To ask what's the rudest thing a stranger has done to you?

[YoungScrappyHungry]

Inspired by the lovely thread about kindest thing strangers have done for you, and also a chance for me to share this horror.

When I was 19, I worked on the tills at a supermarket in my holidays from university.

A woman I was serving was staring at me, trying to get my attention as I scanned her stuff. I looked up at her and smiled. She said, in still the most condescending tone I've ever heard:

'Don't you wish you'd studied now?'

I was so floored and ashamed, I didn't say a thing back and just carried on scanning her things. Fact was I was actually at university, but even if I hadn't been....aghh!....still gets me.

What are yours?

A few years ago we went up the Shard for ds' birthday - he wasn't very big for his age, and someone decided to stand right in front of him blocking his view (he was there first, but had left a slight, but not very big gap in front of him which Mr Entitled Git decided to fill). I told him to move and he sneered at me, but a couple of women standing a bit further away told him to move as well and as bullies usually are cowards, he then moved. He was tall enough to see over the top of ds in any event.

This morning in Sainsbury's
Me and rude man were in the biscuit section. Just the two of us so plenty of room to socially distance. I wanted a minute to survey the delicacies infront of me because the aisle was empty at this point band I could see he was a bit nervous about me and he kept in looking back so I gave him plenty of space. But everytime I moved to a pack of biscuits he moved in the same direction. It must have got a bit too much for him because in the end he shouted at me "WHAT ARE DOING?" I calmly answered I was getting my biscuits and told him not shout .
I realise this is small fry compared to some of the corkers on here though. And people have been much ruder to me in the last but I must have shut it out.

Shopping and a lady walks up to me and says excuse me when I had no where to move to, I replied I can't move I need past her daughter then proceeds to verbally abuse me calling me "a fat boot" and said I was gritting my teeth (I was wearing a mask) I just walked away shaken up and angry.

To be fair wilko is a total nitemare for this till situation is very confusing this has happened to me aswell I had been waiting for ages then they started serving the other tills

I think the worst thing was a fellow commuter on the underground barged me out of the carriage back onto the platform (it was a crammed carriage, admittedly, but he pushed against me 'til I was forced out). Rather ashamed to say I got back on, kicked him, then hopped off again. 🤷

@collywobbly

This morning in Sainsbury's Me and rude man were in the biscuit section. Just the two of us so plenty of room to socially distance. I wanted a minute to survey the delicacies infront of me because the aisle was empty at this point band I could see he was a bit nervous about me and he kept in looking back so I gave him plenty of space. But everytime I moved to a pack of biscuits he moved in the same direction. It must have got a bit too much for him because in the end he shouted at me "WHAT ARE DOING?" I calmly answered I was getting my biscuits and told him not shout . I realise this is small fry compared to some of the corkers on here though. And people have been much ruder to me in the last but I must have shut it out.

Yeah but with social distancing people feel like they can't just jump in front of the dawldlers and grab what they know they want. Lots of us don't peruse the aisles, we just want to grab and go. I understand why this Man lost his cool.

My story is outing but I need to share. I was packing shopping away in the boot when a car with 5 lads went past. They started screaming abuse at me because I was fat. My little boy was stood next to me and my dh was in the car already. I felt humiliated but sadly I was used to being treated that way over the years and just carried on with my business. We pulled out of the parking space and drove round the one way system to leave. Ds who was 3 at the time pipes up with "Mummy you are a fat bitch." He had heard and noticed the abuse so I burst into tears. Dh who was driving was stunned and told ds off. I told him to stop as he was just repeating what the 5 grown men who passed us a few minutes earlier had shouted at me. As we turned the final corner I saw them parking up. I shouted at dh to stop and without thinking I ran up to them and started kicking fuck out of the car they were in. I was furious. I was crying and saying how could you say things like that in front of my kid? Dh got out of the car and told the driver to get out and explain himself (dh is 6ft 3 ex rugby player) They were frozen solid. Not one of them could look me in the eye. A police officer ran over and pulled me away. Another driver stopped and shouted to the police officer that she had seen what happened and that they were yelling abuse at women on their own and that they had called her a fat p slur.
One of the guys in the car wound down the window to speak and the police officer warned him to keep his mouth shut. After a few minutes I calmed down and reality hit me. I felt so embarrassed. I told the police officer I would pay for the repairs needed (I had dented two car doors and the wing mirror was hanging off). The police officer told me to go home and not to give it another thought. I remember looking at them as we were driving off and they still wouldn't meet my eye.

