To ask what your most mortifying break up story is?

[Betty94]

Good evening all,

I was just randomly thinking about this and was wondering what other good stories other mumnetters have and if they can top my break up story with my ex because it was really something :

When I was twenty one I had been seeing this guy for three years and for the last year I had been trying to break up with him but every-time I did he would just cry and beg for me back and being young and silly I'd take him back each time, in that time I became mentally unwell (probably from the strain on the relationship) and went on holiday with my grandma, I'm not proud of this but I broke up with him via text on the first day of my holiday as I genuinely thought that was my only way out so I did it as gentle as you can via text and then blocked him on everything as I knew he'd just bombard me. A week passes and I go home, I get home on a Saturday night and go out to the pub with some friends (ah pre covid memories) and I got a text from my dad (was still living at home) saying "your ex is in your bedroom" ffs, I was only around the corner and I was afraid he might come to the pub if I don't go so I went home to tell him to leave, he was sat on my bed with my two foster kittens so I sat on the computer chair at the opposite end of the room asking him to leave, he came over and got on one knee (oh no) and read out a script of how much he loved me etc and whilst he was doing this the foster kittens kept jumping off and on his knee which was amusing but then he got out a ring ( I didn't even look at it) and closed the box and said no, he then fainted! He fainted on my bedroom floor because I said no so I had to call my dad in and my dad drove him home in my ex's car and I had to follow in my car to bring my dad back home (luckily I didn't have any alcohol at the pub) then for a few weeks after that his mum would bombard me with texts (70 odd in one day) telling me to get back with him and he would bombard my dad with texts telling him to tell me to get back with him

Eeeee haha anyone got any good break up stories? Please

What media outlet do you work for?

What happened to the kittens?

@CatEatCatWorld

What happened to the kittens?

They went to the rescuers daughter here's a picture of them, they must be about five now, as far as I'm aware she still has them, they were brother and sister and was so mischievous

That story is not as funny as you think it is

@Lovebuffy

That story is not as funny as you think it is

Okay fair enough, I'm sorry if it offended anyone, it was just a mortifying break up situation which at the time of course wasn't funny but looking back it was all a bit silly and I was wondering if people have any bad break up stories that looking back was mortifying but now is just silly but that's fine, if it's not something people want to speak about then again I apologise for my bad judgement.

Someone broke up with me when I was on holiday! This was pre mobiles, I’d rang him once or twice from the pay phone but one day his mum said he was out, then same the next time and the next time.... I didn’t hear from him again and didn’t see him out and about for ages after. Was probably one of the first confirmed cases of ghosting

Oh and another guy rang me to say he was just leaving home to drive to mine, I was cooking dinner - he never arrived. Never contacted me again.
I know he wasn’t dead because he appeared on social media about 5 years later.

Not particularly mortifying but not the best times for me!

Why did your dad let him in your bedroom?

@Diverseduvet

Why did your dad let him in your bedroom?

My dad is a bit of a soft touch unfortunately that doesn't like confrontation or upsetting people, he knew I was only around the corner so said he could wait for me, the next day he was like "I should have really told him you were out and weren't back until tomorrow" but I suppose he would have only come back the next day so at least it was laid to rest that night (apart from the texts) same when he was messaging my dad, my dad would message him back to say he'll talk to me about it instead of just either ignoring them or explaining it's not really his place to get involved which I think encouraged more texts.

@OhTheRoses

Were mortifying but now are silly.

Your story isn't as bad as your grammar.

I know, my grammar is really bad. I'm on my phone, I don't try to write professionally - hopefully that proves I'm not a journalist for a media outlet .

This story sounds similar to something I experienced back at uni days. I was dating a guy and it was his birthday, so we all surprised him and he started to cry because he got so emotional and I was such a emotionless person back then I just thought it was weird that the guy I'm dating who is 7 years older than me started crying in front of all my friends who were early 20's. I was mortified. I tried splitting up with him many times but he kept on begging me back and hugging me and I just felt sorry for him. I did split up from him eventually but again similar to you op, I was bombarded by his parents constantly sending me messages saying please take him back, he is going to propose to you which made me even more sick of the thought of ever being with him let alone being married to him, I was only 21! I felt really sorry for him but he just didn't give up and kept on crossing the line and I just felt really uncomfortable.

Good grief why is everyone being so unpleasant to @Betty94
Not funny, poor grammar.

@Betty94 are you sure we didn't date the same guy 😂

Why are people being so sneery?

