To ask you to tell me about your 13 year old daughter

[Confusedismyname]

Daughter has always been pretty easy going until lately (apart from being a messy mare) She’s now stroppy, argumentative and has started lying over the most ridiculous things, things that wouldn’t even get her into trouble.

She normally gets on with her sibling, but lately she’s been causing more arguments.

I’m sure it’s ‘normal’ behaviour for her age, but it’ll be good to hear from others with daughters of similar ages.

Thanks in advance. 😀

They went off for summer holidays at the end of year 9, lovely little angels. 6 weeks later, they came back and OMG! The girls had morphed into absolute stroppy nightmares!

And the boys?

I find it implausible that the majority of the girls changed so much between Yr9 and Yr10.

My Dd is 13 in 2 weeks time.
We still have small glimpses of who shes always been. Shes kind and helpful and hardworking at school, but largely unimpressed at home.

She doesnt care about how she smells or looks, so that's a continuous fight right now. She lies a lot. She is all about this 90s grunge look, but gives a look that could kill if we refer to her look as grungey.
Has a right face on her about 40% of the time. Hac always been thoughtful, but recently cant see past her wants.

Ugh. I hope this gets better because I'm trying to keep e everyone happy and its sapping the life out of me.

To give this some balance; my DD is 16 and her essential nature hasn't changed since she was a baby - kind, hard working (at school and at her chosen sport), great fun, eschews drama and keeps her room relatively tidy. She's had some real challenges to overcome and has done so with a grit I have never discovered in myself.

I'm not being a smug git, I know she could start dealing crack next week, but it's only fair to say that not all teenaged girls are stroppy, mouthy, hormonal etc. Probably, not even the majority as DD's friends are pretty similar to her.

I have a boy and a girl. The boy’s now 26. I agree with the poster up thread. He was lazy but charming. I don’t think l had a cross word at all except maybe a bit about school work. But he’s just smile and agree with me, and slink off to his Xbox. He’s a fully paid up hard working member of society now.

But his sister😥. She wants to fight about everything, or freeze me out. His insight on teens is very helpful though. And l sometimes use him as an arbitrator.