I was working in a pub and a some pisshead told me he could see my tits through my top, and went on to ask if I fancied letting him have a look at my cunt, too.

A male friend was standing at the bar, and he turned and said, quick as a flash, "If you want to look at a cunt, mate, you just need to go to the gents and look in the mirror".

I think I fell a little bit in love with that friend that minute.

Twenty years on, he was my partner and I reminded him of this. He told me that he immediately regretted it, and thought he might get beaten up!

Sadly, or possibly gladly, I've never had the opportunity to steal that response.

@criminallyinsane

I was ordering in a MacDonalds once and mildly unsatisfied about something - maybe they were being too slow or whatever, I forget what it was about but it was a legitimate complaint. The assistant called me a bitch. In the same calm tone I'd been using up to that point, I said, "And your name is?"; asked to borrow her pen and then I slowly repeated what she'd just said to me out loud as I wrote both things down in front of her. In my peripheral vision I could see the colour draining from her face and she aggressively demanded her pen back (because being rude had been such a great strategy so far) as there was really nothing else for her to get uppity about at that point even though I had no intention of withholding her pen! I went ahead and complained and got a letter of apology and a wee voucher. If she'd apologised at once and said she was having a bad day I'd have let it go as I don't want to cause anyone to get into trouble with their jobs, even a rude cow like her! My children hate shopping with me, so embarrassing of me to call people out... I don't usually take it further after smilingly enquiring as to their name in response to rudeness but it is a satisfying strategy and usually nips bad attitude in the bud. ( And fun seeing the penny drop.)

You sound awful.

Always insults about my weight (I'm fat, so expected), hair colour (ginger, again expected) and having an ugly face (I can't change that without plastic surgery!). I don't get these comments anymore but aged 16-30 I would encounter them whenever I went out. I only have two times during that time frame that it was women/girls saying comments. All the rest were from a wide age range of men.

The earliest one that sticks out the most was when a car full of men screaming fat bitch out the windows threw a bottle of water that was thankfully plastic and not glass. Still hurt physically though. I kept thinking the women who raised them, well parents in general were scum and did a shit job.

Also the amount of bald men when I went out with friends in my early twenties that were insulting because I had ginger hair. I cannot stand bald men, I think it looks the least appealing of all. Basically it is ugly or at least I find it extremely ugly looking and unattractive. But the difference was (and still is) I would never randomly go up to a bald man and tell him I find him ugly because there is zero need.

No where near as bad as some on here but probably the most degrading thing that ever happened to me was some boy at school had peed in a can of juice and pretended he didn’t want it and offered it to me. Obviously I drank some and was mortified as he and his friends laughed/everyone in the school found out. He hadn’t targeted me specifically I was just unlikely with my timing but for some reason it’s really bothered me all these years and I’ve never told anyone in real life about it as I’m so humiliated stilll!

DH and I were on ho,I day in Warkworth, Northumberland. We went i to a pub with Ddog. DH asked if we could bring the dog in as it wasn’t clear if it was dog friendly or not. Man behind bar said “Of course you can bring your wife in”.

My then 8 month pregnant girlfriend came home in tears one day when a lady in the local mcdonald's said to her 'Fat bitches like you are the reason there's world hunger'
It was just horrible to hear that someone could be so mean.
That was just over 4 years ago and we haven't stepped foot in that mcdonald's again!

