Husband had an affair -in my dream- and now I’m slightly annoyed at him

[DavidNowie]

AIBU? Absolutely! But at least tell me I’m not alone! It was a VERY vivid detailed dream and DH slept with my real life friend’s real life hot sister, and was unapologetic afterwards, everyone in my dream was gaslighting me telling me it was no big deal. He’s being so helpful this morning too ! (No wonder after his outrageous behaviour in my dream ) Obviously I’m not phoning the divorce solicitor just yet but honestly there’s a tiny part of me that’s raging and feels wronged lol I think I’m peri menopausal, is this related? Anyway any good ideas for dealing with this weird feeling? I can’t be the only one! I’m debating having a nap during my lunch break and a revenge dream fling with (insert hot Hollywood actor who I haven’t yet decided on name)

I've made dh apologise for his dream sins. I very clearly remember one when he had an affair, I was in an emotional turmoil when I woke - I can understand a pp's friend not speaking to her sister and boyfriend for a day - the pain was so real.

He did physically grab me once, just as I was being physically attacked in my dream, I screamed, he thought I was about to fall out of bed, so went to grab me. I screamed some more. - It was a real dream / reality clash.

I dreamt that DH and I had an awful breakup and when we were sitting out stuff out I had a few items on the side table and he had a huge pile. I was still slightly angry when I woke u p.

This is awful - but I sort of half woke up from a dream like this and started kicking poor shots. Luckily as I was still so half asleep it wasn’t too hard and he was understanding.

Oh my god, he dreamcheated on you!

When I tell my husband I have had a dream he always says 'I apologize for everything I did' before I tell him it's content....

I never told him about José...

Hey, what you and dreamJose get up to is strictly up to you. Fortunately DH finds my sex dreams amusing - it's one thing to be annoyed when you wake up after a very real dream, quite another to hold a genuine RL grudge...

We’ve not had this dream. I was really annoyed with him.

I was so angry at uni when my parents came and met my boyfriend for lunch and the local nightclub and they didn’t invite me. My BF did patiently listen and tried to point out that a) it didn’t happen and b) I didn’t even have a boyfriend but honestly, I was so mad at that made up fucker

I had a very vivid dream that my (now ex) husband was shagging my friend.

He actually was 🙄

Not that I'm saying that this is what's going on with you!

I had the cheating dream once. I actually fell out with DH about it. I knew I was being irrational, but the dream was with someone who I was uncomfortable about so it really touched a nerve! Still can’t believe I got stroppy with him over my dream and I feel so stupid now but at the time, I was peed off!

I had a dream where dh cheated on me with my best friend. In the dream they were both standing naked in the street holding hands whilst I was sobbing, screaming at them, wtf are you both doing???...they both turned away from me and skipped butt naked, holding hands down the street 😂

I just told my dh "see I'm not the only one!!!". Yes, I have these dreams sometimes. Don't think dh actually has sex in the dreams... is more like being in love with someone else. That really hurts in the dream and when I wake up, I let him know how upset he made me.

I am so glad that it's not just me! 😂

DH is a serial dream philanderer. The arse.

He never understood how annoying it is until he had a dream about me playing away and woke up with the right hump.

I've still got it. 😂😂

A good few years ago Dd (now 18) dreamt that her daddy had, in her words, “ran off with some blonde woman and left us”. She was outraged and was v cross with him next day. She assured me that she wouldn’t be going to visit him. Poor ds ended up quite torn between loyalty to me and quite wanting to still see his dad. There was great debate and much outrage from Dd who proved herself very loyal to me! Had to be reminded several times it wasn’t real.
To this day when dh offends Dd in any way she will say “yeah well you’re the one that ran off and left us!”