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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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I'm feeling a bit paranoid

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binnhill · 25/11/2020 09:46

I live in a very rural area, single track lane, a mile to nearest neighbour etc.

I have a dog who I walk offlead. I carry a lead in case a car comes. He always goes onto grass verge if a car comes and waits till it passed.
A few times he has gone off to explore.
Somebody local took photos of him and posted him on Facebook and now various people I know have commented on the 'poor thing'
My nearest neighbour posted my address on Facebook saying that's where he's from.
I feel paranoid now, I feel she shouldn't have put my address out
.AIBU?

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Looneytune253 · 25/11/2020 09:48

Why is he a poor dog? Just curious as to what the caption was? Unless they thought he was always out alone or something? In which case comment on the post, call them out and say you are always with him he's just out sniffing as dogs do

Newname88 · 25/11/2020 09:48

YANBU
Neighbour could have said she knew where he was from without revealing the address.
Have you requested to have her comment removed?

ChateauMargaux · 25/11/2020 09:53

Ask your neighbour to remove your address. Reply to the post stating that you are the owner, thanks for all the concern, Fido loves wandering around off lead but has excellent recall and is no threat.

JaJaDingDong · 25/11/2020 09:53

Did she say "he's from the house at the end of the muddy lane" or something, or did she say "he's from 3 Mud Lane"?

Either way though, addresses are not exactly confidential information. House numbers and road names are on show for all to see - you wouldn't get any deliveries otherwise.

BlueThistles · 25/11/2020 09:58

I would be furious if someone posted my address on fucking FB...

TELL her to remove it immediately

Sparklingbrook · 25/11/2020 10:00

Can you ask the site to take the post down.

They should not be posting your address

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 25/11/2020 10:01

She needs to remove your address before some do gooder comes to rescue your 'poor ddog'...

Nymeriastark1 · 25/11/2020 10:01

YANBU to feel paranoid, that would make anyone feel paranoid why has she done it??

Lindy2 · 25/11/2020 10:02

You can report the post to the group admins. They'll receive a notification to alert them and they can delete it. I would message them too to ask that your address be removed asap. If you click on the group details you'll be able to see who the admins are.

Why do they think he is a poor dog? Surely you were close by even if he was exploring. If he's going off on his own for a prolonged amount of time, that's probably not wise, but still no excuse to put your address on a Facebook group.

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binnhill · 25/11/2020 10:06

I don't know, why she put out the address. It's a local private group and they all seem to know each other.
I've. just commented saying' thanks for your concern ,dog is fine '. They haven't replied. If they felt he was at risk I feel they should have talked to me instead of posting comments back and forward like 'shame' etc

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BlueThistles · 25/11/2020 10:44

too soft OP...

tell them to remove your address or you will post all of theirs

GoldfishParade · 25/11/2020 10:48

You are being too soft and casual about this.

Write out a proper post explaining more about your dog's life, include snuggly photos, express controlled anger re sharing your address, and do it quickly before your dog gets snatched and "rescued" one afternoon

DrDetriment · 25/11/2020 10:54

YANBU but is there a reason people are concerned about him? Does he have health issues, weight issues etc?

SchrodingersImmigrant · 25/11/2020 10:56

No one, let alone many people, will be commenting "poor thing" and "shame" on a pic of a dog on a grass verge unless there is something wrong with the dog or owner wasn't there.

I would ask admin to take it down immediately

Winniewonka · 25/11/2020 11:00

Did they think he was lost and that's why your neighbour gave your address? I would put them straight by telling you were not far behind him and he enjoys being let off the leash. Saying he's fine doesn't really explain. Get them to remove your address immediately especially if it's been given in the form of a postal address.

Ponoka7 · 25/11/2020 11:02

I have a disabled cat (it doesn't stop her hunting though) who pops up on lost pet fb forums every few weeks. The scanning groups now know me, so don't go out to scan her anymore. I just explain her disability (which is why she stinks and is a mess, as well as her other issues) and stonewall any suggestions that she shouldn't go out.

I'd ask her outright what the hell she was doing by posting your address and shut down any other comments. Explain the real situation behind the picture and tell the person posting to find another way of getting attention.

GoldfishParade · 25/11/2020 11:03

I don't understand on second thoughts. They gave your address as being where hes from. So they know he has a home and owner. So in that case what are they saying poor thing about?

Also why do you carry a lead "in case of cars when you also say he goes onto the verge when there are cars?

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binnhill · 25/11/2020 14:32

They say poor thing because they're saying he's out alone all hours day or night .
I carry the lead just to be extra careful because one time I was out the farmer started bringing sheep along the road to move to another field. So I put him on the lead to be safe.

He runs free ahead of me most of the time. If he heard the odd car, etc he runs to grass verge beside me. I put on lead, wait for car to pass then back to free walking.

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GoldfishParade · 25/11/2020 21:18

Do you mean he doesnt come into your house ever? He free roams around day and night, like a cat?

SBTLove · 25/11/2020 21:21

I think OP means the dog has been seen ‘alone’ but is likely just run on ahead and nosey guys have assumed he’s alone.
@binnhill
I’d be clear that he’s not allowed out unaccompanied and is a well cared for dog and tell your neighbour to delete your address asap!

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binnhill · 25/11/2020 21:29

No Goldfishparade he doesn't roam free like a cat!

He's lying by the fire a lot and has several beds too .

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VetiverAndLavender · 25/11/2020 21:31

I wouldn't feel safe having my dog off-lead near or on a road. No matter how savvy he is, all it takes is one time for him to not hear the car or fail to move out of its way. I'm not surprised neighbours disapprove, especially if they think they've seen him out entirely on his own.

That said, it was wrong to give your address on FB. You should tell them to take it down, and if they don't, I'd contact the admin of the group.

Mydogmylife · 25/11/2020 21:40

I think you need to get more of a grip on this tbh. Get your address off, and as pp said make it perfectly clear that he is well looked after. Some daft person will take it on themselves to'rescue' him. Have a strong word with your friend as well

Hopespring · 25/11/2020 21:49

I don't understand op. How did someone take photos of him?. Where was he/you and why did they put them on FB?

IamBear · 25/11/2020 21:52

You can report the post/comment with you address on and it should be removed.

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