My partner's driving scares me!

[Charis1503]

Just had a huge row with my fiance about driving.

He has always had fast sports cars, just sold his Porsche and picks up a sodding mazarati at the weekend. He suggested a road trip to Scotland after lock down ect.

There is no way in hell I'm going. His driving absolutely petrified me. He doesn't really break the speed limit - but I feel he drives way to close to the car in front - he always seems to be slamming on his breaks. He pulls out in gaps my crappy nissan would never make in time - I just can't help being scared. Last road trip to Wales I physically threw up I was frightened so badly.

I spend journeys with my eyes closed and actually shaking.

He basically says I suck the fun out of driving and thinks I'm completely pathetic. I've tried to explain why I'm frightened i.e in my car I'd never be able to pull out in a small gap because I don't have the oomph like his car does.

I feel he makes NO effort when I'm in the car to drive more considerately i.e just leave a little bit more space between us and the car in front.

Am I a raving lunatic or should he accept I don't enjoy his driving?

Ok well I don’t want to overreact but this was a red flag that I stupidly chose to ignore vine a past relationship and a few years later my partner was being abusive to me and our kids.
Ask yourself: what sort of person wouldn’t want to keep their fiancé as safe as possible in a car? What sort of person get their kicks from terrorizing other road users? Not a nice, mentally stable person, that’s who.

This would be a big fat red flag for me.

He knows something frightens you to the point you’ve had a physical reaction and he continues to frighten you and blame you for feeling how you do.

Regardless of whether his driving is safe or not it would be very easy for him to put you at ease but he refuses to do so.

I would genuinely consider leaving.

You were physically sick from his driving? How did he react? A normal person would be mortified!

He cares more about getting his kicks from pretending he's Lewis Hamilton than he cares about your feelings. Dump the fucker and make sure your handbag or coat button 'accidentally' scratches his car as well. That will hit the selfish bastard where it hurts.

Hell would freeze over before I would put up with this.
His driving sounds dangerous, and he doesn't give a flying fuck about your feelings.
THis is not a good man OP.

Why would you get in a car ever again with him when you would be scared

He will be in an accident at some point. Hope he rights off his stupid pointless car.

His ego is more important than your comfort or feelings. He sounds awful.

Also, why are you driving a crappy car?

You, lunatic - no. Him, prick - yes.

Agree he sounds like a twat! No one behaves like this in isolation, it's indicative of wider bellend behaviour, selfishness, recklessness etc.
Sooner or later he'll be in an accident- don't be in it too.

What do you get from this relationship? Is he loaded? Is that why you haven’t dumped his pathetic ass?

He sounds like a wanker.
Someone, early on in dating, once showed me a photo he had taken of his speedometer going 120mph. That was the final nail in the coffin for me. People who drive dangerously are selfish And irresponsible, traits which will inevitably spill over into other aspects of life.

Hopefully there are no children involved in this relationship?

He is enjoying scaring you, what will he progress to when he no longer gets a high from doing this to you, worrying stuff.

All of the above. He sounds like a nasty piece of work.

He will probably die as a result of his driving. The question is, who else will he kill? Do you want it to be you?

This is the behaviour Chris Watts demonstrated before annihilating his pregnant wife and two young daughters. What does driving like this tell us about the kind of man he was? He had no empathy. He wanted to frighten them. He didn't care about them. He was incapable of loving them. He wanted them to feel powerless. He hated them. It's a big red flag for an abusive man

And Oscar Pistorius with Reeva Steencamp.

Does he have an acorn dick by any chance?

@WouldstrokeTomHardy

Does he have an acorn dick by any chance?

@ CurrentEvents
You must be joking? Seriously?
Your dh might kill other people with his shit driving. Does that not bother you?

I couldn't imagine being in a relationship with someone who had so little regard for my and other peoples welfare

Massive turn off

I hope he's not driving like that with your kids in the car op. Especially not the baby?

@CandyLeBonBon

Of course he is

My friend dated a man like this and one day when she was complaining about his driving he deliberately did an emergency brake which hurt her neck. The fact that you were sick is not normal and he should not be driving in a way that’s so awful for you as a passenger. Was it from fear or from being physically thrown about? You poor thing - I can’t believe he saw that and still won’t stop. It’s horrific. I’d leave him as I think it’s abusive as he’s ignoring your fear.

All it would take is for the car in front to brake and DH would be horribly mangled

Clearly with no fucks given about the person or people in the car in front