Does it annoy you?

[Vernonisfit]

Inspired a little by another thread. I tend to post most days on my Instagram with pics of my toddler Dd, do people really find this annoying and is it over sharing? Does it piss you off to see pics of others children or do you think it’s nice to see?

I wouldn't say it's annoying but I do think it's inappropriate.

It's your account, so I say do what you want! If people don't like it, they don't have to follow you. I'd much rather see a cute kid's face than some of the stuff people post to the IG (endless selfies, political commentary, etc.)!

It doesn’t annoy me but if I’m totally honest I do kind of judge people who plaster their kids all over social media. Worse when it’s at the beach, in their swimwear, at the pool, in their pants, in the bath, on the toilet, in a towel etc etc. Such an invasion of your poor child’s privacy who doesn’t have any say in having their private moments uploaded on the internet. I’m also very paranoid about perverts getting a hold of the photos and using them / photoshopping them etc. Even if it’s ‘only friends and family’ - do you really know all of their partners and/or other people who may be able to access their account? I have two very pretty little daughters and it really freaks me out so I just text photos/videos to immediate family once a week or so.

It's pretty much the norm these days so I don't suppose in 30 years it will be an issue at all. Especially judging by the excess of selfies out there.

Why wouldn't invading a child's privacy be an issue in 30 years?

And why do you think there's an 'excess of selfies' out there? Possibly because children are being raised by parents who repeatedly post their private image online?

30 years ago it was the norm to make children finish everything on their plates at mealtimes.

30 years later, many overweight Mumsnetters are still blaming that for their adult weight struggles.

So parental decisions '30 years ago' can have a definite effect on adult life.

Why do you actually do it though?

I hadn’t really considered it being a bad thing as it’s done out of love and everyone else I know does it

Imagine if Instagram had been around in your mother's day and she had posted pictures of you most days/twice a week/few times a week (whichever one it actually is...). Of course they are beautiful to your mother. What if you hated them though? What if you found them excruciatingly embarrassing? Or if the queen bee at school came across them and took the piss relentlessly?

It is your daughter's image, not yours. This is actually about her feelings, not yours. If she can consent then great! Please be mindful that in future, she might not like it though.

FWIW, I'd just scroll past, even if you were a relative. Not really into looking at pictures of kids.

Not in the slightest - but I don't use Facebook, Instagram or Pinterest because I am not remotely interested in seeing boring pictures of other people's twatty children pretending to have perfect lives.

Cats on twitter however.......

Wow. Some mean comments there..!

I just mute people whose photos I find tiresome.

One of my friends posts constant photos of her kids, I don't want to unfriend her so I just mute so I don't see her posts. I don't need to see daily photos of what her toddler is wearing/eating. It's only interesting to the parents and grandparents.

The thing is OP even if your account is "private" and only shared with family and friends, those photographs are still sitting on a server somewhere and once uploaded you don't have control of what happens to them. It's for that reason I personally don't upload photos that show my children's faces.

Quite dull if posting daily.

Inspired a little by another thread. I tend to post most days on my Instagram with pics of my toddler Dd, do people really find this annoying and is it over sharing? Does it piss you off to see pics of others children or do you think it’s nice to see?

I thought this was the point. Ignore the miseries on here and post what you like on your own pages.

If you're posting on Instagram frequently I'd put the photos in your stories. That way people can decide if they want to view them or not.

I had fertility issues and have a few childless friends on fb So share pics once or twice a year birthday Xmas etc. And now mostly just send it family whstup for this very reason ,

J have funds who have posted their primary Agee

Oops
... are kids on the toilet and other v personal meal health struggles which I think was way to much personal info

@jeppyjop

OP, seriously it doesn’t matter. If it annoys someone they can mute or unfollow you. It’s simple. Life is too short to give a shit what they think. Enjoy your child!

It does matter though. It matters because it's making a decision to put images online of a person who can't consent yet. Even if it's only for friends and family, you don't know how tight their privacy settings are.

I don't mind seeing friends kids on my feeds. I don't enjoy seeing mature adults posting 10 selfies a day as posts/stories of themselves in mirror selfie's, bedroom selfies, gyms, sausage legs in a bathtub etc. I have a separate Instagram account for my toddler where I only have dc's play date friends and mine/DH's family on it and I only post my lo's pictures on my own account probably once every 2 months. So tbh, I prefer seeing kids than seeing mature adults posting so much so they could get good pictures for tinder.

The question to ask yourself is why are you sharing ?
If it is to project a certain image if your perfect life ? I know someone who worked all through half term had the Nanny take care of the kids ( no judgement ) then boasted all over fb a load of photos that made it seem she had baked, played and been super mum all week which was massive miss representation of the truth I knew , why ?

think to yourself why do I need the likes and comments telling me my child is cute or I'm a great mum ( or whatever)

Generally speaking only my parents appreciate a daily / weekly photo anyone else would find it boring and dull to see regular pic of anyone else. Even my cousins kids nieces and nephew who I love without measure I'm happy to see just now and again

I also find it hard to think of comments to write , constantly bring under pressure to to type " what a cutie" every time is tiresome and boring too. And I hate making beauty related comment about little girls as that seems not v woke these days

lots of folk love having face book memories pop up and keep fb like a sort of online archive... each to there own I say

It holds zero interest for me. I don't know you or your DD so wouldn't follow you. If you want to do it, do it, but do understand most people don't give a monkey's about your photos.

@nitsandwormsdodger It’s not to protect a perfect life as I don’t have one and no one does. I’m not sure 🤷🏻‍♀️I guess I’m just proud of her, we waited 10 years to conceive with ivf etc so now she is my life. In the way my life used to be more about travelling, shots of beautiful places, drinks, friends etc..now its much more family based. I’m also at home at the moment so have that time, I enjoy seeing what other little ones are doing to and am on many toddler groups for activities etc. I don’t do it to seek any validation or project a perfect life (my photos don’t do this) so I’m not sure why really aside from showing friends and family and keeping a record for myself which I often look back over.

I agree that I find constant adult selfies quite bizarre..but then, that’s their thing I guess. I also used to post a lot of my dog before Dd came along 😂

do people really find this annoying and is it over sharing? Does it piss you off to see pics of others children or do you think it’s nice to see?

I don't get the premise of the question. People choose what they have on their SM, and they choose what to look at it. Who the fuck is choosing to look at pics of peoples kids and then complaining about it? If they are, they're idiots.

If you think people are over-sharing, why are you looking? Nutjobs.

People outside of MN, who like the people they add on SM don't mind seeing pictures of their children. Carry on and whoever doesn't like it can mute it.

MN doesn't reflect RL when it comes to interpersonal relationships.

@BakedTattie
Perhaps she has a particularly heavy finger and inadvertently keeps setting off the 'burst mode' of her camera / phone.

Or maybe she doesn't know how to use the video facility and expects you to print off the 30 or so pictures and assemble them into one of those 'flick books' ?

@Thermo

It doesn’t annoy me. We are all in control of our social media feeds and can mute what we aren’t into , so we only see the things we are.

My Instagram would annoy many I’m sure, but it’s up to them what they follow

Post away. It’s not for you to decide if it’s annoying :)

Amen!