Long time lurker. Old username is not working.
Bit of history: dh had a text/emotional affair (?) With female colleague from work over a year ago now. As far as Im aware nothing physical happened. This was ocnfirmed by texts I had seen before I confronted him, perhaps if I didnt there would have been.....
Weirdly a few months after, they had a big spat at work which led to her complaining to the SLT about him. They held a mediation meeting where they had to apologise to each other. After that, tey never spoke.
Fast forward to lockdown....ow had a significant operation she wasnt present in any of the online virtual meetings. Meanwhilst, I gave birth to our third child in Oct..Dh had some time off for this and I got the feeling he wasnt happy....postpartum man blues maybe? Who knows? But Ive had a niggling feeling he didnt really wang third child. He seems distant and detached.
Last week, I was picking second dc up from preschool, when I walked in I could her dh on phone. He like many others is working from home. For some reason, I had a feeling he was talking to this ow. Something about his voicex way he spoke. He seemed very friendly. Laughing and joking about something theyre working on. God knows why I thought it but usually they say rely on instinct. Anyway, it was confirmed it was the ow. I was very upset..one because I didnt think they spoke at work, two because he didnt tell me straight away..I asked him outright.
I stated he did seem verybfriendly with her which he denied. I asked how she was with him and he said shes ok.
She actually contributed to the gifts his team got him from his work which he seemed shocked at, maybe because of that falling out.
Anyway, I have a suspicion she is back at work - dh is allowed back into the office two days a week for now. Only a few people are, as they are very strict..I asked him and he said no he doesnt think she will be back for a long time as she has a few health issues (nothing thats on the clincally vulnerable lists though)
I have a niggling feeling he may be lying and perhaps theyve rekindled their friendship or whatever it was since hes been allowed back kn the office as this is when ive noticed him being very distant...this is how he was last time when I discovered the EA.
Hes only been allowed back in from last week btw.
AIBU to think he is lying to me? Should I try to confront him more or trust him?