Friends pregnancy symptoms, I don't think so.

[Falconfield]

So clearly I'm being a bitch and I suppose I feel a bit mean?

Friend is trying for a baby, as am I. All great we can share the highs and lows... lovely.

Well my time of the month has arrived so clearly no baby.
Told friend that I'm a little upset as its been quite some time we have been trying.
Friend has decided she is now definitely pregnant and has been telling me by text and phone calls about all of the pregnancy symptoms she has been experiencing.
Her period would be due in about 10 days (she told me this, I don't stalk her uterus)

How can she possibly be experiencing pregnancy symptoms when she wouldn't even be showing a positive pregnancy test yet?

Im not sure if she really believes it or she is just being mean?
It seems to be the trigger of me being upset about how long it's taking to conceive for her to literally shate in the same conversation how pregnant she feels.

I don't know what I'm asking really, maybe does it seem likely or is she just being a bitch?

[greeneyedlulu]

I had symptoms before a positive test, sore boobs, funny taste in my mouth. I think you're being sensitive which is reasonable in your situation. It does seem as though your friend may be being a bit show off but only time will tell.

[BabyMilkMonster]

I feel sorry for you as this sounds tough OP. But to be completely honest I think you'd sort of brought it into your life by sharing such intimate details from the get go. TTC can be stressful and disheartening and the last thing anyone needs is a running commentary or comparison. I'd take a massive step back and stop sharing this stuff. It would only get worse if you did get pregnant anyway, as it would become comparison of pregnancies.

But, so you are aware, pregnancy symptoms can start that early. I knew at least a week before my AF was due. I had sudden extremely sore boobs like I'd never experienced, which was the first sign, followed by tiredness and headaches. I just knew, and I had been trying for months. I didn't even need to take a test - but DH wanted proof!

[justanotherneighinparadise]

I suggest extracting yourself from this setup by saying you’ve decided to stop trying. Just say you’ve knocked it on the head until some point in the future. Get her off your back. Keep trying and announce when you’re twenty weeks. Job done.

[Lozz22]

I knew I was Pregnant before I'd even tested. Had the most painful boobs ever to the point I was pretty much in tears from the pain. Went off chocolate and my sense of smell increased dramatically. That started around 2 weeks before I took the test. Unfortunately post miscarriage every pre period symptom is now identical too

[uisage]

Sorry that your period has arrived, it must be difficult for you to hear her talk about it.

Most early pregnancy symptoms are unfortunately also pre menstrual symptoms. When ttc I've been utterly convinced I'm pregnant right up until my period showed up. I would take her chat with a pinch of salt and maybe try to tone down the ttc with her - I preferred talking to strangers on the internet because when they got pregnant, I didn't need to talk to them again.

[Simplyunacceptable]

She’s just symptom spotting, it’s usually wishful thinking but she obviously might be pregnant too.

You’re understandably feeling fragile so just explain that to her, I’m sure she’ll understand.

[Tealuver]

This is a tough situation for you, and I've been there myself. My colleague & I were ttc at the same time, we actually conceived very close together & then unfortunately both miscarried close together aswell. This was the focus of our friendship and it was very depressing. I then got pregnant again, and she didn't. I felt so akward throughout & felt like I couldjt enjoy my pregnancy or even mention it around her. Having two people trying to conceive at the same time is not ideal. Try to distance yourself from it abit if possible

[Ilovechinese]

I think its very unlikely to have symptoms of pregnancy 10 days before a period is due but people who desperately want to be pregnant can convince themselves they are having symptoms. I dont know if she is being a bitch, you know her personality and what she is like so only you can judge that.

[Bluesheep8]

Am I the weirdo for finding it weird that people (friends included) discuss such personal issues. Why is nothing kept Private.

No you're not a weirdo! And if you are, I am too. I cannot understand why people have to share EVERYTHING. Constantly.

[LeSquigh]

Sometimes you want to believe something so much that you actually feel it. On the other hand she may well know she’s pregnant. I did, every time, almost instantly after conception.

[roarfeckingroarr]

It's threads like this that make me think the whole early pregnancy spotting industry is damaging. Expensive tests to tell you early, posters desperately seeking strangers' opinions for whether there is a very faint line etc. It cannot be good for a woman's stress levels, which in turn harms chances of conceiving naturally.

[Russellbrandshair]

@Bluesheep8

Am I the weirdo for finding it weird that people (friends included) discuss such personal issues. Why is nothing kept Private.

No you're not a weirdo! And if you are, I am too. I cannot understand why people have to share EVERYTHING. Constantly.

I must be weird too because I don’t get this either!

Why? Why do people have to share every tiny detail of their lives including their periods and when they’re having sex? It’s bloody bizarre.
Also, clearly it’s not particularly healthy if it’s causing the OP to get upset by it so it can’t be that wonderful can it if it’s causing this amount of upset 🙄