No effort for my birthday

[birthdaybitch27]

My partner has made 0 effort for my birthday whatsoever and I feel so angry about it!

He asked me what I wanted a few weeks ago and told me to order it as he doesn't know how to do it all. So he didn't even order it himself or get someone to do it for him but I'm used to doing that kind of stuff so no big deal.

Woke me up this morning at 6am with our 2 year old and he's just gone downstairs to watch the news and left me with her. He's been getting her up early all week and I asked if he could give me a little lie in today - obviously didn't care about that.

Heard the kettle thought at least he'll do me a tea, nope just made his own.

And to top it off he hasn't even gave me a card or a present, it's still on top of the wardrobe and he done my "card" on a scrap piece of paper because he couldn't find the keys to go to the shop at 9pm last night.

AIBU or being a brat?

Yes you are being a brat, it's half 6 ffs

Happy Birthday!!

I'd be a bit annoyed too. Although it is early still so the day could get better. I think he should have let you have a little lie in and making you a cup of tea would have been nice. Fingers crossed he'll do something later

Why am I even awake at half 6? He's woke me up for nothing? I know my partner and this is it he won't whip a surprise out the bag

Happy birthday! I don’t think you are being a brat.

I wouldn’t want to be woken at 6 and left with my 2 year old on my birthday! Can barely stand it on my non birthday!

Ps happy birthday!

Thank you 😃🎉

Honestly, I'd be having massive words over this. It's just displaying a total lack of consideration for you and your feelings.

Happy birthday! x

Happy Birthday! You are not being a brat, he sounds massively inconsiderate. What is he like the rest of the time?

He’s selfish. Get him to get your dd and bring you tea then leave you alone.

You’re not being a birthday brat! It’s not fair not to make any effort for your partners birthday. It’s the one day of the year that’s your special day and you deserve to feel looked after and spoilt.
No card? No cup of tea? No lie in? Is he usually so inconsiderate?
I’d be having a major strop! Looks like you are going to have to spoil yourself today op. Run a bath, take your child down to him to look after. Go out for a walk somewhere lovely, get a really nice coffee/hot chocolate.
And ask him what he’s cooking for dinner - or if he’s treating you to a takeaway?

It’s difficult in these Covid times but lots of things just take a bit of thought.
Happy birthday op x

Happy birthday. You are not being a brat. A cup of tea and half an hours extra sleep wouldn't be much to ask.

Of course you're not being a brat, its about respect and consideration in relationships. You will always get people here that seem to look down on adults and birthdays, strange people. But I'm guessing he's like this anyway so he wasn't suddenly going to turn into a nice guy just because its your birthday.

Nope, I'd be pissed off too. As soon as I open my eyes on my birthday I want it to be acknowledged.

Happy Birthday!

Yanbu at all. It's totally shit. Is he always this rubbish? If so then why do you expect anything different? I would be really unhappy with this lack of basic effort. How hard is it to buy something online or send flowers? Why do you put up with this substandard shit?

Happy Birthday! I hope your friends and family make it up to you. Treat yourself and take liberties today, you can let him know you're making up for his lack of effort.

Happy Birthday!
Is your DH usually so inconsiderate ? If I where you I'd lay it on the line to him
I bet you just want to be treated the same way YOU treat HIM on his birthday.

It's my birthday too (and I've been up since 6am with 15 month old DS too!). Happy birthday! I feel you with the lack of effort. I have just opened the Amazon packages which have been sat on our dining table all week. I've compensated for it by eating chocolate for breakfast (in secret so I didn't have to share with DS). I hope your day gets better!

Happy birthday!!

Your partner sounds shit. I bet the most productive thing he does all day is break wind.

Your not being a brat at all! It's the one day of the year we should be able to feel special. Happy birthday x

Happy Birthday too @mynameiscalypso
Would buying some wrapping paper and wrapping up presents have been beyond your partner? Honestly, the amount of shit men and birthdays on here.... have a good day anyway

Happy birthday. Take him your child and say right where is my present and card that you've been working hard on then? Time for my birthday cup of tea after my lie in see you later.

You aren’t being a brat, on here some think you can’t celebrate your birthday as an adult.

However it’s early in the day. You could comment on your disappointment if you wish? Or would that make the day worse?

A little effort of a card and a thoughtful gift with a little lie in with a brew isn’t that much to ask for in my opinion.

Happy Birthday OP! Give your little one lots of cuddles and hope he sorts himself out x

So he didn't even order it himself or get someone to do it for him but I'm used to doing that kind of stuff so no big deal.

What do you mean by this? If you are happy to play the martyr then this is the standard you have set.