To fucking hate myself at the moment

[BloodyGross]

Because I'm pregnant and feel so fucking ugly and fat.

I could literally cry when I see myself.

We all have our things I suppose. I'm in the best shape of my life. I look fucking great tbh, never better. Would love to be pregnant and a fatter however.

Do some exercise, watch your calories, put some make up on.

Grass is always greener etc.

@Titsinknicks do you really think that's a helpful comment?

@bloodygross you're not fat or ugly. Be kind to yourself. Hormones are a horrible thing. Why not do something that makes you feel better? Watch a film you like, have a nice shower etc. I'm sorry you're feeling so poo.

Titsinknicks What was the fucking point in your post?

BloodyGross I doubt you are but me saying that won’t make you feel better. I hated how I looked pregnant but it’s not forever.

Change your user name for a start!

I don't for a second mean to sound like I'm not happy to be pregnant.

But I feel so horrible in my body right now. I feel just rounder everywhere, even my face! And my hair is horrid.

I don't think lockdown is helping as I've been WFH I've not really had any need to do myself up iyswim. I just feel very low about it at the moment.

BloodyGross right, that makes sense. Make the effort even if you are working from home. If wearing make up or whatever makes you feel better about yourself then do that.

Yeah, this thread ain't going to go down well.

How far along are you OP? I had similar feelings in my first trimester (looked fat, was bloated, terrible skin, hair falling out) then as I progressed through the second trimester it all came together again - bump filled out to a lovely round shape, my hair grew super thick and shiny, skin cleared up etc.

Pregnancy does mental things to your body and brain, so be gentle with yourself!

I understand how you’re feeling lovely, I’m 10 weeks and for the past 3 I’ve felt horrendous. Bloated and generally hating every part of my slowly expanding body 😂 But I’ve been lucky to only be able to drink water which has been working absolute wonders for my skin- small wins!!

The other day I decided to have a nice shower, make an effort to do my hair and put on make up for the first time since... well, March I think 😂 It made the world of difference even if it was only for a short while!

Be kind to yourself, what you and you’re body are going through is nothing short of incredible 💪🏻

And hormones are an absolute bitch!

Being pregnant is all kinds of weird. Is this your first? I turned into a blimp and nearly blocked out the sun when I was pregnant with my first. I was enormous. It was tough!

I totally know how you feel though. Eventually you’ll get back to how you were before, and you’ll have this amazing tiny human being that your body made, even when it was round and you didn’t feel very happy with it. You’ll realise how incredible that really is.

Hormones and body image are horrendous at times but try to be good to yourself.

I didn't feel like myself at all while I was pregnant. I didn't mind being fat so much, but I looked tired and had horrendous, bright red breakouts all throughout. I didn't glow and I didn't love being pregnant. My one consolation, was knowing that it was for a finite period of time and the end result would, be worth it... and it certainly was worth it.

@BloodyGross Don't worry, no-one in their right mind thinks that just because you're having a little moan that you're not happy to be pregnant.

Being pregnant can be a pain in the bum at times, wonderful though it may also sometimes be. It can feel flipping endless when you're going through it but try to remember that it is temporary. And it's okay to feel a bit fed up at times.

Go easy on yourself. Think of something nice you can do for yourself. Even something small like a short walk, warm bath, do your nails, curl up on the sofa with a good book or a favourite podcast, put on your favourite comedy TV show or movie or put on some of your favourite music.

Oh and I snored like a pig. I'd even wake myself up it was so bad.

@Titsinknicks are you drunk very helpful op I'm feeling like a fat pig too. Never had this problem with my first but this time round has taken its toll on my body a bit. I'm only 27 all worth it tho. I'm determined to lose it once I've had the baby and get back to my pre baby weight. Wearing certain clothes helps. I find wearing pretty maternity dresses makes me feel better than jeans and a top. Much more flattering. Doesn't help winter maternity clothes aren't anywhere near as nice a summer ones. Is your dp or spouse reassuring you?

Growing a baby tends to make you put on weight!!!