My worst was going out on a THIRD date with a bloke where his girlfriend arrived into the pub we were in, it became clear that he hadn't broken up with her 😬. They argued and he actually squared up to her as though she was a bloke, I got up and left obviously. He chased me down the road and begged me not to go, when I insisted on leaving he told me he loved me. Remember this was our third date.

I used to see him about afterwards and hide!

OhTheRoses

You are incredibly rude. Would you like someone to speak to you like that?

No idea why other people have got offended by your story, I thought it was hilarious

I must have the same sense of humour as you as I found that pretty funny. It was a while ago and I bet at the time it was awful but looking back obviously makes you cringe and laugh!!!

[quote onIRNBRU]@Betty94 are you sure we didn't date the same guy 😂[/quote]
Oh gosh could you imagine , I thought his mum messaging me was a bit bizarre as that had never happened before and my parents would never do that but maybe it's more common than I think. I also don't understand why when you break up with someone they think purposing will make you change your mind, do you think movies have caused this? Like the whole last minute airport dash to save love?

@HmmSureJan

Why are people being so sneery?

My worst was going out on a THIRD date with a bloke where his girlfriend arrived into the pub we were in, it became clear that he hadn't broken up with her 😬. They argued and he actually squared up to her as though she was a bloke, I got up and left obviously. He chased me down the road and begged me not to go, when I insisted on leaving he told me he loved me. Remember this was our third date.

I used to see him about afterwards and hide!

This is what I posted for! Haha that's insane especially for a third date - was it all completely normal on the first and second or were they any red flags? I bet that was a shock though.

I have a really similar story about "first love". Looking back he was unbelievably manipulative and controlling, went out from ages 16 - 18, he hated me meeting friends, I wasn't allowed to go anywhere or do anything, he was so dependent on me and wanted to be with me when I wasn't working or at sixth form. he also told me if I ever left him he'd kill himself. To prove this he self harmed one night when at mine. This was almost 20 years ago, when MH conditions weren't as understood, but even so I was 18 and I felt I was too young to be tied into that kind of intense and scary relationship. So I broke up with him, after a lot of soul searching (and mum reassuring me that he won't kill himself and if he did it wouldn't be my fault).

He basically stalked me for six months after that. Did some awful things - bombarded me with about 100 texts a day (these were the days before you could block people's number). Would stand outside my window all night crying and begging me to come back to him. Followed me to work and school. And, as collateral he'd secretly filmed us having sex and threatened to put it online if I didn't get back with him (although it wasn't a crime back then the police got involved and had words, made him hand over the tape which they destroyed).

I felt bad and pandered to him throughout this - until his mum rang me one day to say he was sitting in A&E as he'd taken an overdose of paracetamol. I asked how many he'd taken - she said eight. EIGHT FFS. I said "Susan, I take 8 when I have a headache" hung up and texted him to say leave me alone from now on.

He gradually did, I changed my number anyway and my mum practically went out armed with a rolling pin whenever he came round after that.

He's still alive, and a teacher would you believe.

Sorry not the lighthearted post you were maybe expecting!

Do you need to have been drinking to find it funny? It just seems sad to me.

I thought it was funny, especially the bit where your dad drove him home in his car and you followed behind 😄

@warriorsmain

I must have the same sense of humour as you as I found that pretty funny. It was a while ago and I bet at the time it was awful but looking back obviously makes you cringe and laugh!!!

That's exactly how I see it, only my husband and friend (and strangers on mumsnet) know as I appreciate it's quite embarrassing for my ex and probably not one of his favourite memories, at the time I was really upset but it was five years ago and I was just thinking back after reading a buzzfeed article (I don't work for buzzfeed by the way ) and it was just cringe to think about how silly it all was - I didn't mean to offend anyone by it! Glad some people are seeing the funny side and sharing their stories, I guess like you say we all have different senses of humour

Lol nothing to add myself but in the name of balance OP that made me chuckle :)

That's quite funny although I can imagine how mortifying it was at the time.

I once dated a slightly older guy I think I was around 15ish and he would've been 17-18. He declared his love for me after a week of dating and seeing me maybe twice in his life. Within that week he also turned up outside my house unannounced and called me to come out and proceeded to gift me with with this tiny teddy and a love letter, declaring his love again. I lasted another week and said its just not working out and he apparently went into a "downward spiral" and acted like I just ended a 2 year relationship. The whole thing makes me cringe.

Another guy who I basically let guilt me into a relationship by making me feel bad for him all the time ended up trying to make me jealous after I broke up with him when he somehow bamboozled me to "stay friends" then started telling me he how he was seeing a FWB to regain his confidence in the bedroom since the split little did he know I was thrilled and hoped he'd leave me alone.