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To sign up at the surgery as ‘Dr’

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Chocolatebutton43 · 11/11/2020 20:11

I got my PhD two months ago, moved to a new place and signed up to a new doctor’s surgery and dental practice.

Filling in the forms, I got a bit carried away with my new title and ticked the ‘dr’ box! I’ve been doing it a lot lately for silly little things partly ‘cause I’m just happy to have finished and passed my degree and also because I relish that I am no longer defined by my marital status.

But, I now need to visit the surgery and I feel like an idiot. The form also had occupation so the doctor will know I’m not a medical doctor. Is he/she going to think I am a total prat for using Dr outside my work and at the doctor’s surgery of all places? Cringe Blush

OP posts:
Defaultuser · 12/11/2020 19:29

You've inspired me OP - today I changed my title at my bank. Felt like a twat but you have to have something to show for all the hard work! Grin

Janegrey333 · 12/11/2020 19:29

Why university do you work at again??

Translate?

NerrSnerr · 12/11/2020 19:32

@Janegrey333

Why university do you work at again??

Translate?

It's clearly a typo. Are you honestly saying you don't know what she was asking?
BobbinThreadbare123 · 12/11/2020 19:33

There's no twattery in using your hard-earned title! Some of my favourite moments have been irritating men by being Dr Grin
"Oh, I thought you'd be a man"
Gutted, pal.

sabbii · 12/11/2020 19:36

I have Dr in my title, paperwork, correspondence, I earned it and I do not feel the need to explain to anyone why I do not have a medical degree. I never to myself as Dr unless someone asks

SueEllenMishke · 12/11/2020 19:37

Why university do you work at again??

Translate?

Of course this is a typo....I'm tired from not bothering to teach my students and awarding them degrees just for turning up.

I'm sure you can work out what I was asking.

Janegrey333 · 12/11/2020 19:39

@SueEllenMishke

Not the case.

Even kids nowadays, looking at past papers in their A Level subjects, know - and acknowledge - that papers in the “olden days” were much more challenging. Subjects that are completely based on examinations are obviously going to be much more scary for little snowflakes.

This same situation is replicated at universities in the present time. Furthermore it’s been apparent for years.

People who are not being disingenuous and putting a positive spin on this, accept it. They have no choice. It is the way things are in the current system.

Why university do you work at again??
Degrees are not given away like toffee apples and universities do have policies and procedures in place for assessment and awards. In fact there is an entire department responsible for this at every university.

My view is that education has been dumbed down. If the dumbing down starts at school level, then obviously that is going to have an effect on what goes on at university level.

If an adjustment was not made, then the numbers of students getting decent degrees - or indeed any degree - would go into free fall. Fact. Universities have had to adjust to the raw material with which they are faced.

My experience of university was at one of the Ancients.

Janegrey333 · 12/11/2020 19:40

@SueEllenMishke

Why university do you work at again??

Translate?

Of course this is a typo....I'm tired from not bothering to teach my students and awarding them degrees just for turning up.

I'm sure you can work out what I was asking.

Why did you ask which university I “ worked at”? That was odd.
Janegrey333 · 12/11/2020 19:42

I made my views clear very early on the thread, incidentally.

deedeegee · 12/11/2020 19:42

You earned the title- use it!
I didn’t and was prevented from doing so when I joined the Civil Service in 1989! Now divorced I’m using it more!! After all it represents 7 years of study post school in Scotland... actually more than medical doctors who are MBChBs not doctors, actually!!

CheetasOnFajitas · 12/11/2020 19:45

Stop being obtuse @Janegrey333.

CannibalQueen · 12/11/2020 19:48

I once got bored with sale mail and ticked Lady. Now I occasionally get letters addressed to Lady blah-blah. I just think it's fun.

Janegrey333 · 12/11/2020 19:48

@Janegrey333

I made my views clear very early on the thread, incidentally.
Correction:

Halfway through, actually.

Janegrey333 · 12/11/2020 19:49

@CannibalQueen

I once got bored with sale mail and ticked Lady. Now I occasionally get letters addressed to Lady blah-blah. I just think it's fun.
What a brilliant idea!
SueEllenMishke · 12/11/2020 19:49

Why did you ask which university I “ worked at”?
That was odd.

I was being a little sarky .... I find quite a lot of what you said insulting and it's pushed my buttons.

You are making sweeping generalisations about the higher education system while quite clearly knowing very little about the subject.

Attending an 'ancient' does not make you an expert on higher education.
Yes quality will vary across the sector and some universities are better than others (no one would argue against that) but no university just gives their degrees away and it's insulting to graduates and universities to suggest that happens.

There is a trend in mn to only value elite and RG universities but this ignores the vital role less regarded institutions play in the sector especially when it comes to social mobility.

Janegrey333 · 12/11/2020 19:53

Yes quality will vary across the sector and some universities are better than others (no one would argue against that)...

So glad to see you admit that much, at least. Au contraire, some would do that very thing. It’s all a bit tedious.

SomewhereEast · 12/11/2020 20:03

I'm a Dr, but don't use it in day to day life. I'm always worried someone will think I'm a medical doctor and start asking me about their mum's dodgy hip or something Grin.

Localocal · 12/11/2020 20:07

Rock that title, girl! You earned it!

Yespresh · 12/11/2020 20:08

Be proud of your achievement. You ARE a doctor.

Ddot · 12/11/2020 20:12

Good for you Dr Chocolatebutton43

Ddot · 12/11/2020 20:19

Wow I find it rather disturbing, some posts are so bitter! BE NICE she deserves it.

Nelbert19 · 12/11/2020 20:24

Congratulations on your phd! I’m a medical doctor and would absolutely not think you were being cringey by using the title that you earnt! If your GP does ask what sort of doctor you are, it’s not because they think you’re being hoity toity, they’ll just want to know if they should speak in medicalese or not!

Well done again, it’s a huge achievement

Beachhappy · 12/11/2020 20:26

Congratulations on your PhD, you’ve earned the title Dr, you go for it! If anything it will be a conversation starter!.

pollymere · 12/11/2020 20:29

Er? It's your title! You're not claiming MD. They might ask what it's in and if it's Literature so be it. If it's something sciency then they might ask what you did.

murakamilove · 12/11/2020 20:31

I would imagine most people in your position would do the same. Well done - that’s awesome! 🙌🏾