To think my friend shouldn't be friends with my ex's new girlfriend?

[mellobrllow]

My friend introduced me to her boyfriends friend on a night out.
We started dating for a year.
My friend was always texting him and it made him feel uncomfortable and he said he thought she fancied him.
Anyway my boyfriend cheated on me with a woman and dumped me for her.(this was in jan)
A week later my friend added her on Facebook and I noticed this girl commenting on her posts.
I asked her about it and she said
"Oh yeah I met her last week,we are close friends,she's gorgeous,you can understand why his eyes wandered"
So I said "ok so why did you add her to Facebook when you've met her once,and he cheated on me with her"
She replied .."these things happen,he is happy now,she wants to organise a night out"
Fast forward a month later she is on the phone to me and says
"Oh I seen (guys name ) at the retail park today,he was asking how everyone was,he didn't mention you tho"
Aibu to think this is a bit nasty ?

That is certainly no friend at all.

Get shut of her quickly x

She isn’t your friend. Sorry.

Yeah I'd dump a friend for that. She could have just said nothing. It spinds a bit spiteful

Sounds

Not a friend, total bitch. Not for befriending the new girlfriend but for everything she’s said to you. Don’t subject yourself to people like this, step away with your dignity

She isn’t much of a friend.

Very nasty.
Doesn't like you.
Wants to hurt you.

Avoid.

Sorry OP.

Oh yeah I met her last week,we are close friends,she's gorgeous,you can understand why his eyes wandered

Yeah, so she's horribly unlikeable.

OP, you deserve better and I truly mean that. He cheated on you because of his own issues, NOT because someone turned his head or really anything to do with you - I'm sure you're great. She's no friend, yuck - ditch her if you can.

She’s a right bitch, isn’t she???? It’s not just about who she’s friends with, it’s what she’s said to you!!!
You really really don’t need to spend time with people who are so nasty to you.

Time for a new friend. Definitely lose her.

She's said some insensitive stuff, definitely. But he's her boyfriends friend so to refuse to be friends with her would cause trouble in her own relationship or her boyfriends friendship.

I think you're unreasonable to expect her not to be friends with her, but not unreasonable to expect her to be a bit more sensitive about it.

Could she maybe think it wasn't as serious as it was to you?

No genuine friend would say the things she has said. She sounds spiteful and immature. I would cut ties with her if I were you.

I would probably try and make excuses but I know what she's like.
The year before I was seeing this guy and we met her and her friend in a club.
She pushed me out the way and started to attempt to dance with the guy I was seeing.
It's so strange

She's not your friend

It's not strange at all.

She's a cow.

I said to her how I felt and that I didn't think it was right.
She then went on to tell one of her friends "mel has gone psycho since he dumped her,I knew what she would do"
I haven't actually done anything.

Why are you even in contact with her?

She fancies the bloke! She’s probably bigging you up to this new woman to make her feel jealous..

She’s a twat.

Not a very kind person, and you don't really need that sort of 'friend' in your life... she clearly wants to make you feel like shit.

Whilst I can understand someone not wanting to pick sides in a relationship break up (and I wouldn't blame her if she remained friends with him) I do think the comments she makes to you seem particular uncalled for, to the point that she is being nasty.

Either you stop hanging around her (my choice) or you keep off the subject of your ex and his life

She’s being a bitch and she’s not your friend.

@Cheeseandwin5 well that's the thing.
She constantly brings him into conversation or she's tagging his new gf on Facebook on posts etc
It's so weird.

Ouch! I clicked on the thread thinking this is just an ex who has moved on and is allowed to have friends. But this is so much more than that. Your friend’s attitude about the whole thing is horrible. She seems to be really enjoying herself in trying to hurt you.

She’s not a friend; I actually think she sounds like she’s deliberately hurting you at times. I would drop her and move on.