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Am I going mad?

71 replies

foxyroxyyy · 05/12/2020 19:01

I don’t know what to think. I think I might be pregnant.

This is going to be so long. Basically I’m feeling kicks and I could be 24 weeks pregnant but I’ve also been having periods so I don’t know if I’m going nuts or not.

I saw a thread a few days ago about a woman who found out she was really late on pregnant and she went onto have her baby.
I’ve been ignoring kicks in my tummy for a few months now as I thought I was just over tired and being stupid.

I had my first baby in February a month before lockdown.
DH and I didn’t get back at it until our anniversary in June.
Afterwards I thought I was pregnant and took a test which came back negative. I told DH and forgot about it and moved on.

We’ve not been sexually actively regularly AT ALL since the baby was born so if I am pregnant I’m either 24 /25 weeks or 11 weeks.

I’ve had something like periods every two weeks. I assumed because I’m still breastfeeding it’s been messing things up. Also stress from lockdown and new baby etc I just thought that was the cause. They’ve not been anything heavy just light spotting really but every two weeks.

I didn’t go to the doctor because I was trying to avoid it because of covid. I also had quite a few migraines and nauseous times now when I look back.

I thought this was all because I was post partum and had been putting on weight.

Anyway now I’m feeling kicks. I keep thinking it’s just gas or whatever but I counted 19 today in the space of an hour or so. I do sometimes feel pressure and stuff in my pelvis / womb especially when carrying my daughter for long periods or in awkward positions trying to change her nappy and stuff.

It took years for me to get pregnant with my daughter and I just can’t believe I could be pregnant and not know for this long. So I’m sure I’m going completely bonkers and making myself feel something that isn’t happening like pseudo pregnancy or something nutty. DH and I really want to continue our family so this would be happy news. I’m just sure I can’t be ... so why am I feeling these kicks?!

AIBU to think I might be going mad?

OP posts:
formerbabe · 05/12/2020 19:05

You can get phantoms kicks after you have a baby...I did occasionally. Although, you could be...you need to do a test and report back to us as soon as you know

RandomMess · 05/12/2020 19:06

It could easily be either pregnant or not.

I would take a test to put your mind at ease either way.

We had a 14 month gap and it was fine Thanks

Krampusnacht · 05/12/2020 19:06

If you haven't been sexually actively AT ALL since baby was born how can you be 11 weeks?

Other than that, take a test? Even with periods it would show positive if you're as far on as 24/25 weeks.

GreenLeafTurnip · 05/12/2020 19:10

Why can't some people read 🙄 she clearly says she hasn't been regularly sexually active.

Just take a test 🤷🏼‍♀️

formerbabe · 05/12/2020 19:13

I had my first baby in February a month before lockdown.
DH and I didn’t get back at it until our anniversary in June. Afterwards I thought I was pregnant and took a test which came back negative. I told DH and forgot about it and moved on.

We’ve not been sexually actively regularly AT ALL since the baby was born so if I am pregnant I’m either 24 /25 weeks or 11 weeks

Ok I'm really confused after reading this. How could you be either 24/25 or 11weeks then...plus you said you did it in June then you said you haven't at all.

willloman · 05/12/2020 19:13

Take a test.
Could be a hernia.

TeenPlusTwenties · 05/12/2020 19:17

PPs are missing the word regularly. ie the OP has been active but rarely, which is why she knows any baby is either 11 or 24/25 weeks.

RandomMess · 05/12/2020 19:17

The OP just means they have only had sex a few times, once in June and once in September.

FoxyTheFox · 05/12/2020 19:18

I took it as they haven't been active at all rather than not at all, so they had sex in June and then 11 weeks ago and that's been it.

Do a test, OP, its the only way to know.

formerbabe · 05/12/2020 19:19

Ok I get it now...i think the phrase 'regularly at all' was the confusing part...it's a bit of an oxymoron

SmileyClare · 05/12/2020 19:20

Just drive to Tescos and get a test? No point putting yourself through all this angst when you can find out in minutes.
Hope you're ok Smile

Original poster
foxyroxyyy · 05/12/2020 19:21

@RandomMess

The OP just means they have only had sex a few times, once in June and once in September.
Yes. This is what I meant!
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Cherrysoup · 05/12/2020 19:21

Poas, we need to know!

Sparklesocks · 05/12/2020 19:22

When you say ‘sexually actively regularly AT ALL’ what do you mean? You haven’t been sexually active at all or it hasn’t been ‘at all’ regular? Because of course even if you’ve only had sex once or twice you could be pregnant, but if you haven’t at all then clearly you can’t be.

Original poster
foxyroxyyy · 05/12/2020 19:22

I have two tests left from the same batch I got from Amazon that gave me a negative way back.

Ones a digital - they are clear blue. I'll take one in the morning. I don't know what to thinkConfused

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twittwootwittwoo · 05/12/2020 19:23

I still feel kicks 23 months after giving birth as plain as when my daughter was inside me but I'm not pregnant

Sparklesocks · 05/12/2020 19:23

Oh just caught up.
Why don’t you take it now? Seems strange to make yourself anxious waiting until morning.

Original poster
foxyroxyyy · 05/12/2020 19:23

@Sparklesocks

When you say ‘sexually actively regularly AT ALL’ what do you mean? You haven’t been sexually active at all or it hasn’t been ‘at all’ regular? Because of course even if you’ve only had sex once or twice you could be pregnant, but if you haven’t at all then clearly you can’t be.
Lol sorry for the confusion. I mean we barely have sex but not never.

First time after baby was on our anniversary in June.

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Original poster
foxyroxyyy · 05/12/2020 19:24

@Sparklesocks

Oh just caught up. Why don’t you take it now? Seems strange to make yourself anxious waiting until morning.
Aren't tests meant to be taken in the morning?!
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twittwootwittwoo · 05/12/2020 19:24

Sorry posted too soon, it's because you're breastfeeding

I saw my doctor about it

CabinClose · 05/12/2020 19:24

If you’re at least 11 weeks there’s no need to wait until the morning to test!

Original poster
foxyroxyyy · 05/12/2020 19:25

@twittwootwittwoo

I still feel kicks 23 months after giving birth as plain as when my daughter was inside me but I'm not pregnant
I've just been reading about this. Phantom kicks. Probably that then I guess
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Original poster
foxyroxyyy · 05/12/2020 19:25

@twittwootwittwoo

Sorry posted too soon, it's because you're breastfeeding

I saw my doctor about it

Oh!
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Original poster
foxyroxyyy · 05/12/2020 19:25

@CabinClose

If you’re at least 11 weeks there’s no need to wait until the morning to test!
Thanks I didn't know this. Drinking a big drink of water now ....
OP posts:
user1274245 · 05/12/2020 19:25

Nobody can answer this. You just need to take a test.

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