To think older women don't like other older women?

[malificent7]

In the workplace. I am 42...ime women my age or older can be nean as they cannot mother me/ see me as a( non-existant ) threat. The younger women seem to be lovely to me bar 1 or 2 ageist types.
Why do we give each other such a hard time?
Men get mollycoddled by women regardless of age.
It's tough being okder and jow depresding at age 42, i am deemed " older." ( this has been said to me directly....i feel young still.)

Sorry...typos ...wine!

I meant..." It's tough being older and how depressing at 42 that I am seen to be old."

I work with a group of women, we range between 40 and 65. They are the most amazing and supportive team I’ve ever worked with.

Not true in my case.

I love older people, but then I'm comfortable with ageing. I still like fashion and style but sometimes talking to younger people I feel like, well, I've worked my way through these anxieties, I used to feel like this, or I've had this conversation before.

I love the company of women my own age and feel sad that everybody I work with is at least twenty years younger than I am.

I'm 50.

Why do you think they see you as a threat?

I do think though, that some people, insecure people with low self-esteem and a big ego, there is obviously a lower ''social capital'' to being older. And that type of person (who uses those around them to either validate them or to feel superior) will shun those with lower social capital and love bomb those they perceive to have a higher social capital who can validate them.

Oh, give over!

You might sober-up and re-write whatever it is you're trying to say.

You know you are being very silly by saying you're old at 42.

Not in my experience. Maybe you're unlucky.

@BettysSpaghetti

I work with a group of women, we range between 40 and 65. They are the most amazing and supportive team I’ve ever worked with.

I need to change jobs I think! I'm missing out so badly.

I don't know what you're on about to be honest, I work with people of all ages and get on with almost all. Where I don't get on with them it has nothing to do with their age or gender and more to do with them being difficult to work with or get on with.

It might be time to change employer. Not all places are like this - your workplace sounds a bit toxic to be honest.

As Bettyspaghetti says - my team is 34 - 60 and is a wonderful group to work with 100% female- no issues at all

Similar to a pp, I have an all woman team, everyone is over 45 and we are bloody excellent. Colleagues, friends and so good at what they do. I am proud to work with them.

This is honestly not my experience

Not in my experience, my boss and colleagues are great!

I suspect you're not sober enough to make much sense, but if I understand what you're saying correctly, it's that women older than you (or the same age) can't mother you or see you all some sort of threat therefore they are mean to you. If that's what you're saying, what ageist nonsense

I'm seen as one of the younger ones still at work & im 44!

I think what you are trying to say in a pissed kind of way is that

1. the other women at work are unpleasant/ unsupportive or bitchy to you & you are trying to rationalise that (but sometimes they are just bitches sorry).

2. you're only 42 but you feel down because you feel old?

I was going to vote yabu, but then I realised that something has happened and you've had a rubbish day. I'm sorry somebody has made you feel like this. And you are definitely young!

I don't think people think of me as "older" at 41. Well, of course I am technically older than women in their 20s and 30s, but I don't think it's "at thing" that you're automatically thought of as "older" once you're in your 40s.

I also don't think it's typical that women 40+ are less likely to be friendly with one another than women who are younger. If anything, I think it might be the opposite, since women are probably "competing" with one another less at that age. You're usually more comfortable in your skin. Many have settled down in relationships or aren't actively looking for some other reason. You've probably matured and/or mellowed a bit.

I find usually situations like this can be traced back to one or two nasty individuals making others tense and miserable. You just have to find your stirrer - who could be male or female.

• "a thing"

I have had two awful experiences though, two passie aggressive scapegoating narcs. But they are the minority.

I work with men and women of all age groups and I've never experienced what you've said.

Some womens arei nice, somsje Nodth.... Hicks

Cheers op .

@BettysSpaghetti

I work with a group of women, we range between 40 and 65. They are the most amazing and supportive team I’ve ever worked with.

Same here.

The camaraderie, support and teamwork in my team at work is amazing. One member is in her 20s I think, and the rest of us won't see 40 again, or 50, or 60 in my case.

I'm sorry @malificent7 I think you work with some horrible people.