Concerned over being questioned about something by sons school.

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Hi all, was asked to stay and speak to assistant head at DC’s school this afternoon.

She told me that DS aged 10 (who has autism) told a TA he is allowed to stay up all night gaming.

Nothing of the sort happens 🤣 I’m not even going to explain myself here as it’s simply not true.
I’m not sure why he said it. Sometimes before bed we say come on it’s getting late time for bed which he may make him think it’s late - he isn’t great at telling the time.

I explained to her that DS loves gaming (which I’m sure is really common for a 10 year old) but no way he stays up all night. He goes to bed at 7 to watch tv and is often asleep by 9-10pm (he does struggle to nod off). He doesn’t have any means of gaming in his room. We don’t own a console. He has a computer downstairs which he plays on after school and after tea before bed etc.

She said she had to ask but aibu to think it was an unnecessary question? It’s pretty damn obvious DS that DS isn’t up all night because he’d be really tired at school which he isn’t 🤣 also he’s always been at the same school and I’d like to think they wouldn’t think I’d let him do that!! Do they think I’m a terrible parent? Do they believe my explanation?!

Will this go on some kind of record?! Will they take it further?

I have nothing to hide but it seems like something DS has probably said out of context has been take the wrong way!

Advice??

I'm sure that if a friend said that this had happened to her, you'd tell her it's far better to ask the question and be wrong than ignore things but be right. Teachers will be used to children's tall tales but they still have to ask, just in case. It'll be a closed book now so give it no more thought and enjoy your weekend (as much as we can at the moment!).

It's fine honestly, chill.

If it helps, when one of my DC was young and was going through an "inventive" phase, I proposed a deal to her nursery. " If you don't believe everything she tells you about us, I won't believe everything she tells me about you." 😂

She said she had to ask but aibu to think it was an unnecessary question?
Yes, YABU.
Staff have to follow up ANY disclosure.

There are currently (or over the last 15 years) been so many historic investigations into all sorts of abuse, because decades ago children weren't believed when they disclosed things. Safeguarding training now means you always listen to what a child is telling you, and make a judgement aft some follow up.
In your case - having known you and your ds for 6 years - they have decided, on balance, there isn't an issue, but they were right to follow up any disclosure.

My DS told his teacher that he plays fort nite til midnight and also had his own YouTube channel 😂😂😂 yeah right.

Lougle- kids are legally allowed to drink alcohol at home over age 5.
So actually school shouldnt be asking about that really. (Not sensible though obviously ).

Bear in mind that kids can read too so for eg my 8yo was reading up in the encyclopaedia on human reproduction. Was talking knowing about Santa despite being in lockdown

@Keepdistance the school weren't asking me, they were telling me. DD1 can get stories muddled.