Why on earth do people post details of their kids parents evenings on social media??

[Letsgetgoing888]

3 separate friends in the last couple of days....

“Well done to my amazing little Jonny who is absolutely smashing it at school and his teacher has already said he is a child genius....”

Well not exactly that but you get the drift.

Just why?

No idea.

Because they're proud? Because they want to share? Because they want to? A million reasons, best to just scroll on by if it's bothersome or use the "hide posts from..." function. Comparison is the thief of joy and all that.

Validation of their parenting skills

Needing everyone to know how fabulous their children are. Subtext: they are better than your kids/I’m insecure about my parenting/we are considerably better than you

On the very odd occasion it’s just that they have nobody else to tell and want to share the news with someone. I have a single mum friend who really misses being able to discuss things like this with so I always give her a like when she posts about sports day or parents evening etc . But that’s the exception not the rule

Because they feel it reflects well on their parenting abilities and they are proud of their children and want other people to share in that.
I’ve never done it myself but I had to have a strong word with myself to resist putting the 2 brilliant certificates my ds got in his first half term of high school.

Because they are embarrassing twats

No idea but there must be some pathology there. Dreadful parenting behaviour.

I think the sun signes out of my daughter's arse. I'd post about her achievements. But my FB account only has close friends and family. You know what though? So what? It's miles better to be that kind of parent than one that just doesn't give a shit.

Ime it's so friends can smile at the real meaning of the phrases the teachers us, and wonder if they really are so niave that they don't realise it was really a negative.
Tbf I have a very small sample on fb to study though.

I'm still waiting to read the real ones:
Teacher said Jonny has difficulty concentrating, must stop talking to and distracting friends and must try harder!

It’s the ones written to the child that gets me. I’m ok with people who say ‘so proud of ...’ but the posts to tiny children who don’t have Facebook, will never see the post - those make me feel a bit cringe. If you are proud of your child then that’s perfectly acceptable to say, you don’t have to go round the houses like this.

I sent DSs report card to my teacher friend so that she could tell me what it really means.

My husband thought “boylamb is starting to make good choices in his behaviour” was a positive: I am certain he must have been up to the capers at the beginning of term from Reading that

@Cuddling57

I'm still waiting to read the real ones: Teacher said Jonny has difficulty concentrating, must stop talking to and distracting friends and must try harder!

Do they ever say anything negative, especially at primary? I’m sure reports and parents evenings were far more brutal in my day!

It just makes them feel better. Projecting a perfect life to the world. Lady round the corner did just this last week about the parents evening thing. She is always putting facebook posts about her perfect life and perfect kids yet atleast weekly she passes my house to go home screaming at them with the kids crying or having a paddy. It makes her feel better so I'd never say anything. Just amuses me.

Ugh. I know someone who received a private email from her child’s teacher saying how she had been working hard and being kind to her friends. So Mum of course shared it on Facebook complete with photos of the child getting her ‘reward’ day out. Mum got so many comments gushing about how amazing her child is and how wonderful she must be as a parent. I guess Facebook affirmations are addictive and so she felt that urge to share it publicly. I don’t do it myself. My dd has recently won a couple of awards (she normally flies under the radar) but I wouldn’t dream of plastering it over FB. It’s dd’s achievement not mine!

Beats me why anybody puts their children on Facebook (other than private albums).

Why does anyone put anything on Facebook to be honest

Well why post anything ion social media. It’s all pretty inane and useless isn’t it?

Cringe.

OMG! Do people really do this?! 🙄

@JamaicanJamboree

Yes!

And loads of people comment “wow you’re such an amazing parent!” Etc etc.

I find it really cringey, but obviously others don’t? Or they do but they comment anyway!

Or maybe I’m just miserable! 🤣

Makes me cringe so much. So boastful!

I do.

Why? Because I am proud of my kids and I want to shout about it. I have lots of family and friends on my Facebook that care, as I do about their kids. If there's any that done care or think it's cringe, they can unfriend me.

Why do people post photos of their pets, what they have for dinner, their kids nappies, the piece of toast in the shape of an ailen? Isn't that what social media is for?

Curls my toes every time. I’ve never done it, o can congratulate my children face to face (they don’t have Facebook so the messages to the child are attention seeking cringery) I hate it

Insecurity.
True fantastic parents would never need to look to others for validation. They wouldn't give a toss what anyone else thought about their child.
They are sending out a destructive message to their child that what other people think of them is of vital importance. This can often lead down the road of anxiety and depression if we don't feel we meet the high standard set for us.