To be disappointed about this?

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We had to do a bit of a fluffy exercise at work.

To pick a celeb/character/person who you admire who has the qualities that are aspirational to our team.

I did a bit of a fun one with my daughter on Elsa from frozen. All the others were men. Mostly ones in suits.

First time ever I've really felt sexism. AIBU?

......how is that sexist?

Do you work with men? I guess women would choose women and men would choose men?

Not against me. But just more generally. They all just happened to pick men. But we don't live in a sexist world?

Mostly men but the women also chose men.

You didn't pick a woman either. You chose a cartoon stereotype of one...

It surprises me that women would choose men. Are you in a traditionally male industry? Perhaps they are looking to industry leaders or historical figures for inspiration?

So then you’re also sexist for picking a woman.

It’s the whole picture a scientist...old man grey hair ? Never a women normally when you ask children.

I would say it’s not sexist but a Prejudice. Most people thought of a male role model first

Actually @BlueBirdGreenFence has a point. The only woman chosen was a cartoon, which is really sad.

But you didn’t pick a woman either?

Who did people choose ?

I just chose to do something with my daughter and let her choose for a bit of fun. I didn't really think about it until a saw the outcome.

Just sad that men and women aspire to.. well men!?

I can understand your perspective, me I'd choose Scully from xfiles

@Hawkins001 a range of people, CEO of a corporate American company, captain cook, big hero 6, someone from suits.. but all male.

Women are allowed to admire men. And perhaps they just did the exercise properly.

Whats wrong with Elsa @user1473878824 ?

Men never admire women though do they? Never. That's my point.

I don’t see what the issue is? As a woman I admire and look up to many men but it doesn’t mean I’m sexist and hate the whole of the female species.

What does Elsa bring to your team? And how long has your daughter been a part of it to pick a character that it can aspire to? You’re being massively unreasonable so perhaps the problem is everyone else did it properly.

You picked a cartoon but are judging women for not picking another woman.

Lots of men admire women and actually the most sexist bit of this thread is you saying they NEVER do.

I can’t believe you think this is you experiencing sexism for the first time.

Ok. IABU.

YANBU. It's a sign of the sexism in our society that no one chose a woman in this exercise, just one cartoon girl. Not just the statistical bias in the OP's colleagues but in the apparent dearth of role models.

I'm not judging women. I'm just saying I feel sad that it just happens that everyone in our team happens to admire men.

Just sad that men and women aspire to.. well men!?

Well, the men and women in your team do!

YANBU, but you won’t get a sensible discussion on this in AIBU.

It's fine that they admire men; but I'd have hoped they'd equally admire women and so randomly you should have got a mix. That's the point isn't it?

Yes that's the point @ErrolTheDragon