Does it annoy you?

[Vernonisfit]

Inspired a little by another thread. I tend to post most days on my Instagram with pics of my toddler Dd, do people really find this annoying and is it over sharing? Does it piss you off to see pics of others children or do you think it’s nice to see?

My Instagram is entirely pictures of my kids (started during lockdown so family could see them). If people find that annoying then I assume they'd unfollow me 🤷‍♀️

I enjoy my friend's daily cute children Instagram stories.

I dont find it annoying at all.

If it’s friends and family and private then it’s fine. And as your family are abroad I’m sure they appreciate the pictures. I do I love going on the family whatsapp and seeing all their dear little faces! I’d be devastated if my daughters stopped posting pics: walking in the autumn leaves, jumping in puddles, playing on the floor, asleep at the table, I love them all and it makes me feel closer even when I’m not there. It also means I don’t have to wait to be sent photographs (never going to happen) and I can print them off when I like and put special ones in a frame.
The family app is not like the Instagram where all the world can see, that is quite different and like the previous poster said, you never know who’s looking.

I think it's too much and far too popular sadly , and that in a few years time kids are going to start taking issue with it. It's an invasion of their privacy and childhood

Use the platform as it's intended. So use stories for daily stuff that will disappear and then less regular but more meaningful posts on your grid

@Vernonisfit yeah it was very annoying it was constant every little thing went on social media so I just deleted her. I can be ruthless on social media once you flood my newsfeed to point I can't see much of anything else your gone! LOL

Thing's that are funny and sweet and days out are fine though. My sister who lives about 5 hours away from us posts pictures of my nieces achievements and trips they go on so the family can see which is lovely. So long as you have strong privacy settings I don't see what you're doing as annoying it certainly doesn't sound as incessant as my old school acquaintance was. The funniest post I read was my friend, she was cooking with DD left her alone for a couple of minutes and came back to the chocolate cakes gone and her DD's face covered in chocolate. She filmed her and asked where the cakes had gone and why she had chocolate on her face and her DD replied that the cat ate them and the chocolate "fell on" her face! that one did really make me laugh LOL

Annoyed? No. Bored? Yes. It would depend on my relationship to the poster though. I would obviously be more interested in close family's children but, even then, if they are constantly posting them, it gets a bit tedious. It's nice to see a friend's occasionally but I am generally bored by them.

I don't use Instagram but I do use Facebook and I just hide over sharers from my newsfeed, because other people's kids don't particularly interest me.

I do feel sorry for kids whose lives are no longer private though and I worry what (if anything) it's going to do to them in the future.

Social media has a lot to answer for in terms of how young people (particularly girls and young women) view themselves and many are getting botox/surgery earlier and earlier.

There's no point raising kids to believe looks aren't everything when you've been putting their images online for most of their lives.

@bodhi1982 I see it almost as a diary really for us all to look back on and remember the times (I also keep a written diary about things we do/her progress etc) to look back on, it’s harder to find the time these days to keep up with that though.
I hate the thought it would be disrespectful to her or she wouldn’t like it though, that aspect does make me think differently about it.

@bodhi1982

I think it's too much and far too popular sadly , and that in a few years time kids are going to start taking issue with it. It's an invasion of their privacy and childhood

Yes, I do agree with that.

Completely different to emailing/WhatsApping the odd catch up photo a couple of times a year, to family who live abroad.

A lot of people use the 'family all over the place' as an excuse to post their kids private images on SM but let's be honest, it's mostly done for the likes and love hearts whether people want to admit that or not.

@WorraLiberty But I’m not putting her online because of her looks, it isn’t about that.

As long as your not bragging on those pics, or captioning to basically say your kids lives or your life is better than everyone else's. I know someone that posts as though everything is a competition, how her day was better than everyone else's, how her food is the best, how only her kids are the best and do everything so amazing that no one else compares. The constant showing off, I skip her story now as it's all the same

[quote Vernonisfit]@WorraLiberty But I’m not putting her online because of her looks, it isn’t about that.[/quote]
But that's what a photographic image is.

You could always update with words if your family want to know how she's getting on.

Boring I know in this day and age but it is ultimately about how 'cute' the parents think they look.

How often do you see a kid with snot pouring out of their noses or red faced and puffy eyed because they've just finished a tantrum?

OP, seriously it doesn’t matter. If it annoys someone they can mute or unfollow you. It’s simple. Life is too short to give a shit what they think. Enjoy your child!

Why do you care what others think? Most will just ignore your pics and the zillion other boring kid pics.

@Vernonisfit I do get it in terms of keeping a 'diary' of the kids growing up , but would have it set to just me and oh to look back on if I was going to do it - even then though once you share a photo on a platform like Instagram or Facebook it's technically not yours anymore - I was going to send some pictures to my eldest's teacher during lockdown for their class blog and he said ''mummy what are you doing ?! Those are OUR photos' which made me really re-evaluate.

It doesn’t annoy me.
We are all in control of our social media feeds and can mute what we aren’t into , so we only see the things we are.

My Instagram would annoy many I’m sure, but it’s up to them what they follow

Post away. It’s not for you to decide if it’s annoying :)

• although - I don’t post many pictures of the kids, and at 9 & 11 I always ask if I ever did want to post the odd one

@HeyMicky has it spot on

Use stories for the daily mundane stuff
Use a grid picture sparingly, once a week or less for a more meaningful/nice picture.

If you're the type of person who uploads 8 of the same shot just slightly after each other or various angles that super annoying yes!

@Blahblahface

How do you think your child will feel in 20 years time knowing there are all these photos of them on the internet?

It's pretty much the norm these days so I don't suppose in 30 years it will be an issue at all. Especially judging by the excess of selfies out there.

You carry on doing what you're doing OP and don't over think it

• 20 years

@Blahblahface

How do you think your child will feel in 20 years time knowing there are all these photos of them on the internet?

That's what I always wonder.

Just read this online :-

A case out of Austria could reignite a debate about sharing photos of children on Facebook.
An 18-year-old woman from Carinthia is suing her parents over their posting of 500 images of her without her consent, The Local Austria reports. The images were shared with her parents’ 700 Facebook friends. Her father told the news outlet he has rights to the photos because he took them.
"They knew no shame and no limit — and didn’t care whether it was a picture of me sitting on the toilet or lying naked in my cot — every stage was photographed and then made public,” the 18-year-old told The Local Austria.
The woman is seeking financial compensation and wants the photos to be removed from Facebook. The woman’s lawyer said she has a good chance of winning, News Europe reports. In France, parents can be jailed and fined if their children choose to sue them for breaching privacy, The Telegraph reports.
The Austria case goes to court in November, and if she does win, parents around the world might be rethinking how they share photos of their children on social media.

The average parent shares almost 1,500 photos — mostly on Facebook — of a children before they turn 5-years-old, according to Parent Zone, a UK-based site about parenting in the digital age. Facebook has no policy against sharing photos of children, but Facebook does require users to be at least 13 years old before creating a profile. Those who oppose posting photos of their kids online say it's unfair to make digital decisions for a child. Also, some parents worry about photos showing up in public search engines or falling into the wrong hands.

I'd read a while back about them changing the laws in France and kudos to them for dealing with this new generational breach of privacy . I don't think kids are given enough respect and this accepted 'over sharing' by so many parents could potentially come back and bite them on the ass big time