Should I have let my 9 year old stay up to watch the bake off final?

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Yes - YABU
No - YANBU

She’s 9, she’s quite grumpy without sleep, we have to get up at 6.45 for school. Usual bedtime is 8pm (lights out) - bake off finished at 9.30. We usually watch it a day later on catch up.
I’m just going to bed and I can see that one of her friends has stayed up to watch it and now I feel like a meanie!

@unicornparty

Op hasn't even been back.

I don't feel guilty (much) for my spoiler unalert. I've name changed in shame but declare myself in my new identity with semi confidence. I just hope the OP's daughter has seen it now and is revelling in a good result...

Wow. That unleashed a whole host of crazy which in my naivety I wasn’t really expecting. My lovely little one didn’t mind watching it the next day and woke up and said she was glad she’d had a good night sleep and was looking forward to watching it tonight. So all was well. Despite mostly everyone thinking I’m a terrible mother who has sapped all the joy from my child’s life - I should have had the confidence that I actually know her quite well!
And some people have to start work at 7.30 in jobs which are half an hour away... maybe let’s not be quite so judgey about having to get up at 6.45!
Hey Ho... clearly not the place for “not being quite so judgey.”

I should have more confidence in knowing my little lady and what is right for me and my little fam. And thanks for those of you who said as much.

Seems like all children (and mums) are different.... who knew?!

xx

I'd have sent DD to bed at that age. This is the first year she's been allowed to stay up and watch strictly when it's on and she's nearly 11

If it's something special it wouldn't have hurt. 9.30 isn't very late.

I would of let her stay up yes as a treat. However I’m quite surprised at how late people’s 9 years old go to bed! My 8 and 9 year old are in bed for 8.30 weekdays, and then 9ish at weekends, I go to bed at 10 myself! We have to leave the house for school at 7.30am as it’s a half an hour drive and my daughter starts at 8.

My just 8 year old stayed up to watch it. One night every so often is fine.

The damage you would of inflicted letting a 9 yr old stay up till 9.30 would if been catastrophic. Serial killer territory. 😳

Well 9.15pm isnt exactly burning the midnight oil....even for a 9 year old.

YABU simply because it's a one off and we've all got naff all to look forward to.

Your DD knows your rules so you would have earned some serious mum points if you got the hot chocolate and brownies in and watched it with her.

Just sayin'

Op you do have to do what is right for you. However, if you post it on aibu you will prob get flamed...tis what happens unfortunately!

My two went to bed then heard the music (as I put it on downstairs) realised it was the final and made so much fuss I let them tuck up on the sofa with me and eat biscuits while they watched. I expect I’m a soft touch but I don’t care, there’s so little joy about at the minute and they were beyond chuffed.

@wincarwoo

Surely the OP knows her child and the amount of sleep she needs.

Well OP asked so...

My 8 year old goes to bed at 8.30pm on a normal day so letting her stay up to watch the final live wasn't really a big deal to me as a one off treat. She did sleep longer on Wednesday morning though.

'I should have more confidence in knowing my little lady and what is right for me and my little fam.'

Absolutely Hun

I’ve watched every episode with my 3 sons the youngest of whom is 9. They love it and it’s an escapism and I really enjoy them all getting into it with me as opposed to the usual footy with their Dad!! So yes sorry you’re a meany

I don't believe in making children go to bed early. Let them decide for themselves- if they're tired at school, so be it.

I would have simply because there is just no fun for kids these days ( lockdown , tiers etc) its only a one off .
Don't beat yourself up though, it's not a big deal!

With lockdown and everything that children have had to adjust to this year I would do anything that gives them a treat such as staying up late for something special or putting up the Christmas tree early . Enjoy the small things❤️

I am 57 and still remember the thrill of being allowed to stay up late the Eurovision Song Contest when I was that sort of age. It was one night.

Why did you bother asking?

I'm glad it worked out. It seems from your op that you had already sent her to bed as normal before realising her friend was watching so there wasnt really a decision to make. I have watched 'live'with my son since he was about 7/8 and it finished an hour past his bedtime (abroad so dont have catch up on demand). Stopped this year though aged 12 as he started secondary and has to get up an hour earlier. He was ill for the first two weeks of school (non-specific and went to school) just from being so tired at the early starts and long days so he just couldnt do it. It's a real shame and I miss it but what can you do?

Poster asks mumsnet their opinions then gets huff on when opinions are posted. 2020 what a strange year.

Yabu

My 9 year old stays up to watch I'm a celebrity with me and his older sister at the moment, there is no way I would get him in bed and asleep by 8.

My 9-year-old is in bed and asleep by 7.30/8. She's shattered and away with the fairies if not. We are up 6 / 6.30 am and she's quite sporty.

On a school night I wouldn't have let her stay up, at the weekend yes. She watches strictly and is off to bed afterwards. She's awful to get out if bed if tired. A brass band in her bedroom wouldn't have her up.