Do you talk a lot and is it due to MH issues?

[whatisforteamum]

All my life I have been a chatty person.I have always been able to chat to anyone even though I am not a madly sociable type.It has recently been remarked on at work.Other employers have mentioned it in a jokey way and as I work in a male dominated industry with a lot of loud misogynistic guys I thought it was a put down or differences in the way the sexes communicate.
Now I wonder if it is pressured speech as I do suffer from anxiety.
I do ramble on excitedly about things and would find it hard to just shut up.Now it has been mentioned I feel self conscious even though I suffer poor self esteem to start with.
Anyone else talk too much and do you have the ability to repress it?

Yes I do this too! I have frequently looked back on a meeting or event and been annoyed with myself for talking too much or talking nonsense. I suffer from social anxiety.

Same.😥I also came from a very large family where u had to speak up in the constant noise.

Same here

You sound like me and yes, although I don't consider my ADHD to be a mental health issue

Same here. I will always try to fill a gap. Sometimes it’s because I feel I need to justify my place in the room. Work see it as me not planning and preparing well for meetings.

I just have bags of energy and lots of conversation hotsouple.I am a creative type and only speaking when spoken to would be odd to me.
I definitely could not sit still at a desk quietly.
I feel quiet hurt now as if I shouldn't speak even though everyone else does.Lots of the others talk hypothetically about silly stuff I wouldn't consider.

Yes fridaseyebrows.😕

I talk a lot and don't have mental health issues - I'mjust an extrovert who finds company very energising!. I think I am good at judging what to say and encouraging others to speak. I'm told I'm funny and very easy to talk to. I haven't had any bad feelings / feedback from it.

Remarked on in what way? I'm the sort of person who likes to chat sometimes but appreciates a fair amount of silence so I'd find it really hard to sit near someone who was talking all the time. If you are bothering someone you need to take that into account.

@Titsywoo

Remarked on in what way? I'm the sort of person who likes to chat sometimes but appreciates a fair amount of silence so I'd find it really hard to sit near someone who was talking all the time. If you are bothering someone you need to take that into account.

I'm the same - a bit of chat is fine but there's nothing worse than someone jabbering on about pointless crap when you're trying to get on with something.

I will try titsywoo.

I wish I could repeat the fantacist type discussions they have.! All very immature and a bit ridiculous.I don't say anything as I feel they are bonding.Before anyone says about chatting after work we work long hours so no time for socializing.

My MIL talks endlessly, just streams of verbal diarrhea. It is definitely linked to her poor mental health, but no less exhauting for that.

Yes I need to reign it in a lot! I have social anxiety and it just comes out sometimes. I can shut up when heeded and have learned to listen more. My mum and mil just drivel on and I hope I don’t sound like them. My mum told me a 25 minute story about trying to get Dettol spray the other day. Including the shops she went to who she asked what the response was. It could really have been cut down to ‘ I couldn’t find it in 3 shops, finally got it in b&m’ but 25 minutes. My brother texted me later to say ‘why is mum telling me the saga of Mordor in relation to disinfectant!’

Bashfulclam my dh does this about shopping or travel.😂

I think it's just your manner of conversing. What you're describing isn't pressured speech.

I think I am bubbly and friendly person.However I would feel miserable if I couldn't speak and do sometimes interrupt people mainly because I do get a bit over excited.😦

@whatisforteamum mil is terrible, and she requests the sane things over and over. I had to walk out of the room last Christmas when she started the story about bashing another car with the passenger door during high winds as the door caught the wind....we hear it every time there id wind, every time we take her anywhere and have to park, anytime she sees a red car.....

I do this. I’d probably tell the Mordor disinfectant saga (and hate myself for it) and my mother definitely would.

I’ve just been diagnosed with adhd.

do sometimes interrupt people mainly because I do get a bit over excited.

Whatever your reason, that's rude. If you get so over excited, take a few breaths and calm down.

If several employers are mentioning it, even in a jokey way, it's a problem.

You might think you’re ‘bubbly and friendly’ others don’t seem to think so if they’ve brought it up in a ‘jokey’ way. They’re saying it jokingly rather than bluntly telling you to stop prattling on! And interrupting is really very rude. Bring it down a notch!!!

My MIL is constantly talking and, I confess, I find it very irritating when she’s staying with us. Because, although I do like conversation, I also like to have periods of peace and quiet.

The fact that someone has spoken up about this means that it is an issue there. There will be others who are irritated (like me) but don’t say anything.

Maybe ask yourself the question why you find periods of silence hard to cope with?

I’m sorry if I sound harsh btw.

This is an interesting thread.
What is "pressured speech" please?

@JustaPatioWithAspirations It's a speech pattern associated with hypomania in bipolar disorder, and not what is being discussed in this thread.

Oh thank you - so it was a term being used in an analogous/metaphorical way but has a specific meaning too. I get it.

Always tricky when the language of diagnoisis bleeds over into more common problems.