@Justheretoaskaquestion91
That's so awful. It makes you wonder what is wrong with people, who find that funny. What a bell e**

Sometimes someone is SO pig-ignorant, it shocks you because... you're NOT pig-ignorant! I've been stunned into silence on a fair few occasions, especially when I was young!
She's the one who should have been ashamed, the horrible old bitch, not you!
I'm sorry she was so horrible to your DD, it really was despicable and inexcusable!
P.S. I bet she had form for being a pig!

@DrManhattan

Thank you. He probably thought it was a simple hilarious prank but honestly it’s really scarred me. Silly I know!

Was walking along the street and some random kids launched a heavy traffic cone at me which hit me (and hurt!)

Some ppl saw me eating with chopsticks and said "Do you eat everything with chopsticks, you know, cos you're Asian?' and then laughed uncontrollably in my face.

I'm heart-sorry for the way that woman treated you, it was appallingly heartless.
I was a nurse for 20 years and I have to say, not all clinicians are in their professions because they're kind and caring. Some of them are there because of the status and the power they can wield over vulnerable people and this seems especially true of Consultants, many of whom have egos so large, it's a wonder they can in through the doors. The fact that they are treated so deferentially doesn't improve their personalities either! Having so much power and status, they get used to speaking to people-patients, junior doctors and nurses-like they're shit and getting away with it! The ladies and gentlemen among them are all the more precious for being so rare!

That is awful. I have an 11 year old, so innocent. It would really upset me to hear someone say something like that to her.

That boy was a hero x

Held the door open for a bloke. He didn't say thanks. I said, under my breath, you're welcome. He told me to fuck off. Like, really told me to fuck off.

I mean, what???

Age 15 taking my dog for A walk and 2 men walked past me. Heard one say to the other “fuck me state of her, If she was a horse I’d put it down.
40 years old now but it still sticks with me

Another more recent one (which will put me if any of my friends are on here). Was out in Liverpool with a group of women for a friends birthday. All having a great time, dancing and laughing. A man kept sidling up behind me, told him to stop it, moved away, friends stood in front of me etc. Thought he had gone when I felt a hand from behind underneath my dress, felt him cup me and use his fingers to try move my knickers to one side. All happened so fast, I shouted at him and he Walked of smirking at me.
I wish I had grabbed a bouncer now and reported him to the police. Fucker

I have a couple

1. I have just finished a 90 hour week shift in retail, this was my first day off, the supervisor called to let me know he dad had just died (this was legit and part of the reason I had been working so much) so I literally grab the first things I had to hand and got to work as quick as possible, but because I wasn't dressed as a manager tried to stay off the floor as much as possible, started winding down the shutter at 3.58pm (store closes at 4pm) lights were already off. Woman wants to come in and complains she can't get in without bending down (shutter might have been low) so I open it so she can get in, she then wonders around for 20 minutes, she then demands to see the manager, which then I appear and she looks at me, not looking my best and say, You, You are the manager, I nod my head and she says I am going to enjoy this complaint. You look a fucking disgrace, to which I say, tomorrow I am going to look a damn sight better, you are still going to be a complaing cow.

The disiplinary was worth it

@Coldilox - that's awful! 😡 I'm not surprised you were upset. Am so angry reading that.
I know how shocking and disgusting being spat on in the street by a stranger is. It happened to me when I was when I was walking down a well-lit, busy street late afternoon years ago. I was carrying my very young baby in a sling and minding my own business. The man spat in my face (at my mouth) and then at my baby. Completely out of the blue and didn't say anything - carried on walking. I was so shocked I didn't respond. Just walked into a charity shop. I did report to the police though and even got a call from Victim Support although didn't need at that point.
Big difference to your assault is this was totally random rather than targeted (we think) and the man in question clearly had very severe MH problems. It's such a demeaning act.

I’m tongue tied. I went to the dentist once and the dentist was asking why I hadn’t had my tongue cut and was then exclaiming to the dental nurse “she talks like she’s deaf? Doesn’t she talk like she’s deaf?” To make matters worse, she was putting on a “deaf” voice (sorry if that offends I really don’t know how else to describe the voice!) I have never been so shocked in my life.