Boyfriend posting photos. AIBU?

[CasioOhOhOh]

I don’t know why this is starting to bother me so much.

I’ve been dating someone for around 4 months. Every single date has been documented with photos on Instagram. He only had around 12 photos on when we started dating so it’s not like he’s the type of person who posts about anything and everything. There’s multiple photos posted each time, of the two of us and of where we’ve been.

I’m starting to feel like a prop rather than a person. I can’t work out why? I don’t know if he’s just a bit over enthusiastic with it being the start of the relationship. It’s starting to feel like he’s trying to prove something either to himself or to someone else.

He posts the photos as soon as the date is over. It’s been happening since the first date we went on, I’m feeling like whatever it is we’re doing isn’t about me but about how he’s coming across to other people outside of our dating.

AIBU to feel like this?

Yeah fuck that. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and you don't him taking so many photos.

I would hate that too

@arethereanyleftatall

There are two options. We don't know which one.

1. He's really really happy with you, his life is suddenly loads better than it was.

1. He's trying to make someone else jealous.

This

@AlwaysCheddar

Stop letting him take your photo!

This. And it’s very odd.

What do you say when he takes your photo?

If you're posing and grinning he probably thinks you're ok with it.

Tell him your don't like it ffs, why on earth wouldn't you?

The being happy/proud of me I could buy if he’d started doing it after we’d been dating for a little while. But to start from date number 1 when he knows nothing about me, I think I’m leaning towards the trying to make someone jealous reason.

I’ll ask him not to do it next time we go out and see what he does. If he carries on I’ll end it with him.

I was also coming on to say that the apparent lack of posting history and then suddenly being someone that posts a lot.... that’s also smacks of deleting lots of pictures

He's done this since date 1!?

Yeah he's clearly trying to show someone that he's moved on.

I can see why you feel uncomfortable but he obviously feels lucky to be with you and wants to share with the world how amazing you are? Just tell him to calm it down a bit with the photos.

@Lovemusic33

I can see why you feel uncomfortable but he obviously feels lucky to be with you and wants to share with the world how amazing you are? Just tell him to calm it down a bit with the photos.

FROM DATE ONE???

No. He has other motives that are nothing to do with OP as a person.

I'm going to be guilty of a very slight derailing here - but how on earth do you get time to just enjoy each other's company if he has his phone out snapping pictures all the time? That would seriously irritate me, never mind having my photo popping up multiple times on Instagram.

@CasioOhOhOh

The being happy/proud of me I could buy if he’d started doing it after we’d been dating for a little while. But to start from date number 1 when he knows nothing about me, I think I’m leaning towards the trying to make someone jealous reason.

I’ll ask him not to do it next time we go out and see what he does. If he carries on I’ll end it with him.

Whatever it is he's showing off, and whatever his reasons, if he's been doing it from date 1, it shows superficiality and a need for validation, in his nature.

It is complimentary to you, but not in a respectful way. More in the way that a sleazy bloke might look at a woman and say 'Aye aye, sexy!', with a wink. Ugh. He's basically posting these images to say to people (or possibly to one individual) 'Look what I've got!'

Is he posting the separate images in order to edit the audience? Rather than making someone jealous, it could be that he's hiding you from someone.