“Nobody’s fault but your own”. Really? I wouldn’t have a hope in hell of being a property owner if I hadn’t met my DH (he is older, was a high earner and already had a house). I was living in a shitty flat, riddled with damp and had inadequate heating. I earned £30k but no chance of being able to save/get a mortgage.
About 9/10 years ago, I was living at home after a relationship break up (we’d had a rental property as part of exPs work), I’d lost my job, found another but only PT and I earned less than £7ph - which was more than the min wage at the time (I was 32). My mum used to go on at me for not saving and having my nails done every couple of weeks. It cost £20, forgoing that would have netted me less than £500 per year. On the wage I was on, I wouldn’t have even met the criteria for affordability in a shared house or private rent as I didn’t even earn enough to pay income tax.
Depending on where you are, shared housing isn’t always an option. The area I’m from is considered ‘cheap’ in housing terms. And, yes compared to the South it is cheap, but it isn’t free and single people struggle. House shares aren’t really a thing here, as most people can afford to buy if they’re in a couple and both have jobs. If both, for e.g. earn £20k you could easily find a terrace that they can buy, when it’s one person earning £20k or less, then no chance.
Wages are low, jobs are very few and far between, especially well paying ones. If I search jobs in my town, the only vacancies are care assistants, poorly paid and you need a car usually. It’s not a job everyone can do (I have an injury which means I struggle to lift anything over 10 kilos).
I feel for you OP, it’s really shit. My last LL was awful, refused to sort the damp out, didn’t have smoke alarms in, just dreadful.
Most older people have no clue, yes interest rates were high but houses were cheap. My parents bought their first house in 1971 for £2000, my DGM gave them £1000 as a wedding gift. 50% deposit! And yet, my DM refuses to accept that it was harder for me.