To understand why some women are trapped in abusive relationships?

[Temporary1234]

I know there are a fair lot of people who blame their mothers for not leaving their abusive fathers before it escalates and consider them to be complicit.

But after watching few programs, I feel like, most women who are in abusive relationships might worry about actually leave their vulnerable kids in 50 percent custody with abusive partners who might have already weakened them enough to make them vulnerable and not influential in their children’s lives..

So a life of patching up the marriage until the kids are older seems more beneficial for the kids until the mother can protect them??

Usually abusive people are attracted to women who don’t have much support or isolated or unable to stand on their own feet... or they manage to strip them off those powers..

Soo am I unreasonable to think some women in these situations especially back in the days when there was little support but still even so today, am I unreasonable to think they need to be seen as victims and not complicit? And not have their motherhood questioned ?

@bibliomania

Been there, Pics, and it was tough for years. I had a confused and unhappy child for a long time. But for most of the week, she was free of his influence. She got older and less confused. And at 12, she chose not to see him any more. She went through pain, as she would have if we stayed. I questioned myself whether I had made the right decision. But years down the line, yes, it was right.

Thank you, I so, so very much hope it turns out like this for mine. for you and yours.

to you too Pic. It's really tough when you can't fully protect your child. But being the steady loving presence is a protective factor, more than you know.