To wonder if I should have questioned this?

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Dd14 started with the symptoms of a water infection two weeks ago. After a conversation with the emergency doctor she was prescribed three days work of antibiotics and we were told that of she still had symptoms on the fourth day to contact our gp. I did as the symptoms hadn't lessened. Our gp emailed back to ask us to take her in for a urine dip. This apparently came back clear. That was last Wednesday. Her symptoms have worsened but as we had been told she definitely didn't have a water infection she's been drinking loads of water and taking paracetamol when needed.
The last two days she started with a temp and started being sick. She hasn't eaten since Sunday. This morning I checked her temp and it was 39'
I emailed our gp at 8am. At 10am I rang 111 who told me to take her to the local walk in centre. They initially refused to see her as she had a temp. Once I reinforced that we had been told to attend by 111 they saw her in a side room.
Five minutes later we were told to go to a&e. On arrival at a&e her temp was 40 and didn't come down for a long time after they gave her ibuprofen.
She's now been admitted with a kidney infection and is on iv antibiotics. She can't keep her temp down and isn't eating.
Now I'm worried that I should have been more forceful at the docs when we were told that the test was clear even though she was still having symptoms. I feel like I've messed up.

How lovely to have your baby home (and they are your babies, even when they're taller and hairier than you!)

Two things: firstly the 75% rule. She should never do more than 3/4 of what she thinks she can do or seems to be able to do. Always stop and rest before getting too tired. Take pain relief or fever meds as soon as she starts feeling rough, rather than wait until she really needs them. Secondly, don't hesitate to return to A&E if you have concerns. I was told to have a really low threshold for going to A&E after dd was discharged from hospital. She had not had a temperature in hospital, but they said I should bring her to A&E if she developed one for whatever apparent reason.

Encourage her to keep drinking. Warm squash can be quite comforting and tempting. Minimum of 2 litres a day, preferably more. Fill a big bottle of water or squash up each morning and remind her of her challenge to drink it all during the day.

Lemon/orange barley water is good - the barley helps to cleanse the system apparently.

Did she get a CT scan? Appendicitis can prèsent in this way particularly in young people and might not show on US. I am concerned that she had a normal urine test and US but that her Illness has been put down to UTI . There are a few red flags here for me.
Someone on a thread the other day mocked people saying what they did for a living. In fact the GMC mandates that if we comment on social media or a forum we must declare what our profession is. You can guess what I do .....

If she is not right in 48 hours phone the hospital back and ask for a follow up appointment. They should be able to offer an emergency appointment with bloods.

@Dilbertian

How lovely to have your baby home (and they are your babies, even when they're taller and hairier than you!)

Two things: firstly the 75% rule. She should never do more than 3/4 of what she thinks she can do or seems to be able to do. Always stop and rest before getting too tired. Take pain relief or fever meds as soon as she starts feeling rough, rather than wait until she really needs them. Secondly, don't hesitate to return to A&E if you have concerns. I was told to have a really low threshold for going to A&E after dd was discharged from hospital. She had not had a temperature in hospital, but they said I should bring her to A&E if she developed one for whatever apparent reason.

That's really good advice. She's been really emotional since she came home. She's slept pretty well and dh got up in the night to do her antibiotics and pain relief. We are making sure she takes it slowly as she's ok for a bit and then crashes. Dh has been amazing and is making us both chill out today. He's kept the house spotless and made sure we/I have nothing to do other than the school run. Dd is going through that 'I want to be at home but I want to be back in safe hospital' stage. She's pretty clingy but then I've not left her side in days. I was going to sleep in her room but decided not to. I slept ok but I'm still on high alert.

@Notverygrownup

Encourage her to keep drinking. Warm squash can be quite comforting and tempting. Minimum of 2 litres a day, preferably more. Fill a big bottle of water or squash up each morning and remind her of her challenge to drink it all during the day.

Lemon/orange barley water is good - the barley helps to cleanse the system apparently.

She's really good at drinking water and has one of those tracker bottles. She's had one of those already and is on her second bottle. She's had a slice of toast and has kept that down

@olympicsrock

Did she get a CT scan? Appendicitis can prèsent in this way particularly in young people and might not show on US. I am concerned that she had a normal urine test and US but that her Illness has been put down to UTI . There are a few red flags here for me. Someone on a thread the other day mocked people saying what they did for a living. In fact the GMC mandates that if we comment on social media or a forum we must declare what our profession is. You can guess what I do .....

She had physical exams but four or five doctors in a&e and several on the ward. They all came to the same conclusion in a&e. She had bloods done three times and two urine dips in hospital.

@olympicsrock

If she is not right in 48 hours phone the hospital back and ask for a follow up appointment. They should be able to offer an emergency appointment with bloods.

Thank you. That's really useful information. I'll keep it in mind. I think at this point any concerns and I'll be right back in a&e.

Dd is going through that 'I want to be at home but I want to be back in safe hospital' stage.

Dd went through that, too. Seeing her friends really helped her. Tricky now, of course, but could a friend or two drop by for a brief visit in the garden or through a window? A cup of hot chocolate can sometimes be a real tonic.

@Dilbertian

Dd is going through that 'I want to be at home but I want to be back in safe hospital' stage.

Dd went through that, too. Seeing her friends really helped her. Tricky now, of course, but could a friend or two drop by for a brief visit in the garden or through a window? A cup of hot chocolate can sometimes be a real tonic.

She spent some time last night of ft with her two closest friends. That distracted her for an hour or so. When I had her I was in hospital for a couple of weeks after she was born so we had spoken about how you feel a bit weird when you leave hospital for a while. She's just really emotional and feels crap that she's not back to normal straight away. Dh has just had a good talk with her about taking it easy and not rushing it. She's listening but still feeling rubbish.

Convalescence. It's an old-fashioned concept that she's only heard of if she's read old books. But that's what she needs to embrace: she is convalescent. It is an important stage in recovery from severe illness.

@Dilbertian

Convalescence. It's an old-fashioned concept that she's only heard of if she's read old books. But that's what she needs to embrace: she is convalescent. It is an important stage in recovery from severe illness.

We really do forget about that don't we?! Dh told her today that we had no plans for her to go back to school at the beginning of next week. Having already spent two week off school (no close contact but raising issues in the year) she was shocked that we weren't pushing for her to go back ASAP. I don't think she's realised how poorly she was.