I just want to go home

[welshpixie]

First off I know we should all worship the NHS, and I am a great supporter, but this is too much.
I was sent to hospital no.1 in June with suspected heart issues ( vessel disease and a dodgy aortic valve) 2 weeks later I got sent home, after numerous tests that said I needed by-pass surgery and being put on a transfer list to the main university hospital for surgery.
Fast forward to 11th November I has similar symptoms again, this time I was sent to bigger hospital (No. 2).
Unfortunately someone in the acute unit tested positive for covid, so I was classed as a contact and had to be isolated for 2 weeks, fair enough if somewhat annoying.
I was then moved to BIG university hospital (No.3) for surgery, was told it would be asap s I had been waiting so long. Arrive in No.3 to be told may be next week depending on the bed situation, Now for the kicker, I was due to go for surgery today, had all pre op tests. maerked up where the vessels were being removed from, woken at 6 despite me saying I thought I as second on the list, still had to be up to watch others have breakfast, showered in their special soap, more faffing and then wait. AND WAIT AND WAIT
at 1.30 the head boss came in and said very sorry we can't do it today, its being postponed till Tuesday.
I am not allowed home to see my partner, he can't visit me, I am 1.5 hours away from home, and the stupid man stood there and said "I understand how you feel". No you bloody well don't, I haven't seen any of my family in over 3 weeks and you casually claim you understand.
Am AIBU in thinking this Covid paranoia has gone too far and if we treated prisoners in this way there would be an outcry.

Having seen how the system and finite resources work I can honestly say the system is rubbish and there is so much waste.

Just from little things like making up a bed on a ward with clean sheets when someone is due to leave hospital that day. They hadn’t left yet so were still sitting on the bed waiting to be signed out. Then remaking it with more clean sheets when they do leave

To GPs not listening when someone says they think they have something wrong and will send them for blood test after blood test to test for a particular thing one blood test at a time so there are wasted appointments at the doctors and blood clinics or what ever else department they deem to send you to. Only after sometimes years, sometimes never or sometimes too late they discover that the person has exactly what they said they had in the first place.

Friend got ill whilst living abroad. She had to pay something like €120 for the doctors appointments and blood tests.

They tested for everything and within a few days the results were back and the doctor was able to give a correct diagnosis and friend could with a few adjustments, get on with her life.
Here it would have taken years to go for umpteen blood tests and doctors appointments before they discovered what was wrong with her. And then the damage caused by it going undiagnosed could have led to an operation.

Even if all the blood tests and doctors appointments were free. Which one would work out the cheapest system.

Yes the NHS in theory is great but in practice I wouldn’t rely on it other to save you. You have to save yourself

@TrollTheRespawnJeremy

I feel for you OP as it must be very upsetting.

BUT if you were in America right now, if you didn't have treatment you'd be acquiring potentially hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt or you'd go untreated.

Things are definitely not ideal, but for now you are in a safe place and things are progressing for you.

Have you got something good to read?

This is NOT true...If she was in America she would jave already had her by-pass surgery and a very nice discussion with a financial advisor to help apply for state funding (means tested) and a payment plan if not approved.

I understand you’re frustrated, and being in hospital waiting is incredibly boring.

But try to stay positive. Your op isn’t cancelled, just postponed.

NHS staff are under enormous pressure, dealing with life threatening emergencies and short staffed due to covid and winter pressures.

You’re not a prisoner, you could self discharge and go private if you wanted. Nobody’s keeping you against your will.

Other people are on long waiting lists for life changing surgery. My uncle’s been waiting for a new hip over a year, he can’t mobilise and every time the surgery was booked it was cancelled and he was sent home.

Be thankful you’re in a safe place, being looked after. Get some books and magazines to read, things to watch and music to listen to. It’s not as if you have to wait months.