Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Can a self isolating child see both parents if living at different addresses?

28 replies

daisychains8 · 13/11/2020 16:27

Hello,
Can anyone link an official document which clarifies this?
DS's year group was sent home from school today due to someone in the year group testing positive for COVID. The year group have been told to self isolate for 14 days. His Dad has said that this absolutely means that he will not be able to see him for those 2 weeks.( We are divorced and Dad lives at a different address).
Is this correct?
Thank you.

OP posts:
Meepmeeep · 13/11/2020 16:28

I think the clue is in the word ‘isolating.’ There are no exceptions for people isolating.

Nat6999 · 13/11/2020 16:29

Strictly if they are travelling by private car they could but if your ex doesn't want to risk the chance then you will have to accept it.

leopardspotsdotdotdot · 13/11/2020 16:34

They can go between households.

IceFrost · 13/11/2020 16:37

No he can’t leave if he is isolating.

unicornparty · 13/11/2020 16:40

parissmith.co.uk/blog/guidance-for-child-arrangements-during-self-isolation/

This mentions it but is not really clear.
Is contact court ordered op?

unicornparty · 13/11/2020 16:45

Don't know why my posts aren't working.

The article says a child visiting a parent they don't live with isn't listed as a reason to break isolation rules. If its court ordered contact then they suggest to seek specialist advice.

daisychains8 · 13/11/2020 16:53

Thank you all. The school have said 'yes' . But others 'no'.
The advice seems quite ambiguous.

OP posts:
daisychains8 · 13/11/2020 16:55

Unicorn party- aren't those the French guidelines??

OP posts:
Winterwoo · 13/11/2020 16:58

I think you probably can move households. But if it was me I wouldn’t have my step kids here if they were isolating and wouldn’t send my son to his dads if he was isolating either. It doesn’t make sense to expose two families.

TheDowagerDuchess · 13/11/2020 16:59

I’m told yes as long as they go by private car or walk on a route you know will be isolated.

As long as they don’t come into contact with anyone else outside the family I guess!

TheDowagerDuchess · 13/11/2020 17:00

The article says a child visiting a parent they don't live with isn't listed as a reason to break isolation rules. If its court ordered contact then they suggest to seek specialist advice.

^^
Children often live with both parents though.

TheDowagerDuchess · 13/11/2020 17:01

Dad doesn’t sound great from your OP so sympathies!

EvilPea · 13/11/2020 17:04

I thought they covered this in the first lockdown and it was a yes they can travel between households (although as a lot of these things, common sense would tell you otherwise).
Some parents were concerned it would be used against other parents maliciously.

But I will admit the rules have changed so many times I wouldn’t put money on it!!

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 13/11/2020 17:15

The first lockdown did say that children could move between parents. But they didn't say that children who were isolating could move between parents.

I don't know what the rules are and I don't actually care. If you are isolating, you are isolating and you stay in one house. Why on earth would anyone spread the risk like that by moving between households?

I have been in this situation. My stepson stayed with his mum, who is down as his primary carer.

unicornparty · 13/11/2020 17:19

It says the same in the parliament uk document but I'm still not sure it's clear. What is the definition of living with a parent? You could argue that the child is living with both parents.
Although whatever the actual rules are you must agree it makes more sense for the child to stay in one house to reduce the spread of the virus.

Looneytune253 · 13/11/2020 17:19

I know where you're coming from and I'm not quite sure what the official line is but I do think your DS should stay with you. What would be the point of exposing 2 households to it. If everyone really wanted to tho it would be acceptable but if it can be avoided I think that's the common sense thing to do

MoreDrunkThanBlessed · 13/11/2020 17:35

When my DSC had to isolate they didn’t come to our house. Likewise if one of us had to isolate we wouldn’t have them come to our house. Isolation is to keep contact with others to a minimum.

CressidaTheHeathen · 13/11/2020 17:50

I thought it was permissible but according to CAFCASS, apparently not...

If your child – or someone in their household – has contracted the Covid-19 virus or they are displaying any the symptoms listed on the Government health advice pages, they should be self-isolating and should not be transferring between households. This is in line with the Government advice for households with possible Covid-19 infection.

I appreciate DC has no symptoms but the close contact rules probably apply in the same circumstances.

DD didn’t see her dad when SI, but his partner is vulnerable.

RoomOfRequirement · 13/11/2020 17:54

Absolutely not. The point is not to spread the virus if he is asymptomatic. If he goes to a different household he's spreading the virus.

MojoJojo71 · 13/11/2020 18:52

DD still went to her dad’s for contact as usual when she was self isolating after a classmate tested positive. As far as we were concerned she has 2 homes, she travelled with her dad in his car and didn’t leave the house while she was there. If she’d become symptomatic then her dad, step mum and I would have all self isolated as necessary.

GlowingOrb · 13/11/2020 18:58

I have no idea on the legal standard, but logically, I would think the child should stay at whichever house they were at when the edict happened. So if it has been his dad’s day to pick up from school, he would stay with dad for 2 weeks, regardless of visitation, or if mom was picking up stay with her.

J1112 · 13/11/2020 18:59

I think the person isolating should remain at their primary address. Imagine if your child caught covid and was asymptomatic or incubating the virus before symptoms showed up ... if he travelled between parents both you and your ex could get it plus people you both come
Into contact with. The point of isolation is to stop it spreading around so much so yeah keep him in one address!

emilyfrost · 13/11/2020 19:00

No. If you are isolating, you cannot leave the house for any reason; no exceptions.

BeyondsConstantBangingHeadache · 13/11/2020 19:05

I think it depends, it's not a simple yes/no

Say scenario 1: child is isolating, all parents work from home, private car. Then I'd say it was okay, so long as the isolation happened as one extended household.

Scenario 2 where the child's NRP works WOH using public transport, and the RP WFH, I'd say the entire isolation period would be easiest at the RP's house - as there will be no accidental spread to NRP's workplace or bus/train

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.