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Original poster

to be annoyed at DH for taking a photo of a woman sunbathing?

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PixieAndTrixie · 20/10/2007 19:19

I have just returned from a weeks holiday in Spain and I caught DH taking a Photo of the woman on the next sunbed using his mobile phone & when I confronted him about it he said he was texting someone . This is not the first time this has happened (bloody perv).

He was eyeing up all the women in their bikins should I be upset by this?

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Blu · 20/10/2007 19:23

yes - and the woman should give him a black eye, too!

Lulumama · 20/10/2007 19:24

that is an invasion of her privacy.. was she topless? why does he do this? what does he do with the pics? are you sure that he was taking a pic, did you see it?

Thomcat · 20/10/2007 19:26

Should you feel upset? Are you asking that as a serious question? What do you think? Do you think it's acceptable behaviour?

chonky · 20/10/2007 19:27

YANBU - yeurch at the thought of being photographed by some random bloke whilst on the beach. Hope you gave him a good clout.

Pickie · 20/10/2007 19:28

I would be if i was you. Not normal behaviour, taking pictures without consent, wondering what he will do with them!

BroccoliSpears · 20/10/2007 19:29

Creepy. YANBU.

TrickORTripletEm · 20/10/2007 19:40

Did he know you were watching him? Some blokes find it 'funny' (NOT) to wind up their DW
If not ........

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PixieAndTrixie · 20/10/2007 19:42

Sorry to reply late - had to put DS to bed. She wasn't topless but in a skimpy bikin with a rather curvy figure - DH likes cury women (size 10-12) I am like a size 16 .

Joining weightwatchers tomorrow.

When I confronted him about he photo he quickly deleted it -yet again he said he was just texting. TBH he was eyeing up that particular women as soon as he saw her. I am so pissed off atm.

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Original poster
PixieAndTrixie · 20/10/2007 19:43

Sorry about my poor spelling but I really did type that in a rush.

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kindersurprise · 20/10/2007 19:45

YANBU, he is completely out of order. Taking the photo was an invasion of the woman's privacy and extremely disrespectful to you.

Lulumama · 20/10/2007 19:45

do you want to lose weight? or lost weight so your DH stops behaving like a prat? you need to tell him just how upsetting and inapporpriate his behaviour is, not least beacsue he could get in serious trouble if he gets caught doing it..

nappychangingmachine · 20/10/2007 19:46

YANBU. I would not be happy about that. Hope that you don't feel the need to lose weight just because of his behaviour (obviously fine if you want to do it anyway, for yourself).

DabblesInDarknessWithALightOn · 20/10/2007 19:46

yanbu!

although it is unreasonable that u havent kicked him out! how bloody disrespectful to you!

want a twunt!

poor u!

Saturn74 · 20/10/2007 19:49

He sounds like a letch, tbh.
This is about him, not you.
If you want to lose weight for you, then fine.

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PixieAndTrixie · 20/10/2007 19:51

He is a bloody letch but we have 2 young kids so what am I supposed to do?

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olala · 20/10/2007 19:54

what should you do?
Er - get out of there! apart from how unhappy he makes you, what kind of role model is he for your kids?! ffs. BEt he never lifts a finger round the house.?

Blu · 20/10/2007 19:55

If you sit down calmly and tell him how it makes you feel, will he listen? If you don't nag and yell, but just tell him? Tell him you feel let down, disrespected, and embarrassed to be with a man who secretly photographs other women without their consent?

Start a thread in 'Men's Room' on here and get a male perspective on it - and then show him the thread? (because there are some very sorted men here, who would agree that this is very bad behaviour).

Lulumama · 20/10/2007 19:55

so he is a perv and a letch...

you sound unhappy.. you can go to relate or counselling, and take it from there

Blu · 20/10/2007 19:56

I'm not sure leaving him is necessary at this point....

olala · 20/10/2007 19:59

ok m,aybe not, it was juts it sounded like 'yes he;s horrible, but i;ve got 2 young kids so i'm powerless' - maybe leaving him is not necessary, but it is certainly ok if you feel it IS necessary, 2 young children or not.

fawkeoff · 20/10/2007 20:02

he is a complete todge bag.....i would have shattered his mobile phone and kicked him in the nads. do not feel like you have to lose weight because of him.

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PixieAndTrixie · 20/10/2007 20:06

He ALWAYS eyes up other women especially women size 10 - 12 with curvy figures.

OK - I am a 16 & need to lose weight I know . It is so bloody hard to loose weight though.

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Lulumama · 20/10/2007 20:08

sweet, if he wanted to marry a size 10 - 12 woman, he would not have married you? if he cannot see beyond the superficial , then he is very shallow and immature

horrible attitude to pass on to your DCs

fawkeoff · 20/10/2007 20:08

i am a size 16 and need to lose a bit of weight, but i would not do it to please anyone but myself.do not let him knock your confidence, you are lovely no matter what.he is the one with the problem, and he seems to have no respect for the opposite sex by the sound of it

fawkeoff · 20/10/2007 20:08

seriously....kick him in the bollox

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