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I have a wonderful DD who is 18 months. Before I went back to work recently, it was arranged that my mum would help look after her one day a week. She goes to nursery 4 days a week and fortunately really loves it. My job doesn't offer part time so I have no choice but to rely on others for childcare.
my mum used to look after my neice 3 times a week each week for almost 2 years. This stopped due to covid and now she's in school.
My mum has just gone back to work after 6 years. She inherited a lot of money (not quite a million but not far off)and has basically spent it all. She cant afford not to work now.
I hate feeling this way but I'm feeling really resentful that my DD doesn't get time with her granny and also i don't get the luxury of a bit of help financially, as now my mum can't help with my DD at all.Her hours are too sproadic and she can't commit.
My mum initially said she would help out as much as she could but I was conscious that toddlers are exhausting and didn't want to ask too much, hence just needing the one day a week.
I feel so sad this evening about it all.DP's family live 5 hours away too, and they rarely ask about dd.
I think the sadness I mostly feel is the relationship my DD is missing out on. I never had grandparents growing up and I really wanted her to feel love from more than me and dp.
I have friends with babies similar ages and they have family offering childcare and making a fuss all of the time.
I don't live very near my mum, so 'popping' in with DD isn't practical.
sorry if I'm rambling, I don't have a particularly large family and I'm feeling a mixture of resentment and sadness.