To think old women should stop touching my children in shops!

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Yes, my dds are beautiful! but dd2 (who have very natural blonde ringlets) is very shy, and does nto like it when old woemn touch her hair and say awww isnt she beautiul, what lovely hari.. yes its nice they compliemnt her, but she doesnt like being touched by strangers!!

Actually, at the age of 2, my dd pointed at a woman in a yellow raincoat and said "why is that lady dressed up as a duck?" Fortunately, lady had a sense of humour and said "Because it's raining" which dd acceped as a perfectly sensible explanation!

LOL, seeker. Love it!

If an elderly person starts chatting, to me or my kids, I make a point of making time for them. Why not? My kids dont have that many elderly people around, no grandparents in this country, and so it is a welcome chance for them too to interact with this agegroup. So what if they get a touch, and/or a compliment, it brightens their day too.

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Quite agree, Scary.

And I don't like the thread title at all.

We'll all be old ladies one day, God willing.

You should come into the Sanctuary Desi, we have some new masseurs....

I've obviously missed something, SSN!

Where is this Sanctuary?

Check in Active Convos. The sanctuary, for hte stressed

I shall peruse ..

Actually, I went to cornwall on holiday in the summer and we went to the beach. Coming off the beach ds1 (2.8) decided to have a complete meltdown all the way up the street, so much so that people were coming out of the shops to have a look. An old lady, who must have been mute because she didn't speak at all, she just used signs, came up to my son, put her finger to her mouth and then took his other hand and walked with us. Ds1 completely calmed down and carried on walking. I was really grateful.
A positive story about accepting help and compliments from strangers. Also a lady who owned one of the shops brought out gingerbread men for both ds's. Just how people should be I think.

TheEvilDediderata I don't think your comment even deserves an answer - if you reread my comment I don't think cleaners are full of germs - I referred to her smoking habits - in case you don't know by now smoking (and even second hand smoke) is very bad for you - especially for babies. But that is another topic that I don't wish to discuss as I am a passionate hater of smoking!!

And for telling me to rather do my housework myself - it is because of people like myself who is too lazy to do the ironing myself, that you and other cleaners have work!

I haven't read the whole thing but the other day an older woman bought Ds1 a chocolate thing - I wasn't near the till, he might even have asked her! - but i didn't say anything as I thought she was just being kind because she liked him. That's not to say I wasn't privately miffed, because Ds1 goes hyperactive on chocolate, but it was a one off and these things happen.

I posted ages ago about a woman touching my new baby, and how upset I felt - but that wa sbecause he was a few weeks old and fast asleep, and I wanted him to stay that way! Also I would not hold it against her, just venting my own frustration as it was a sweet thing to do.

Hmm... mixed feelings on this. My ds (six months) often gets touched and petted by people in supermarkets who just happen, in the main, to be of pensionable age, and female. Normally I quite like it, as I think it's nice for him to socialise and see lots of smiling faces.

However when I go in the swimming pool with him, he loves it until he gets out and he loathes getting changed afterwards, he screams his head off. It's the old ladies' swimming group just after the babies' one, and I don't like it when he's crying his head off and the old ladies crowd around him because it actually seems to make him more upset.

So yanbu if it is genuinely upsetting her. But if it is just because the old ladies are annoying you, then yabu.

i have no problem with old women touching my children in shops.

they have no problem with it either. in fact, both quite shy children at times, they love the attention!

why not? what harm can it possibly do?

I don't think it's about harm.

It's about personal preferences. Some people like to be touched. Others don't. Some people don't mind their children being touched by strangers. Others do.

It would seem if you do mind, you're a weirdo, uptight and get over yourself. Do what?

I don't mind personally but I think it's perfectly fair enough to not want to be touched. Or your kids.