Ds watching my netflix at ex's AIBU

[lurchersrule]

I have just sat down to watch the Crown and can't as ds is watching a film on my Netflix account at Ex's house (his dad). Ex is a very cheap person and doesn't really work - sees himself as a writer or something and me as loaded because I'm a teacher!

I have rung ds in quite an irritated way and texted ex as well. It's ridiculous imo. They have 30 mins left of their film apparently. I want to set up a new account so that ds can't access it - is that UR? Don't want to be a cow and I feel bad for him as ex has put him in an awkward position. He's 13 and I was thinking of upgrading so that more than one device can be on it as ds2 has very different tastes from us, but don't want to do that just to benefit ex... What would you do? I'm so pissed off now - please distract me! Ex pays nothing toward the dc btw...

Could you simply change the password for now?

You can stream from one account on 2 different devices at the same time can't you? I share with DM and I can watch something on my profile and she can watch something on hers at the same time.

I would upgrade. It’s for your son not your ex

Can't you just add another profile?

Oops my bad it's £3pm more to be able to stream across two devices

Just upgrade it - it's really for your son. If it matters that much to you just ask him not to give the password to his dad. You can then log out of all devices when your son isn't there so your ex can't use it.

I'm sure you can stream 2 devices at once. But need to have 2 profiles as you can't be in one profile on 2 devices.
I would just set yourself a second profile up once they are finished.

Change the password and log them out. It's like £4.99 a month ffs (I have it but can't remember what I pay, just know its a matter of a quid).

Few quid

Would you be irritated if he was watching it at home (separately to you?), or is this about your ex?

I just had 1 screen and ds1 used to download stuff to watch. Then in 1st lockdown he wanted to do Netflix party thing with his girlfriend and ds2 wanted to watch stuff, and I was always getting blocked so I went up a level. Ds1 doesn't do the Netflix party thing now so I've gone back down to 1 screen. Doesn't really bother me which house they are at when they are watching stuff. I was going to watch Hamilton on their step-sisters Disney account on ds2s computer, but never got round to it.

You can kick people out if you find ex in the Netflix when son is in house. Somewhere in settings when log in via the website (not on tv or mobile)

Yeah, I sound cheap now . Just utterly pisses me off that ex freeload off me all the time. I'll upgrade .

Upgrade to 2 screens it’s a few pounds and q gift your son will love

OP if you only have the basic account (that doesn’t allow another profile) then just change the password. I get that it might be unfair on your DS but your ex is a CF taking advantage of what you pay when he pays bugger all

Even with2 profiles you can't stream 2 at once without paying more. I have 5 profiles on mine so know as it pisses me off but refuse to pay more for my sisters bf to watch it 😂

Does your ex have your password? If so I would change it. It's a tricky situation because you don't want your DS to suffer but for now be the bigger person and let them finish their film on the understanding that DS has to ask for your permission in future before watching anything.

@lurchersrule

Yeah, I sound cheap now . Just utterly pisses me off that ex freeload off me all the time. I'll upgrade .

Of course that pisses you off, he doesn't contribute towards his kids. Vent away!

Change the password, it'll kick him out. Why should you pay more for your ex to have Netflix?

Change the password.

And yes to the upgrade!
It's simple if you don't want the Ex to watch on your account. Just sign in on DC devices as child profile, no need to hand out passwords.
You will also get an email notification for every device added, so you will know if others are using your account.

I had exactly this situation.

Child free weekend, settled down to watch something, ds was watching it.

I told him to finish his episode but made a bit of a fuss.

In the end Exh has caved and got netflix himself.

My ex does contribute, but I'm already paying for mobiles, spotify etc and dont see why he shouldn't provide some amenities for the ds when they are there.

Can't believe people are saying YABU when your ex pays nothing

My first reaction is that your son can do other things when he's visiting your ex (Netflix isn't the only entertainment at his disposal, surely), but I guess you want him to be able to watch something at the same time you are when he's in your home...

I'd be irked, too, OP, to know that your ex was freeloading.

Appreciate it's annoying but I would just upgrade, it's only a few quid.

I pay for multiple profiles which means I'm paying for my ex husband's Netflix but it means my children and my stepdaughter have access. Not worth angsting over!

@VetiverAndLavender I agree your son can do something else while there.

Plus I decided to stick to just one account otherwise too much temptation for everyone to be in different rooms watching different things (mind you they still go off and watch YouTube).

On this occasion I would let them finish the film (for DS’s sake), but I would then change the password and make it clear you have priority and will boot him off if he’s watching it on your account elsewhere.

Yes it’s only a few extra quid to upgrade.., but equally it’s only a few quid in the first place! So ex should get his own and pay for it himself! He’s the cheap one here, not you

I get what you're passed off- and it's not the money, it's the situation. I'd buy the upgrade, but I'd also change the password every time your son leaves. Feck handing over free Netflix.