Has anybody had inappropriate pm’s on mumsnet?

[Tinyandpetite]

I’ve never checked my m’s partly, partly because I never thought I’d get any. I saw today where they were - and this was from March this year. I didn’t realize people were looking for hookups on mumsnet. Has anybody else experienced this?

Thank you!

Goddamn it. I raced off to check my private messages for any porno messages (desperate times!) and the attached is the extent of what I got.

Talk about anticlimax.

No male members 😂 but I was one of many posters on the handmaids tale thread who got sent spoilers for the tv show via a PM. Was very bizarre

@Tinyandpetite

Saw me today I’d be referred too as ‘rough-as-fuck’

That would also be likely to get propositions

@davekim

Yes I have had several. I put it down to commenting in the second forum. (I name change frequently so it can't be that). In the end, I turned off DM.

What’s the ‘second forum’?

@Butchyrestingface you should report that one to MNHQ- they take a dim view of journos pming posters to get their stories.

@notangelinajolie

I only get as far as number 1. But if you open them here are steps 2 & 3.

1. Don't read PMS
2. If you do feel the need to read - ignore.
3. And if you can't ignore - report the buggers.

And now I have 10 PMs So predictable

Rule 1. Don't read PMs

@DressingGownofDoom

It's because of your username. Get one like mine that screams 'I won't nurse you when you're sick you big useless bastard' and they won't bother you.

😂

@Davekim What's the second forum?

I have had, in a different life, PM's where a poster took issue with me because they did not agree with my views. I even had one where a poster wanted to talk about other posters. I just cut and those PM's to the thread directly.

No messages, appropriate or otherwise in my inbox of late despite me being a voluptuous blonde and a true sex symbol. Maybe I need a name change.

ArbuckleFatty?
BurlyChassis (that famous singer?)
Michaela Strapon (that television presenter who loves animals?)

Sometimes I enjoy reading the names on here more than the posts.

I had one where I'd been on a thread discussing kid's clothes and some freak PMd me asking me for more details about my child's clothing.

I got the same one as @Butchyrestingface.

I also got a very overly friendly and persistent male poster messaging a few times. He only stopped when I shamed him on a thread.

You shouldn’t have to name change though. We should never have to alter our behaviours so we’re not harassed. If men on here do try then name and shame them very loudly and report to mnhq

Please do report any PMs that are inappropriate or journo's etc. to @MNHQ so the can get them dealt with.

I did.
Multiple times. A few years ago now and from a poster whose DW was dying. The threads were long running and well known at the time.
All was reported and it stopped after I told people what he was saying. It was horrible.

@Zoflorabore

I did. Multiple times. A few years ago now and from a poster whose DW was dying. The threads were long running and well known at the time. All was reported and it stopped after I told people what he was saying. It was horrible.

I remember that thread, and some people reporting that he had sent them very inappropriate DMs. It was appalling.

A couple of years ago I was propositioned via PM by an (I assume drunk) woman.

It's the internet, anything goes

I disabled PMs. They just all too often seem like a means to try and insult or bully with impunity.

If anyone has something to say to me they can say it on the public forums or not at all.

Quite the opposite, I have been fortunate, I’ve had several nice messages from interesting people and l like to think l’ve genuinely helped a few people along the way. I did have one from a journalist, it was polite, but l ignored it.

@Aridane stupid autocorrect, I meant sex forum.

Yes, but not that sort of innapropriate!

Had one where a poster was being verbally aggressive and calling me insane, cruel etc for inventing a hairstyle and this was proof that my son doesn’t exist, she also sent me a link to a Reddit thread about the same topic, where a few people pointed out that I hadn’t actually invented a centuries old religious tradition. Erm, said hairstyle is a traditional Kesh that virtually every Sikh boy wears.

I've had messages but they were from randoms looking for money. Not recently. I've not had anyone looking for a fuckbuddy... now I feel left out

I had an awful poster message me because my opinion was not the same as hers . Totally out of the blue. I reported all the messages and bloody Mumsnet said it was "clear I had started the line of messages" but
I had not. Then they saw I had not and apologized to me. Really pissed me off how they could get it wrong though.

I had two earlier this year but both had been withdrawn by the posters. Weird.

It's NOT because of your username it's because someone is a test and thinks it's ok to send. They might have sent it to you because they think they're in wit more of a chance but it isn't because of YOU. I've only had MLM ones

I got one after posting in the sex forum. It's from someone who's a guy and has a suitably wise and zennish username and seems to have non monogamous relationships and a wealth of 'alternative' experiences.
Not quite sure why they ever messaged me, it was patronising and could have been easily said on the sex board where there no holds barred anyway.