at me the entire way, I even looked at her to ask what's wrong. After few stops, she had to get down, which she did not before knowingly stamping on my feet and saying "Oops Sorry" in a fake manner. Till date I can't forget the cf, couple of people around me also showed their annoyance towards her. I on the other hand was just too stunned, but thinking back I felt I should have said/done something!

ThornAmongstRoses · 08/12/2020 20:12

I have a hidden disability on I was on the bus one day, sitting in the seats for disabled people, and two elderly women behind me kept making really nasty comments about me being there. They were saying them loud enough for all surrounding passengers to hear and they were so disparaging towards me - basically saying who did I think I was sitting in seats for disabled people and it was disgusting how I had the audacity to sit there.

I had tears in my eyes for the length of the journey, I was so embarrassed, hurt and upset.

In hindsight I wish I had said something to them but I just felt too intimidated

firstimemamma · 08/12/2020 20:15

8 months pregnant, boiling hot summer's day and long post office queue (longer than half an hour). I get to the front fair and square and while I'm having my turn the man gives me a piece of paper that I needed to write on. I offer to stand to one side so that he can serve someone else while I'm writing, to keep the queue moving along. When I was finished writing 30 seconds or so later, the man said that actually he'd had second thoughts and he no longer thought it was appropriate for me to pay and go like we'd agreed. I asked why and he said it was "just in case anyone thought I was queue jumping". Sent me all the way to the back to start again and I was in so much pain from all the standing. Humiliating - I know that sounds dramatic but that's how I felt at the time!

Ohalrightthen · 08/12/2020 20:21

@FoxyTheFox

That would have been an excellent ending! Alas i married a completely different man who as far as i know has never removed his own shoe and hurled it into traffic in a fit of righteous fury. More's the pity.

Could you pretend?

Years later I was running late for a job interview and couldn't find the building it was supposed to be at. I ducked into a nearby coffee shop for directions. The barista, who was actually the owner, looked shocked "oh my god, its you! I don't know if you remember me but..."

Living my very own coffeeshop AU!

We should have met in the coffeeshop, ended up fake dating for some reason and having to sleep in a hotel room where there was gasp only one bed!

MolyHolyGuacamole · 08/12/2020 20:24

@Ffsseriously

All the people saying how customers were rude saying you will end up like this if you dont study. They then gleefully point out they were studying. You really are agreeing with the rude people. You are quick to point out you are more than just bar staff or shop workers, so you are just as rude. Its no come back or challenge to the ingrained snobbish in the remark.

You took the words right out of my mouth.

'Sneering at me for being a waitress when I'd just been accepted to CAMBRIDGE!!'

What difference does it make?

SomeonesRealName · 08/12/2020 20:26

Slapped my face on a bus as I'd accidentally trapped her hair with my hand as I got up from my seat.

sbhydrogen · 08/12/2020 20:30

@DillonPanthersTexas

When I was a student I worked as a part time estate agent and while on one viewing where the seller was actually in the house the man doing the viewing did an enormous 12 second fart that must have spanned about 3 octaves. His wife did not bat an eyelid and I was left with my jaw dropped wondering what I had just witnessed. Just before leaving he dropped his guts again before strolling down the path. I was mortified.

I'm crying with laughter at this one 🤣🤣