Should I have let my 9 year old stay up to watch the bake off final?

[Cheeryminimum]

Yes - YABU
No - YANBU

She’s 9, she’s quite grumpy without sleep, we have to get up at 6.45 for school. Usual bedtime is 8pm (lights out) - bake off finished at 9.30. We usually watch it a day later on catch up.
I’m just going to bed and I can see that one of her friends has stayed up to watch it and now I feel like a meanie!

[Martinisarebetterdirty]

Not a chance would I have let mine stay up - mornings are hard enough anyway. You know how much sleep she needs - we are up before 7 and mine wouldn’t have coped. A Friday or Saturday maybe - but this would have ruined her for the week.

[sbhydrogen]

I used to go to bed at 11pm on a regular basis when I was 9! 😅

[myhobbyisouting]

This is why you should've watched strictly with her instead of bake off.

It's on earlier and it's the weekend. Rookie error OP

[RumJerrySailorRum]

I normally watch on catch up as DH doesn't like it, even he had enough foresight to make sure I watched it live so as not to have the result spoilt for me.

Hopefully the winner was her favourite so it wont be spoilt to much for her if she does find out.

[Fluffybutter]

My dd is 9 and we’ve been letting her stay up to watch some of the I’m a celeb shows but she’s doesn’t go to bed till 9:30 anyway and always gets up find at 7:30.
If I knew she struggled in the mornings then I wouldn’t let her .

[horseymum]

Next year let her, my DC's still remember last year the head teacher spoiling it by mentioning it at assembly, they always watched it the day after. This year they stayed up. Don't stress about it though, she'll cope.

[premiumhob]

I have to laugh at all the children who are so precious that staying up a wee while later once is going to damage them so badly, because they might be tired the next day!

I definitely would have let mine stay up. I probably would have got some I'm my snacks in too.

[steppemum]

I would have let her, but only because someone will tell her tomorrow who won, and that spoils it.

[HugeAckmansWife]

To the pp raising their eyes at 6.45 wake up and asking if that could change.. You do know that not everyone drops their kid off right on the bell yes? That they might use breakfast club to get to work? My 9 and 11 yo go up around 8.45 for a 6.45 wake up. We do stories ec til about 9.15 and my 9 yo often reads later. They stayed up last night.

[Felifox]

I always record i so I can skip the ads. For 2 consecutive weeks I saw the result on my feed before I'd watched it. So yes I would have allowed it.

[Crystal87]

Yabu, you should have let her watch it. She's 9, not 5 and the occasional late night won't harm her.

[sirfredfredgeorge]

Whilst ten and a half hours is within the range of normal for a 9 year olds sleep needs, it's near the upper limit and most 9 year olds will need less. But as always on mumsnet the parents of kids with upper limit numbers are just astonished and judge the parents of kids who are at the lower limits of the range.

As others have said, one night of reduced sleep generally does not impact performance - either academically or physically, human nature is such that we get nervous before important occasions and sleep less so it's studied a lot, and one night doesn't matter much you just feel shittier.

For me, I would find it difficult to take away an important event for my child for less than 10% of their sleep, but then again I cannot imagine organising a life where getting up at 6:45 was part of it, because it denies so much of the opportunities of the evening world, when most things actually happen.

[ChaToilLeam]

As a one off, yes, I would have allowed it - on condition there was no complaining the next morning! And if there was, it wouldn’t happen again. But it’s no biggie that you didn’t. It’ll be forgotten soon.

[chaosmaker]

Much more responsible to have a regular bedtime. OH's son is coming up to 13 and his bedtime is still 8.30 ish. He is up early but definitely is not resentful about this bedtime. Also NO tv in his bedroom because why would you do that?

[AfterSchoolWorry]

My 8 year old dd doesn't go to sleep until 9.30 on a normal night!!!

How do you get a 9 year old into bed at 8 !!??

[formerbabe]

How do you get a 9 year old into bed at 8 !!??

Tell them its time for bed

[borageforager]

I let my 9 year old stay up to watch so she didn’t hear the results from school before she had seen it!

[borageforager]

FWIW my 9 year old usually has lights out at 8.30.

[Fluffybutter]

@AfterSchoolWorry

My 8 year old dd doesn't go to sleep until 9.30 on a normal night!!!

How do you get a 9 year old into bed at 8 !!??

Same as my 9 year old dd.
Tbf I could tell her to go to bed earlier but she finds it really distressing to lay there awake and struggle to get to sleep if she’s not in the least bit tired and I can totally sympathise with that!
9:30 works for her and she always gets up well in the morning , even her lay ins at the weekends rarely go past 8am!

[formerbabe]

To be honest I don't want my dc up late anyway....I think I'm entitled to an hour or so childfree time in the evening to talk to my dh and watch what we want on tv.

[premiumhob]

Much more responsible to have a regular bedtime.

Eh? Bedtime still meets the 'regular' criteria even if one of them is later than the other 364 that year

OH's son is coming up to 13 and his bedtime is still 8.30 ish.

That's a whole manner of abnormal tbh.

[formerbabe]

OH's son is coming up to 13 and his bedtime is still 8.30 ish.

That's a whole manner of abnormal tbh

My ds is nearly 13...he goes up to bed at 9pm..he can read for a short while if he wants. I had to wake him for school this morning at 7.45am. I've found the days he's more tired are invariably the days where he either gets into trouble or school or comes home moaning about having an awful day.

My dd is ten and would be falling asleep on the sofa by 9pm

[formerbabe]

*at school

[LaceyBetty]

My 10 year old and 8 year old stayed up. Although, their bedtime is 9 pm generally. They don't have to get up until just before 8am though. I appreciate that is a huge difference to 6:45 am.