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Original poster

to think im too old to go "clubing"

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talulasmum · 18/10/2007 10:11

im in my mid-thirties.

mums at school organising xmas night out and want to go to a club.

have'nt been to one for years and fear ive lost my "rhythm" plus dont want to look like im on a "grab a granny night".

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Carmenere · 18/10/2007 10:12

Well there is the distinct possibility that you will look like you are on a grab a granny night but what does that matter? Go and have fun.

LadySnotAlot · 18/10/2007 10:15

My Mum didn't start going 'clubbing' until she hit her late thirties!!!

She used to go to Chicago's mainly because she liked the cheesy music. It became a regular thing for years. Every time someone had a birthday to celebrate they'd all hire a mini bus and go out for the night. There used to be about 15 of them.

Sometimes I'd even go with them. They were great fun!!!

Go for it!

twelveyeargap · 18/10/2007 10:18

Depends. If you wear the latest offering from Miss Selfridge and drink Blue WKD and try to emulate Beyonce whilst you dance then yes, you may look a bit silly.

Assuming this is not your intention, then be glad you're able to get out for the night.

chopchopbusybusy · 18/10/2007 10:18

Depends on whether or not it's something you enjoy. I haven't been to a club for years because I hate them. I do know a lot of thirty and forty somethings that go so I don't think you'll be out of place - just make sure you don't go on student night or similar

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talulasmum · 18/10/2007 10:21

thats the problem, i'll probably get carried away with my crazy dancing and decapitate someone with my swinging arms.

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sKerryMum · 18/10/2007 10:24

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cheeset · 18/10/2007 10:28

Hi TM

Have a few jars, you'll get your 'rhythm' back

I am neally 40(god that sounds bloody old) and I was out couple of saturdays ago with my friends.

At the beginning of the night we were all really sensible and orderly then we had a few like you do, then we were all headbanging! Strange because my friends aren't really into rock but we were having such a good time and at one point I stood on a table dancing!

Go get em tiger

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talulasmum · 18/10/2007 10:30

exactly kerry; shakiras "hips dont lie" becomes, hips dont work.

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sKerryMum · 18/10/2007 10:33

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talulasmum · 18/10/2007 10:33

hi cheeset;
yeah, im a bit of a hippy/rocker

dont really like dance music, but sure after a few bottles of something will be dancing to the police sirens going off.

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cheeset · 18/10/2007 10:38

Yeah, know what you mean! I like rock and at one point I let my hair down, head banged with my eyes closed and really went for it.

I suffered the next morning with a seriously sore neck but it was work it.

cheeset · 18/10/2007 10:39

work? worth

FlightAttendant · 18/10/2007 10:44

I can't remember the last time I went clubing
Oh yes I was 17 and picked up a drummer called Leroy, who then ditched me ungraciously by vanishing at the Reading festival when I'd gone to the toilet.

Oh and the same holiday I went to a different club and picked up an even worse specimen called Nathan who tried to shag me in his hotel until I walked out (minus my tights) and had to be taken back to the shared caravan by a police car as it was 2am and my friends all killed me for going off with a bloke

Aaaargghhhh I never want to go clubing again!

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talulasmum · 18/10/2007 10:52

omg. dont know what i'll say if someone starts chatting me up. actually.....i know what to say just dig deep into my talulasmum repertoire and tell him to
f... off (depending on what he looks like of course.)

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emmatomATO · 18/10/2007 10:57

I understand your fears!! I was an original disco queen - every Saturday night when a teenager and then every opportunity whilst in my twenties.

It tailed off a bit in my thirties with just the occasional club night as although I still felt like 16 I wasn't looking it and now at 42 I just wouldn't feel comfortable and quite honestly find the thought really boring now.

Probably a case of been there, done it and now my interests lie elsewhere. In fact the thought of looking like a sad old gal out on the town horrifies me.

If you have the confidence though and want to go then you should.

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talulasmum · 18/10/2007 11:08

emma; feel like you.

started going to clubs at about 15, and you do just grow out of them. would never go to one out of choice, but dont want to look like a bore. just find the whole idea a bit scary. probably old enough to be the mum of the people in these clubs.

actually, they want to go to "g.a.y." in london. not because they are, but its a good club and you dont get bothered so can just enjoy the music. plus alot of older people in there. its a great night out (apparently)

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emmatomATO · 18/10/2007 11:17

In that case just tell the others that you don't want to go.

I'm now in a place where if friends arrange something and it's not for me I'm quite confident in saying I'm not up for it.

Prior to this I would say I'd go and then dread the weeks leading up to the event and then the evening itself! It's so much easier now. They don't think I'm a bore and I'm sure your pals won't think that of you. (Who cares anyway)

If you are dreading it this much then just a no will do but if you're tempted to see what this particular club is like and enjoy the music then give it a go. I know what I would do though!!

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talulasmum · 18/10/2007 11:20

what would you do?

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emmatomATO · 18/10/2007 11:22

I wouldn't go talulasmum and once I'd told the girls the relief would be lovely.

LadySnotAlot · 18/10/2007 11:28

G.A.Y is brilliant and definitely NOT full of young people. There are people of all ages go there and it's great fun. You certainly won't feel like you're on grab a granny night! 30's? Tsk, tsk, you'll be practically a baby in their eyes!

Lorayn · 18/10/2007 11:28

I don't do clubs, and I'm 26

I blardy hate them, drunken children falling over themselves desperate to find some poor soul to bump uglies with at the end of the night? Yuck.
And apparently clubs semll even worse now theyve banned smoking, the BO becomes more prevelant

Gimme some greasy guys playing guitars and a pint of leffe anyday.

cheeset · 18/10/2007 11:29

Sometimes you have to get piseed to enjoy yourself and thats a bit pointless but I love a good dance and that makes up for it sometimes.

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talulasmum · 18/10/2007 11:37

ladysnotalot;
yes, it has got a good reputation as a great night out.

cheeset; tbh, i dont really drink, never have. 2 glasses of wine and thats my limit.

but i like a good time so will probably go, just to eye up all the lovely gay men.

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LadySnotAlot · 18/10/2007 11:40

Oh I would. What a great night out! If it's good enoough for Kylie then it's good enough for me!

There's also a really nice bar right opposite G.A.Y on old compton street that you could go in if it gets too much. Nice and relaxed with a great atmosphere!

Go, you'll enjoy it. Definitely be an experience to remember! Can I come?

Lazarou · 18/10/2007 11:42

www.youtube.com/watch?v=qD_6qeZo6Uo

There is always a fight involving drinks or women

I hope the link works