I'm a single woman and my best friend is too.
She gets very involved with people after (and even before!) one date. For example, putting time aside to see them even before they actually have plans, prioritising them even though they barely know each other, becoming a little obsessive about them. It's somewhat of a pattern and can be a little silly but I always handle this with patience and care as her big heart is what makes her so lovely.
I've recently met someone I'm really excited about. My approach is much more tempered than hers but it's nice to talk about it and to speculate about whether it might turn into something serious. We've been on 8 dates and things do feel quite promising.
My friend (who currently isn't dating anyone) does not appear remotely happy for me. She's snappy, makes hurtful comments ('I hope he turns out to be a good one but let's be honest, it could fall apart by next week') and gives advice that is so wildly at odds with the way she conducts her own dating life. Any mention of him (which I keep to a minimum) is met with a snide comment or her opinion, presented as fact, about how I should be behaving or feeling.
She's usually my go-to person for anything but every mention of it is met with such disdain that I don't even want to talk to her at the moment.
I've spent so many hours over the last 5 years listening to her obsess over men she barely knew and forgiving her for cancelling plans with me to see them (which is not something I'd even consider the other way around) and I'm really hurt by her reaction to my potential relationship.
I'm not remotely confrontational but I'm also a reasonably intelligent person and can clearly see the fact that there is an enormous dose of hypocrisy and self-projection going on here and I'm extremely hurt and angry.
How do I approach this? I haven't had to deal with her in this way before. It's really putting a dampener on my enjoyment of her company.