I'm divorced and ex is in financial difficulty - always was before we married and went back to his normal when we split six years ago. He thinks most jobs are beneath him and wants to be a musician/writer so it's mostly his own fault.
He has the dc overnight 4 times a fortnight and this stays similar in the school holidays. In 6 years he's had them twice for a full week at a time, both times when his dm took them all on holiday. Last year dc kept telling me he was moving to a council house as he struggles with his rent. I wouldn't speak about stuff like that with them but I just smiled and nodded. Then he emailed to ask me for a copy of a court order stating his access to them. I had to remind him that we've never been to court over it and have only ever made arrangements between us so there's nothing in writing. He said he needed it to get a council house so we'd need to go to court. I said don't be ridiculous, he sent me an abusive message and the dc stopped mentioning council houses.
Then last night he WhasApped ds1 asking him for photos of the dc's passport pages as he needed it for council accommodation. I suppose he is again going to try and get subsidised housing by claiming he has the dc more than he does. I really don't want to get involved - I've told ds to leave it for now but he obviously wants to reply to his dad. Could there be any real harm in letting him send his dad the photos? I feel like ex is a massive freeloader and always has been and others will be more deserving, but it's not really my business. I also don't feel he should ask ds direct for these things. Shall I just let him send them? I suppose I'm worried about what else he cold claim as well.