I've name changed for this
So my sil, dh sister. We've never been overly close, she's a very very private person, but we get along and are civil with each other. (We've been in each other's life for a decade)
I don't want to drip feed, so in the past, am talking like 3-4 years ago, we did have some issues, which actually I didn't want a big deal made out of it, but others thought her behaviour was unacceptable and called her out for it. We talked it out and everything was fine,
When I go to mils, I see her, Everything seems fine, she asks about me, what I've got up to etc, just normal chit chat.
Anyways the last time I saw her was in July. I went away for the summer, and when I came back, few day later I visited the mil house, sil was upstairs. I sent her a text saying the kids would love to see her, she replied she's coming downstairs. We were there for couple of hours, she didn't come down and then we left. I thought nothing of it, she must've just been busy, not feeling well whatever.
Anyways we tend to go to mils once a week, everytime we go, she is upstairs and doesn't come down at all the whole duration we are there, her child is downstairs. Mil will just make passing comments about what is sil doing upstairs and then ignore it.
I don't care that I haven't seen her, or she hasn't seen me, but she hasn't seen my children since July! Those kids are her brothers children, her flesh and blood. How do you after all them years of showing them affection just avoid them like they don't exist?? I don't get it.
Since that last mssg of her saying she's coming downstairs, she hasn't mssgd me or even her brother to say she missed and hopes to see us another time, or just that everytime we've come she's been busy and perhaps come on xyz day so she can see the kids, or that she will round to ours. I don't want to act desperate by trying to force her to come downstairs, interact with myself and my kids.
I was there for her in her most dire need, it's funny how people forget the good you do for them.
Am just feeling really annoyed, I keep trying to ignore the situation but everyday it pops in my head.
A few time when dh has gone on his own, she's been around, and asked him nothing about myself or the kids considering she hasn't seen us in almost 4 months, it's like we don't exist to her.
I just don't know what I could've done, everything was perfectly fine the last time I saw her, I don't post anything on social media for her to be offended by.
I really don't know what am trying to gain by posting this, am so so tired and needed to write this down, half of it probably doesn't make sense so I apologise.