I think @Titsinknicks was coming from a kind place actually. Sometimes it can help to remember that so many people will see your beautiful bump and wish that it was them. And yes we all have are own insecurities no matter where we’re at. But I also think pregnancy is a tough and anxious time and women should not have to be silent just in case they appear ungrateful. Of course OP is grateful and excited for her baby.

@BloodyGross how many weeks are you? I promise it gets better, I put on masses of weight with both mine and had a balloon face. By the time they were a year, I was pretty much back to normal (albeit with bigger eye bags) You are growing a human and that’s amazing, it’s going to take its toll but you will look back on photos of your bump and miss it! Be kind to yourself. I can also guarantee you don’t look anywhere near as bad as you think you do! Treat yourself to a nice bath, face mask, body lotion, new pjs? If you’re still in the middle stage, I actually think I felt better once I had the huge bump and was so obviously pregnant not fat! Xx

God yes. I felt like that throughout all my pregnancies. It will pass. By the time I was on baby 3 I knew to keep myself fit, not use eating for two as an excuse to be greedy and to take care of my skin, hair and nails. I was still a ruddy blotchy angry blimp but afterwards I got back to myself pleasingly quickly.

I suggest keeping your eye on the prize of post-natal recovery.

The horrors of pregnancy body are real but have an end. Know that it is temporary.

I remember this - YANBU OP! Pregnancy isn't the least bit lovely for many women, and it can be downright awful, but I promise that most or all goes back to normal eventually. It is horrid though isn't it.

I bet you don't look gross at all. I'm 26 weeks and feel huge plus I have a big red face which looks vile (to me only, noone else seems to even notice it). I felt like a big heifer the last 2 times I was pregnant too but I look back at photos and I looked fab. I probably do this time too (or maybe I just take a good photo and I'm shocking in real life, but I prefer my version!) My point is that you're most likely being far too hard on yourself due to hormones and noone else thinks you look fat and gross in the slightest. Do your hair, stick some lippy on and you will feel better. And its so so worth it

Tell you what...nothing is as beautiful and powerful as a pregnant, fertile woman.
Society being patriarchal is scared of the power of curves and fertility. Well fuck that...i bet you look great.

I feel your pain op. I've gained probably over 3 stone now (32 weeks on Monday but gained most of it in the first and second trimester). Im fucking huge. My face is so round and I have a massive double chin. Cellulite where there was none before. Haven't been able to exercise because of HG and terrible back and hip pain since 9 weeks bloody pregnant.
The onmy good thing is my skin is pretty good at the moment, but that will change when the baby comes out.
None of my old shirts or jackets fit. I had all these plans of nice outfits to wear so I didn't have to spend too much on maternity clothes, and I can't even get my once baggy shirts over my fat arms! I know it will take me ages to lose the weight this time aswell, which is making this even more depressing!
I spend my life in fucking trainers, leggings and horrible maternity tops that are too short, because apparently maternity wear doesn't actually need extra room at the front! Can't get any of my nice winter boots on. Its just fuckinv depressing.

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion omg! I could have wrote this!
Wear the fuck is my glow

OP, sorry you're feeling this way. Of course, I don't know what you actually look like, but from my personal experience, I felt HUGE when I was pregnant. I gained a crazy amount of weight at the time. Anyway, by 3 months post partum I was back to pre baby weight and had lost 2 stones. Don't stress yourself now. Just crack on with weight loss after baby is born.
And most likely, you don't look as bad as you think!

I never think of a pregnant woman as "fat".

I do get that you can feel uncomfortable because your clothes don't fit, your shape is changing, some movements are harder, you're slower and unbalanced. The odd aches and pains don't help the feeling of well being.

Agree with @malificent7 - pregnant woman are beautiful. Allow yourself a bit of a wallow but not for too long and just think about the amazing thing your body is doing.

@WhoUsedMyName oh I glow, everytime I'm throwing up my guts and pissing myself in tandem, while trying to get kids ready for school, or try to do any kind of physical activity ie. Housework or just my general work thats pretty physical, I get a lovely sweaty sheen all over 😂

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion oooooh im just so glad it's not just me 😂 I don't dare fart in fear my wee can't hold the pressure