So my Mum died in April from covid. Dad died nearly 6 years ago. Husband hasn't given much in way of support other than wash the dishes daily and co parent. According to him this is enough and I should be grateful. I am an only child. Husband and I were struggling because every argument ends in him saying I'm too much or I'm horrible and storming off before I've had a chance to speak. So I booked marriage counselling which he wasn't keen on. One session later he told me to cancel it. He stated in that one session that I'm 'too much' and 'jealous' of him because he 'still has a grandma, both his parents and 2 brothers'. I've tried to contact the wives of the 2 brothers and have given up as they often don't reply to my attempts at communicating because they're so busy they forget to reply. Anyway today I left work early to see him and our daughter. I thought I'd make a veggie shepherds pie and veg as a treat and cooked and my slipped disc flares up. My back went into spasm. My daughter called him to help me. He never came. I called him. Eventually he comes down. Complaining the kitchen is a mess. Complaining there's all this washing up to do. Then I found out a colander he'd washed and pointed out it needed a clean... he says 'you wash it yourself then'....I had to get the pie out and my back is killing me. The plates. Serve it. I serve him and my daughter and walk off. He didn't even care that I was crying. Hasn't even come up to say come and have dinner. I'm sorry. He's sniped at me the whole evening. Yesterday he told me he hates Xmas and wtf was I putting up decorations and the tree. I'm tired of him constantly yelling at me. Belittling me. I need to go down to make packed lunch for our daughter and I feel too scared cos hes in a horrid mood. I'm pathetic. I'm in too much pain too.