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Ds watching my netflix at ex's AIBU

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lurchersrule · 20/11/2020 20:58

I have just sat down to watch the Crown and can't as ds is watching a film on my Netflix account at Ex's house (his dad). Ex is a very cheap person and doesn't really work - sees himself as a writer or something and me as loaded because I'm a teacher!

I have rung ds in quite an irritated way and texted ex as well. It's ridiculous imo. They have 30 mins left of their film apparently. I want to set up a new account so that ds can't access it - is that UR? Don't want to be a cow and I feel bad for him as ex has put him in an awkward position. He's 13 and I was thinking of upgrading so that more than one device can be on it as ds2 has very different tastes from us, but don't want to do that just to benefit ex... What would you do? I'm so pissed off now - please distract me! Ex pays nothing toward the dc btw...

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katy1213 · 20/11/2020 21:18

I'd be cheap. Why not, if your ex is cheap when it comes to paying child support? Let him entertain his own child!

justilou1 · 20/11/2020 21:20

I wouldn’t... then Ds would give ex his PW and dad would be watching while you pay.

BetterthanIthink · 20/11/2020 21:30

I totally get why you’re annoyed about it . I’d Upgrade and change the password when your son isn’t at his house so ex can’t watch your Netflix for free !

TheDowagerDuchess · 20/11/2020 21:32

I know what you mean about cheapskate exs!

You should probably just upgrade though. Weirdly I didn’t realise this was the case until recently, as it seems the kids and I never want to watch at the same times!

I know with Amazon I had to make sure it was very password secure (obviously both are password secure age wise) to make sure exh could pay for films for Ds on my amazon account!

HOkieCOkie · 20/11/2020 21:34

Change password, ex will have to get his own.

speakout · 20/11/2020 21:37

I agree with others. Upgrade, let your son watch at your ex's, but everytime DS comes home again change the password so your ex can't use it.
DS gets a new password each time he goes to stay.

helloxhristmas · 20/11/2020 21:41

Upgrade your son has the password,done.

unmarkedbythat · 20/11/2020 21:44

There's something about netflix that makes people so entitled. The number of times I have heard someone be annoyed that their ex has changed the Netflix password and they can't access it any more is silly, and they have always been so genuinely outraged, like they have a right to it. So weird.

I'd change the password tonight and I doubt I'd upgrade, tbh.

JiltedJohnsJulie · 20/11/2020 21:48

I agree with others. Upgrade, let your son watch at your ex's, but everytime DS comes home again change the password so your ex can't use it.
DS gets a new password each time he goes to stay.

Actually that's so much better than my suggestion Smile

Waveysnail · 20/11/2020 21:49

We upgraded so me and dc can all watch our own thing on our own logon.

Waveysnail · 20/11/2020 21:50

Suppose at least his dad is sitting with your dc watching the movie, even if it is grating that he is using your account

AlwaysLatte · 20/11/2020 22:01

As it's your DS, if it were me I'd just add extra screens to the account otherwise it sounds like he won't be able to watch it when he's there. Is he watching on his own device or on the family TV there? If they are all watching it then I'd probably change the password each week so that they don't take the piss in between visits.

TeamLannister · 20/11/2020 22:07

You would be a dick to your son for £2/3 a month? Are you serious?? Surely there are times you & your son want to watch different things on Netflix when he's at home anyway! How mean.

Naillig222 · 20/11/2020 22:19

My ex text me the other day to tell me he had set up a Disney+ account and gave me the login and password. He did it for ds, and my dd's (who are not his) but there's definitely no issue with me watching it either.
If you can't watch it yourself then that's wrong, but if you're upgrading anyway I'd just leave them off. Changing the password every week seems very petty to me but I seem to be in the minority.

jessstan1 · 20/11/2020 22:22

@ShalomToYouJackie

You can stream from one account on 2 different devices at the same time can't you? I share with DM and I can watch something on my profile and she can watch something on hers at the same time.
That's what I thought. I have Netflix on my TV but can browse it at the same time on my laptop. I thought everybody could do that.

If yours is somehow different, change your password.

Ontheboardwalk · 20/11/2020 22:26

I didn’t realise there was a one screen option

Agree with other PP for a couple of quid get the 2 device option for you and DS. I reckon you’ll be wanting that in your house soon but change the password after every visit

Please don’t take your irritation out on your DS he’s just watching a film with his dad. Make sure his dad can’t be watching films on his own though

TheSmallAssassin · 20/11/2020 22:39

If you and your son have different tastes, then probably worth paying for two screens anyway (it's nothing to do with the number of profiles, they are just for recommendations, organising watch lists, etc). Just don't let your son know the actual password, I type it into my kids' devices, then at least your ex will only get to use it when your son is there and wants to watch something.

liveitwell · 20/11/2020 22:53

I'd upgrade but I'd change the password every time he returns from his dad's so he can watch it whilst there but his dad can't when he's at your home.

BlueThistles · 20/11/2020 23:05

Change the password

WitchOfTheWest · 21/11/2020 08:28

My DD used to do this down her dads. He earns 3 times what I do but is happy to sponge off other people as much as he can. I changed the password as we couldn't watch anything here!

SurreyHillsGirl · 21/11/2020 09:10

I would upgrade to allow multiple users so that your son can enjoy Netflix at his dad’s and then change the password so that your ex can’t use the account. You will have to do this every time your son goes to his dad’s but its worth it so that your ex can’t leach off your Netflix!

Weebitawks · 21/11/2020 09:13

Upgrade but change the password whenever your son comes home so your son can enjoy it while he's there but your ex isn't using it after he leaves.

Weebitawks · 21/11/2020 09:14

And maybe call your son so he doesn't think you're annoyed at him

CakeRequired · 21/11/2020 09:33

I was thinking of advising you to get the multiple accounts and just change the password, but you'd have to do that weekly, assuming your ds goes there weekly. That's a lot of hassle. I'd just change the password, not tell ds and let ex figure out how to entertain his own son. Shame he'll have to use his brain, but I'm sure he can manage.

sashh · 21/11/2020 11:34

I agree with others. Upgrade, let your son watch at your ex's, but everytime DS comes home again change the password so your ex can't use it.
DS gets a new password each time he goes to stay.

You don't need ds to have a new password each week, just change it to something like, "Dsnameweekend" and change it to/from that.

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