Aibu to want to punch OH in the face because of his fucking loud snoring

[Manbag]

Just that really...Ive pushed him about 5 times now...but still fucking snoring. pissing me off

Shake him awake and point him in the direction of the sofa?

Flick water at him.....obviously I have never done this .... ever....😇

YABU.

I say that as someone who snores like a drunken wilderbeest.

We don't do it on purpose, it is a disability ☹️

I felt like this about DH, if he wasn’t snoring he was sleep walking. I insisted he went to GP - fast forward a few months and a sleep clinic referral and he’s on CPAP for sleep apnoea and a high snore score...

Full sympathies here. My DH went to bed for an early night round 9ish - I've heard his snoring coming through the ceiling since 9.15! I've wanted to go to bed for an hour but I can't stand the noise. Thankfully I've got a wireless headphones headband that I can put on to try and drown him out, but any music/audio book/meditation has to be on so loud so I can't hear him over the top.

I am medicated at night due to chronic pain, or else I don’t sleep at all. I snore terribly. I just can’t help it. I’m embarrassed by it, but I know how disturbing it can be. 😕

Ear plugs 😚

YANBU as long as you don't act on it.

Sleep deprivation via someone else's snoring is wretched.

Has he had a consultation with his GP? If not for his own sake for yours if he's regularly disruptive of your sleep? (Assuming this is regular and not a one-off because he's had a cold or heavy night.)

I tried everything and hubby even had surgery to remove tonsils and some lose skin - nothing helped so now separate rooms and I still need industrial earplugs

I used to hit mine with my pillow. We now sleep separately

Ugh people who snore don't do it on fucking purpose.... This annoys me so much, what are we supposed to do never sleep. My dh acts like this if I accidentally snore. I now sleep on my side even though I have arthritis and it's uncomfortable, I have invested in a shit tonne of snoring aids, none of them work. I often sleep on the couch if he has early work. There is no spare room . I don't know what else I can possibly do. I need to sleep as well. His attitude to my snoring has got so bad I feel anxious and uncomfortable going to bed in case I wake him up.
Short of chopping off my crappy nose and throat I am at aloss as to what more I can do.

I had so much more energy when I split with a snoring partner. I hadn’t realised how much my own sleep had been affected.

He might not be able to help it but if you have a spare room or comfy couch you can take turns so you get a decent kip.

If he is overweight they say losing weight can help and he may have sleep apnoea too so best get it all checked out with the gp if you can.

DH has got worse over the years - initially prodding or saying 'Stop snoring' seemed to work, but now usually nothing does on a bad night. Earplugs are usually just too uncomfortable. Since au pair moved out at start of lockdown, having a spare made up bed available has been a godsend, I sleep in it 2-3 nights a week lately.

It must be awful sleeping next to a snorer but it’s not their fault.

However, if he refuses to seek help from the GP then he is being unreasonable. He may have sleep apnoea or another condition that could be treated - meaning better sleep for you both.

Sleep in separate beds. Simple solution and it works. How ridiculous to go through that every night!

Why does everyone assume, we all have spare bedroom s 😂?

Clear off to the spare room then! It’s not his fault he snores!

@AmateurDad

Clear off to the spare room then! It’s not his fault he snores!

It’s more his fault than hers. He should go in the spare room if they have one.

I'm wide awake because of my husband's snoring. He sleeps with his mouth open so it's super loud.
I've jabbed him twice to turn over, but he keeps turning back. Aarrrgggghhhhhh

Currently on a mattress in spare room due to this very reason (we’ll also coz I’ve got restless legs tonight that are keeping me awake). Most nights he’s OK but tonight he’s in full on Walrus mode

You have my total sympathy OP. My ex-partner was an absolutely horrendous snorer. I've never worked out why. He was not in the slightest bit overweight,if anything,he was underweight,so that definitely wasn't the cause. He wasn't a heavy drinker either which I know can make you snore. I ended up using those foam ear plugs to try and bock out the racket,bur I could still hear it through them! I didn't even have a spare room that one of us could depart to.

CPAP saved our marriage.

A lot of snoring is due to sleep apnoea and a CPAP machine works in almost all cases.

My DH sounded like an incoming jumbo jet combined with a buzz saw. When we went camping we actually got complaints from neighbouring campsites! With the CPAP all I hear is a very quiet 'whooshing' sound from the machine, almost like white noise.

Anyone who snores loudly enough to keep others awake or who often awakens gasping for breath should see their GP for a sleep study. Sleep apnoea can lead to sudden respiratory and/or heart failure and a stroke or even death.

Katkincake have you tried increasing your magnesium and potassium intake for the restless legs? I used to get it really badly but it hit new lows during pregnancy. I upped the number of bananas I ate and it solved the problem. I now only get it very occasionally when extremely tired. I ate one a day for quite while and now have a couple a week plus the odd magnesium tablet (when I remember it) once or twice a week too.

I have a snorer he on couch permanently. He wont see gp over it. When he asleep his stomach rises up and falls very quickly is that a sign of apnea? I also wear upto 32 decibel ear plugs as can hear him snoring downstairs! He wasnt this bad 2 years ago although he does need to lose some weight, also wont do anything about it. Its worse trying to get to sleep whilst they already snoring than if they start after you have fallen asleep.