Is this cheating?

[Lollipop412]

So I’m 36 weeks pregnant and I admit I’ve somewhat “neglected” my husband in the bedroom department. Due to a previous loss and anxiety we both agreed to wait until the baby is here. I’m fine with him watching porn, I know all men do it and he has needs etc. But yesterday I found out he’s been using snap chat. He promised me that he was just receiving pics of girls, not talking to them or sending pics back. It’s completely devastated me and I can’t even look at him. We have 2 little boys 5 and 3 and our baby girls arrival is just weeks away. I feel so betrayed and hurt at a time I already feel pretty rubbish about myself. Would you class this as cheating?

Also I know nothing about snap chat. Is what he’s saying likely to be true, or do you need to have some sort of interaction to be sent the pics?

Not all men watch porn.. Its not a need to watch urealistic, unreachable expectations of 2 people shagging

If he is keen to prove himself ask to see his account. As PP said you can see how often he's been exchanging things.

I wouldn't trust why grown man using snap chat to receive pictures and I think you've been incredibly generous and trusting so far.

It's called emotional cheating, and it's just as damaging as physical cheating.. You need to work out what to do, whether you have allegedly neglected him sexually because you are pregnant his loyalty must lie with you and your unborn child. Either you have it out with him or leave because honestly he's crossed the line... He can't wait a few months but rather chug to some random women possibly pretending to be single because I doubt many women get their kit off for men who have heavily pregnant wives.

I thought on Snapchat you could follow accounts and get updates of pics and videos, no real interaction required.

Performers use it as a free preview of premium services

So unless he's been actively interacting with people then no I wouldn't consider this anything like cheating

I'd call that cheating. He's disgusting and I think he's minimising things.

You don’t have to be friends actually - that is incorrect. But it’s unlikely someone would know his account without him adding them. A LOT of pornstars use Snapchat as a method then advertise their paid for services such as only fans. It’s not necessarily worse than porn and could be equated to having a porn hub account rather than just browsing. However, he could be sending things back which is unacceptable.

FWIW I have a few friends who do this (women). They advertise their Snapchat on their porn channels and people watch special pics and videos through Snapchat. They then also advertise to make money. These women are intelligent, completely liberated women who just love the easy money and think men are mugs.

Also the women just send the sexual pics and videos to everyone on the account - there is no personalised aspect (unless they pay)

@oldshoeuk I think you need to raise your standards. How can you possibly think this is in anyway acceptable? The Op’s husband is contacting other women - it’s a million percent wrong. Do you turn a blind eye in your own relationship?

@OneTC

I thought on Snapchat you could follow accounts and get updates of pics and videos, no real interaction required.

Performers use it as a free preview of premium services

So unless he's been actively interacting with people then no I wouldn't consider this anything like cheating

Not to my knowledge .

It's an app where women can send him pictures which then disappear never to be seen again. .

Will he show you what he's been looking at / any interactions?